The Garden Fence - help and support in tough times

nannywindow

Knitwitch I hope the pineapple upside down cake hit the spot and you feel a little better today

Nursemaggie I will keep my fingers crossed for a good scan result

I have excelled myself doing the housework ( that's a dirty word in my book ) today so I'm going to treat myself to a special coffee and then play on the *Box with DH. I do love a shoot e'm up game where I can take out my frustrations imagining that I'm beating up anyone who has annoyed me lately!
Take care all

ivyleaf

It looks gorgeous outside today - but it's only 3 degrees. The sunshine is so deceptive!

OH has finally gone through the boxes from under the stairs, and we now have 2 empty boxes and a black bag :j not to mention a bag of things for the hospice shop.

monnagran

Enjoy the space Ivyleaf. It's a great feeling when a bit of chaos finally gets sorted. I remember that feeling!

Not much to report from here. I can't see the way forward at the moment. I might as well vent on here, my tongue is quite sore from the amount of biting it has had lately.

We are supposed to be putting the house on the market but it is in turmoil. I have been doing my best to sort things out and tidy things up but they are not my things so there is a limit to what I can do with them. What seems to happen is that I sort through things, put away what I can and what I don't know what to do with I put into a black bag for them to go through. Well, it just doesn't happen and the stuff in the bag then gets thrown around again. I can't bear for anyone to see the house as it is.
DS2 can't seem to see what I am worried about. He says that it is obvious that it is a family home so people won't be expecting a show house.
I know that. I also know that he does his level best to keep things together but my DIL, lovely, kind person that she is, is also the untidiest person under the sun. Add in an equally casual 4 year old with 10 times too many toys and clothes and a 4 month old puppy and you see my problem.

I have tried to talk to them but things got quite heated with my DS2. He is only standing up for his wife but it leaves me with nowhere to go. So at the moment I am leaving everything. Whether or not I ever do get the house on the market we will see. I am certainly not falling out with my family over this, they are too precious, but I feel as though I am hitting my head against a brick wall just now.

Phew! I feel better for having said all that. I would feel disloyal complaining to anyone else but it seems safe here. Thanks for listening.

greenbee

Can you get an estate agent to talk to them Monna? Or even a friend who has sold recently?

I'm guessing there is no option for them to move out before you market the house with just you living in it?

monnagran

Greenbee, it would be very difficult for them but it is a possibility I may suggest. I'm sure it is all possible and will work out in the end, its just that I feel a bit low at the moment.

Softstuff

Hugs Monna. It seems incredibly unfair to you for them not to take the sale of your house a whole lot more seriously. I second the idea of getting the estate agent to have a chat. Unfortunately a lot of buyers can't see past mess. And not every buyer of a house with a few bedrooms is a family or even family friendly. It's just a bit inconsiderate.

greenbee

Do you want me to come round and pretend to be a potential buyer Monna?

And then give feedback that I couldn't see the house properly behind all the stuff

Or maybe point them to the NUMEROUS threads on here about marketing houses.

monnagran

I think they know Greenbee but the effort is killing them. Also none of us really wants to move from this house, it is lovely, but I desperately need my own space, my own life and also I need to release some money to prop up my woeful pension.
So everything is about what I want.
They, on the other hand, will be moving into a much smaller house which will be more expensive for them.

So it will be good for me and much, much worse for them. I can't blame them for not being as enthusiastic as I am.

Softstuff: they are not really being unfair, just human. They are also my family who I adore, so it's all a bit emotional. It will be OK in the end.

x

greenbee

Buy them a lottery ticket Monna. Hopefully they'll win and be able to buy your house from you...

monnagran

Tried that. Didn't work!