The Garden Fence - help and support in tough times

ivyleaf

Good grief Hester, just shows how petty-minded he was!

shanks77

Happy birthday nursemaggie hope you had a lovely day xx
Ivyleaf so sorry for your loss
Monna hope your knitting patterns and machine turn up soon
Hester was a childish thing to do glad you could see the funny side of it
Burtha glad that horrid day is now behind you leaving you free to move on with the rest of your life. Good on you for holding your tongue and keeping your dignity intact
Ginnyknit good luck with your new venture hope it all works out with you.
Hope everyone else is well xx

ArthriticOldThing

Hope you've had a Happy Birthday Nurse Maggie.

monnagran

Ginnyknit: well done on finding an outlet for your crafty things. It's fun but can get a bit hairy when you get a lot of commissions. When my friend lived on the Isle of Harris she had a studio where she ran courses on spinning and dyeing with natural dyes, the way the original Harris tweed was made. Visitors often wanted to buy something small to take home with them so I used to knit egg cosies and tea cosies, some sheep and some highland cattle. They sold like hot cakes and i must have knitted hundreds over the years. I was quite relieved when she left the Outer Hebrides , it was all getting a bit much.

Hester: Hell hath no fury like an ex scorned. I have left loads behind but it's only stuff, it won't love me back.

x

nursemaggie

Hester sounds like mine only he kept nicking important documents which when we had bought replacements he gave back.

I refuse to spend the money on divorcing him so if he wants one he will have to come cap in hand for the marriage lines. Once he finds me that is.

Ginny I hope you do well with your commissions.

ivyleaf

monnagran I love the idea of knitted Highland cattle

moneyistooshorttomention

NurseMaggie

That thought had never occurred to me re finding an ex-spouse in order to divorce them. I've never been divorced (would have had to get married in the first place after all:rotfl:) - but I think I recall stuff from a Sociology "O" Level I took it into my head to do out of interest many years back now re divorce. To effect of so many years (3 I think?) with consent from the other partner and so many years (5 I think??) with a non-consenting partner.

It wasnt spelt out to us the circumstances in which someone would be deemed to have "not consented" and therefore it would be the longer period. I think we just got the general idea that that would be if someone had married a Catholic and they were sticking to the "no divorce" rule that was prevalent then (might still be now??). Don't know whether your ex would actually have to find you or no in order to get divorced - once that longer period of time had elapsed??

Isn't there also some sort of "missing - presumed dead" scenario whereby someone can get a divorce from a former partner even if they cant find them?

HESTER
That was petty indeed to damage your ornaments like that - I think that showed remarkable self-control to just laugh about it. Personally - he'd probably have found them in bits thrown at his house wall. I don't think those ornaments are cheap? - as a friend of mine used to collect them...

nursemaggie

Actually it is easy to find someone who has not gone to any effort to hide themselves. I have not changed my name. We have moved 4 times in 7 years but if you want to keep on drawing your pension you have to keep telling the DWP where you are. This is how anyone finds you. They ask the DWP to forward a letter.

It's 2 years with mutual consent and five without. I think it can take up to 7 years if one party fights it. What is the point after 5 years living separately.

Missing presumed dead is a much more complicated thing. That is when absolutely everyone who know the person has had no contact for many years.

lillibet_dripping

ivyleaf wrote: »

monnagran I love the idea of knitted Highland cattle

We always call them 'woolly bullies' - now they can be woolly woolly bullies:D

edinburgher

ivyleaf wrote: »

monnagran I love the idea of knitted Highland cattle

Me too - would love one for DD!