The Garden Fence - help and support in tough times

candygirl

Sending massive (((huggles))) to you MONNA .I've recently returned to the daily thread n had wondered where you were I can't give any advice on living with anyone, as after two marriages, n a few relationships I think i'm allergic to it Hope things get a bit easier hun xx

candlelight_2013

nursemaggie, I hope the move went well and that you are not too exhausted.

I hope you will soon be settled and feel comfortable in your new home.

Best wishes

Candlelightx

camelot1001

Monnogran, I can only offer hug and lots of love to you and second (or third) what everyone else has said.

You are grieving for the loss of your friend and the home and life you have left behind. Give yourself time, try to explain how you feel a little at a time, your DS and SIL are used to you being strong and able to cope so probably don't realise how down you feel at the moment.

Please keep posting, just offloading can help, we are all here to listen.

burtha

Monnogran, lots of hugs sent your way, I can only second what has already been said , small steps and one day at a time , I can understand the 'normal service' act ,then the wanting to scream in pure frustration/anger/sadness/emptiness etc etc , keep posting on here ,my post I am sure sometimes will not make sense to others , but it gets me though times when I do not want to bother 'real friends' ,independent and stubborn to the last....
Could you visit friends when your family are on days off work, returning when they are busy at work ? Like the idea about bolt hole to the shed , what about any groups you could go to / help with , may get you out and mixing ,distraction technique may work even for a few hours ,build steps towards your new future...xx
Either that or create small figures that you could stick pins in , after dancing and singing wearing fig leaves around a large fire .....:D

Sanatie is over rated sometimes ...x

Pooky

Monna - just popping in to give you a big squishy hug x

shanks77

Monna feel free to come on and rant anytime. And if you are ever up in the north east of Scotland there is a spare room for you anytime. You would have to wear flippers and a snorkel just now but still welcome whenever xx

silvasava

Monna - just echoing all the love, Hugs and support for you that others have posted. Please feel free to offload any time on here - you are among friends xxxxxx

Softstuff

Monnagran, sorry I hadn't posted sooner, but thinking of you here. There's a spare bedroom with a bare concrete floor and no bed, but puppy snuggles, bites and even the odd leg humping thrown in here in Australia if you want to visit. The bites and humping also being from thr puppy, not from us.

monnagran

Oh, my dear friends - you are beyond wonderful. I just don't know what to say. All your love and understanding has brought me to tears, in fact if I cry much more I think my face will dissolve. Incredible, I'm not the weepy sort but my eyes have been awash since mid-August for one reason or another.
I wish that I could thank you all individually but only one or two things are stuck in my memory.
Elona: Selling the house would mean making my DS2 and his family homeless and they have been here long enough to put down deep roots. Their work, children's schools, friends, and my DS's landscaping business are all settled in this spot. They have done a lot to the house expecting to be here for at least another 7 years and I have no wish to cause anyone the sort of upset that i've been dealing with.
Kittie: your post reminded me that others have had far worse things happen to them. Thank you for that.
Mrs LW: unfortunately the garden is not very large so a shed is out of the question. The garage, apart from housing the freezer and tumble drier is also my son's workshop. He also maintains and repairs agricultural mac hinery and his passion is motor bikes which seems to involve sundry dead bikes being cannibalised for parts. Can't see many possibilities there.
burtha: Ooooh! The pins in wax figures appeals much more than it probably should to a good, upright, rrespectable pensioner. Not sure about the fig leaves though. Do they come in XL sizes?
Softstuff: thank goodness, I wondered what on earth you were suggesting but the puppy love sounds enticing. Bit too far for a quick visit and I don't think my railcard would take me to the delights you describe in Australia. thanks for the offer though

Now I think that is quite enough about me. Let's talk about folk with REAL problems.

How did the move go Nurse maggie? And yes, I know that is not how you write your username. Try telling my tablet that.

x

MrsCD

Monnagran, so sorry to hear about your problems. Sending big hugs your way but wish I could deliver personally. You have been a rock to many folks over the years I have been reading the forums, so I'm sure there will be many people who want to be there for you now.
I will keep you in my prayers and light a candle for you too.

On the practical side, are you still involved with church? Are you able to immerse yourself in a new project? I hope the people at church are rallying around to help and can advise you how to move forward.
Take care, pet. xx