Young adults at home

gettingtheresometime

ringo_24601 wrote: »

It's a good job we're not like other animals or we wouldn't have ipads or space travel!

I don't understand why comparing ourselves and society to other 'lower' species is useful. If you're going to compare, maybe look at similar species such as the Bonobo.

Sorry gettingtheresometime OH, but Bonobo sons and mothers maintain a lifelong bond.

There's a difference between maintaining a bond and having your parent constantly watching you don't make (in their opinion) a mistake.


And you're right humans are so far up the evolutionary tree we've forgotten that we have to share the planet and its resources with other species.

Mojisola

ringo_24601 wrote: »

You spend your 18 years of parenting 'children' making rules and decisions that you think will keep them safe, on the straight and narrow - then I guess over a few years they start to want to do things their own way, without your rules. To push those boundaries like they did in their formative years.

I guess when your kids become adults their needs to be changes. You have to treat them more like a housemate than a child. However, they need to assume the similar responsibilities (Washing up/cleaning/laundry ect)

For a smooth transition to adulthood, children have to start taking on responsibility for themselves all along the way - if they are still strictly following their parents' rules at 18, becoming independent will be very hard and it will be very difficult for the parents not to still treat them as children.

lulu_92

Mojisola wrote: »

For a smooth transition to adulthood, children have to start taking on responsibility for themselves all along the way - if they are still strictly following their parents' rules at 18, becoming independent will be very hard and it will be very difficult for the parents not to still treat them as children.

This was like my ex's family.

He was 23, his brothers were 26 and 16. The brothers were waited on hand and foot because their mum wanted to, yet would complain that the 26 year old didn't have any motivation to do anything. He didn't even know how to use a washing machine :eek::eek: My ex, on the other hand, moved out at 19 and was very self sufficient. It made the relationship with his parents better as they saw him as an equal when he was living back at home between uni semesters.

jediquigley

My parents had no probs with me being out clubbing till 3pm, this was about 10 years ago now. But you have the noisy dogs to contend with, maybe on those late clubbing nights he could stay at a mates??