wife swapping.....

pukkamum

pleasedelete wrote: »

Do you have an HLTA qualification- it is not a L3 TA. You have to be accredited.

It's actually a btec national diploma I have which i've been assured lets me in at TAlevel3

pleasedelete

But a L3 TA is not an HLTA. An HLTA is a specific accreditation
- look it up. To be accredited you need GCSE English and mathematics (or some equivalents but most schools now want GCSE and wont take equivalents) and a minimum of a L3 qualification. You then do the accreditation- which can take some time and has a cost attached.

Some LAs do have non accredited HLTA roles but they pay less and tbh these HLTA roles are usually very completive- here 100 applications is not unusual for a primary HLTA.

suejb2

Hi Pukka,I've got an NNEB a few months back you correctly told me that it is equivalent to level 2 or 3. I contacted C.A.C.H.E (not doubting you) I needed proof for forthcoming interviews,my point is,message them your qualifications may be a higher level T.A.
Regarding you being the bread winner and your O.H being a SAHD you know your family business the best,give it a go,perhaps your O.H can do something school based ,they are now called welfare assistants but I grew up with them as dinner ladies(men) they actively request men to apply as they are under represented in my area.
Like the title of your post.

pukkamum

pleasedelete wrote: »

But a L3 TA is not an HLTA. An HLTA is a specific accreditation
- look it up. To be accredited you need GCSE English and mathematics (or some equivalents but most schools now want GCSE and wont take equivalents) and a minimum of a L3 qualification. You then do the accreditation- which can take some time and has a cost attached.

Some LAs do have non accredited HLTA roles but they pay less and tbh these HLTA roles are usually very completive- here 100 applications is not unusual for a primary HLTA.

It isn't HLTA roles I am looking at though so not sure why you are assuming I am, it's level 3 TA I am looking at and I do have all the G.C.S.E's required you have to have them to get onto a BTEC Higher National diploma course.
When I talked about Higher level TA's I meant higher than the non-qualified TA's think thsats where the confusion set in!

pukkamum

I actually hadn't even considered the HLTA jobs you don't come across them very often in my area but its something I fully intend to look into now.

pukkamum

carmina_piranha wrote: »

We've been talking recently about my husband not being happy at work. My wage is only half yours but I've told my husband we will scrape by if he is truly unhappy. I know he'll find other work, but in the meantime it would be a struggle. He's stressed and demoralised, and I don't want him to be.

ETA: I think the discussion has made him happier, he's looking for other work now but is still in his current job.

Have a look onto minimalist living, there are so many people coming to the conclusion that they don't need a quarter of what they thought they needed to be happy. Google it think you'll find it helpful.

bylromarha

All sounds good in theory. My thoughts:

TA jobs are very hard fought over these days. You will need to show how you've kept up with education if you've been out of it for the past 13 years.

OH and I split childcare when ours were little - mainly because self employed OH had his main revenue cut when the recession hit, so I had to go back to full time work. He was supposed to be doing home learning to add a revenue stream to his business while kids were at school, but it took him over 2 years to do a typical 10 week course. Cleaning was minimal, but dinner was prepped each night. If you have a laid back OH, are you sure he'll motivate himself to do the extra study?

Finances always stayed with me - I'm the one on MSE and the deal lover, not him.

Your little one will probably enjoy having time with dad - I know my 2 got something different from the intensive time with OH than they did from me.

I'm a teacher, and I work for a head who is happy for me to go to watch a Christmas show and assembly, as long as I don't take the mickey. What's important for your kids is for a parent to be there - your OH has probably missed a few in his time, so if you can get time off to go too, think of it as an added bonus that you're both there.

pickledonionspaceraider

pukkamum wrote: »

Knew it would hook a few in.......
Any thoughts, whilst you're here?

hey there,

well it sounds like you and your husband have a great relationship and I like you, am a tad, ahem, controlling on certain things - household budget etc. Theres no reason you couldn't continue to control finances if you were working

My OH often works away and i admit - i like time on my own too

After being a sahm for 13 years, It sounds like a great idea to kick start your own career again and let Dad do some of the house husband stuff for a while. There is no reason he couldnt work part time whilst LO is at school I guess, but then there is childcare in the school hols to sort etc

Dont worry about your OH job prospects as 'raising a family' on a cv is not to be frowned at these days

If i were you, i would jump at the chance to get out there and do something for 'me' I was a SAHM for a couple of years, and i must admit i craved adult company. Having said that we are all different and I generally think you need to do what is right for you,and ou feel comfortable with

esmy

We had a period of role swapping for about 12 months. I was never a SAHM but worked part time, increasing my hours when OH took voluntary redundancy from a much hated job. Our DDs were 5 and 10 at the time.

The positives: the girls loved having Dad at home. He was a more 'laid back' parent than me so they had the best of him during this time, especially as the pressures of his old job had gone. I was also more relaxed as I wasn't having to manage childcare as well as a demanding job, I knew they were happy and well looked after. I came home to my dinner made every night, which I loved!

The negatives: It was hard being the sole 'wage earner', not in terms of family finance because we managed OK, but the reality of being responsible for the whole family income. Housework was done, after a fashion, but only the very basics and not to my (fairly low!) standards. The five year old wore some rather imaginative outfits most days. But these were minor and overall it was good for us all.

He eventually felt he needed to find work again as he became bored at home although he studied with OU during this time so, when he did I dropped hours again and we went back to to how things had been.

System

My husband is a SAHD to our two kids (2 years and 12 weeks). He was miserable in his job and we always said that if we could afford it he would stay at home. He does the majority of the housework, and cooks every night. I do some of the housework as well, but I'd expect that of him if the roles were reversed. I look after the finances just like I always have, and we share childcare in the evenings and weekends (although I'm currently on maternity so things are more 50/50 at the moment). I feel sad that I'm going to miss the odd assembly etc. but that's just the choice we've made for our family and I have to deal with it, like so many dads have for decades! DH is so much happier than he was when he was working. We've talked about him doing some kind of course when the kids are a bit older so he can retrain to do something he really wants to do, rather than his old job which he just fell into, and he'll probably look at getting a new job once the kids are all in secondary school. If you can manage financially on your salary and you're happy working full time, I think it's a great thing to do. Alternatively, you could both always work part-time and each have time to spend with the kids.