wife swapping.....

Mojisola

pukkamum wrote: »

P.s Husband has asked if it's him being at home with all the kids at school that is bothering me and I think it might be, gosh that sounds terrible as he was happy for me to do it.

That really is an issue for you to deal with, not one that should stop him becoming a SAHD.

j.e.j.

You may well find (as many women do) that if you go out to work, you will still have to do the housework, and possibly much if not all of the cooking when you get back home! So you'll effectively be doing 2 jobs and also not get to see your children as often, so you are right to be concerned.

Baby_Angel

When we had our DD we were faced with the same dilemma. Both of us worked full time and shared house work. DH was a chef which time wise didn't suit us in London. We managed in Germany where he took evening shifts. Because I had a less stressful more paid job he decided to stay at home. Then he took some manual night shift jobs because he wanted to. My DD has one parent always at home. Both work full time. I have some flexibility in my work time to occasionly go for those assemblies etc. Otherwise DH manages very well. I take care of finances and DD anything education related. We feel our lives are quite balanced although we don't spend time together every day as a family.

Mrs_Soup

Can you even work full time as a Teaching assistant- after all school is only open about 30 hours a week term time only or are you planning to change career? Also with all children in school do either of you need to be at home all day although if he would do some training or voluntary work (eg in a school) then it could be worth it. Or he could work part time at something else - supermarket maybe they need shift workers.

pukkamum

Mrs_Soup wrote: »

Can you even work full time as a Teaching assistant- after all school is only open about 30 hours a week term time only or are you planning to change career? Also with all children in school do either of you need to be at home all day although if he would do some training or voluntary work (eg in a school) then it could be worth it. Or he could work part time at something else - supermarket maybe they need shift workers.

Yes There are quite a few full time hours available 37 hours they come out at.

pukkamum

j.e.j. wrote: »

You may well find (as many women do) that if you go out to work, you will still have to do the housework, and possibly much if not all of the cooking when you get back home! So you'll effectively be doing 2 jobs and also not get to see your children as often, so you are right to be concerned.

Believe me that would not be happening!

pukkamum

Thanks for all the replys, given me much food for thought!

pickledonionspaceraider

I only came here cos it said wife swapping lol

pleasedelete

37 hours term time only as a TA wont keep a family. How else will you get money?

pukkamum

pickledonionspaceraider wrote: »

I only came here cos it said wife swapping lol

Knew it would hook a few in.......
Any thoughts, whilst you're here?