The single track road - life on a different path

MeandO

I've just sold the two bulky items I advertised locally. They knocked me down on price a bit, but I'm happy with the £65 I'll be getting from those and the space they will clear. Would like to pay it off the debt, but with the dire state of the finances, I might have to just leave it in the bank account for now.

I've advertised another smaller item and will be sorting through the pile in the garage at some point this week to see what else I can get rid of and make a few £'s at the same time.

liltdiddylilt

Well done you on the selling! It is fab! I wish I could get up the motivation to sell the big box of junk in my cupboard. There is so much in there that people would love. I just hate making myself obvious on Facebook and hate bay of e even more!!

I do indeed know what a push me pull me is! Still got no idea on Guy Smiley though. Carol Smillie... I told you, not old.. just weird

You are so ridiculously nice to people... it is bonkers. I need to toughen you up Mrs Softie. This world is far too hard and bumpy for you... xxx

MeandO

liltdiddylilt wrote: »

I need to toughen you up Mrs Softie. This world is far too hard and bumpy for you... xxx

Tell me about it... we need to smooth the bumps out for sure...

I'll expect Lilty's hard-nut bootcamp invitation very soon!
xx

System

I reckon Lilt is fab when it comes to the whip :rotfl: hahaha.
I don't know push me pull me, or Guy Smiley!!

Well done on healthy eating, and bulky selling!! I'm still eating chocolate wondering why my post-baby flubber won't shift :rotfl: xxx

DaddaG

Hello to all you guys. Ok, so I have JUST sat and read every post up until page 19 (I will still read them all I promise) and didn't want to lurk......in fact I signed up just to post in here as the situation you describe in your initial post MeandO (I appreciate this was a while ago now though) resonates so much with what I am literally going through right now!

I cannot even begin to thank you all for posting such amazing things and being such positive people (even in the face of adversity at times!) even when you all have your own, sometimes trying lives to live! I guess my main reason for posting a reply is that because I am about to begin the process you started way back in your first post MeandO I too feel a bit anxious and scared about what this will do to our daughter (however, it was SO reassuring to ready what PBS said in regards to this!) and our finances, etc.

Not meaning or wanting to hijack your thread MeandO (I will start my own Thread/Diary as I definitely think it will help me and I hope you guys subscribe to it as you all seem so lovely!) but wanted to offer up my support and best wishes for what they are worth.

It seems from what I have read that everyone here is doing amazingly well and that their little one's will be hugely proud of you all and will grow into amazing adults too!

Take care all and I'll stick around if that's ok with everyone?

All the best x

Levi-

Welcome on here DaddaG

Me&O I will write you a proper post later when a certain someone is zzzzzzz.... hang in there chicken. x

Levi-

I promised I'd pop back but I really don't think I can add anything other than what the others have, Becs & Lilty have more or less covered everything in the amazing and supportive way I wish I could find words for but if I can ditto it then consider it firmly ditto'd! I think you're dealing with a lotttttttt of new emotions when it comes to the new situation and the way it is for O and it's not so much about getting over it but more just embracing the new way of things and I think that will take time, and it MAY NOT be something you can do by yourself hence why if the Dr could even get you on a waiting list for 'talking therapy' (or you can self refer) that may be hugely beneficial to help you work things out. I know you said you don't have time for appointments though which I can relate to as well but you shouldn't continue to struggle with how you feel alone when there is guidance and support - you workplace would be obligated to give you the required time off for your appointments if I remember rightly that your GP diagnosed depression? Let me know if you need any further guidance on how to go about telling them / asking them as you are well protected by the law in this area as you know that is where my work-head is.... I will help if I can.
But otherwiiiiiiiiise.. with just my friend-head on..... take it all one day at a time... I think O is coping with all this way more than you give yourself credit for and you and his dad are both doing an amazing job there to make all this low-stress for him and as he is so young, I know he will have nothing but good memories - which is in stark contrast to if you and his daddy had stayed together for a few more years and he was aware of (increasing) disharmony etc and had to deal with the break up later. If that made any sense. Loooooooooove ya xxxxxxxxxx

mummymandy

Hello MeandO, Yay, I know Guy Smiley!!!! I am 48 though, perhaps everyone else is far too young. Picture the scene, muppet character, navy blue blazer and microphone. Presented game shows. He was my favourite, along with when Kermit was a news reporter in his trench coat. xxx:hello:

System

Hope you're ok lovely xxx

MeandO

Hello everyone

Sorry, it's been a bit of a difficult week so far this week and I haven't felt much like posting, but am ok.

Welcome DaddaG, nice to have you on board. Sorry to hear you're going through a similar experience, it's not nice and pretty much throws you into emotional turmoil, but as you can see, we're getting through and you will too.
I have had to make some of the hardest decisions of my life these past 18 months, and decisions which have had a huge effect on those I love, but, hopefully it has all happened for the best.

It's not the life I envisaged and I do still mourn for the lost life I thought I would have, but a little quote I read somewhere helps at times:
"It's not what it should have been, it's not what it could have been, it is what it is".

Levi, no, not diagnosed with depression hun and in all honesty I don't feel depressed. I feel down at times when certain situations are bad, but it's pretty much all down to stress at the moment.

Mummymandy - I'm glad I'm not the only one! Guy smiley was awesome... although slightly too orange for my liking...

becs - thanks for checking in on me hun, have just followed you on instagram too - the make up is stunning, you looked amazing!

Right, I'll keep the update to mostly financial stuff for now...

Paypal have c*cked up a refund to my account and so have sent me overdrawn, resulting in me having to arrange a temp o/d until the payment hits my account again in 5-7 working days. :mad: Muchos annoyed.

On a better note, I've sold the two bulky items and have gained £65 from those now. There's a further £7.50 coming from a smaller item tomorrow. I have also been adding to the ebay pile and will list that as soon as I get enough stuff.
Next weekend, my Mum is also bringing up a couple of stunning outfits that now hang off her due to the illness and weight loss - one she never wore and paid a lot of money for - she has asked me to sell them and is insisting I keep the money.

My parents have recently cleared their attic and discovered a few bits that were left to me by various family members which they have told me to sell if I don't want to keep them. I'm in a bit of a quandry about this as a couple of pieces are from my wonderful Nan and I feel bad about it, but I will get them valued. I know that one of the items is worth quite a lot of money and should probably be insured if nothing else.

I've done a survey from Quidco, earning me the grand sum of 32p. :rotfl:I missed out on another as it wouldn't work on my phone. Ohh - I have just received another too, so shall do that now.

My Tax credit renewal form came yesterday too. I was going to do it online today but see I left the sheet of paper with my earnings from last year at home, so that will be done tomorrow now.

Healthy eating went seriously awry yesterday as I had some quite difficult emotional stuff to deal with which left me feeling physically ill all day, but am trying so hard to stick to it today.

That'll do for now, will be back soon.

xx