The single track road - life on a different path

MeandO

Ooh, a full refund (inc postage) of £68 to the credit card today, signature updated.

liltdiddylilt

Ahoy you. I hope you went online and refunded the rest of the dump veggies from Mr T's!?! You've got a few days grace to get on there and sort it out!

Wondering if you decided to do your own thing this weekend or not. Avoiding the demon child seems like a plan to me!! but a shame you're missing out on the rest of it

Sending you much love and hugs as always. You always sound so much like my cousin when you talk about yourself at the ex. She is just like that a good 6-7 years later, they are still the best of friends, he is remarried and she is engaged and both have had another little sproglet. They share C between them and he is a beautiful balanced little boy who loves both of his families and his little siblings to bits. He literally does half a week with each parent xxx

Levi-

Awesome on the selling. I'm always amazed at the amount people have to sell, I don't think I have anything now that could raise more than a fiver, lol. Hope you are having a great weekend Mrs:)xx

MeandO

Hola folks,

An up and down weekend, but generally feeling happy today.
Saturday was pretty hard work, which wasn't made any better by the rubbish weather, but yesterday more than made up for it. We went out to a local beauty spot with a beach and a brand new kid's play park (pirate themed, so Ds was in his element!).

Him put off going back to work for a day, so is working from (my) home today, meaning we spent a bit of much-needed time on our own together last night and will have dinner before waving him off tonight until Friday.

No sales yet, but a couple of people have expressed an interest in one of the items. I've had a few more sales from my shop, so need to get those made and sent out. Had to buy supplies last week which cost £55, so that account was depleted a little.

The bank account is dire after having to fill up on diesel yesterday and little spends over the weekend, but I will make it last until payday. We don't need much, so will be using up the contents of the fridge, freezer and cupboards. The Keto diet will have to wait unfortunately.

Thanks for the tip re tesco deliveries Lilty. I have phoned up in the past, but really couldn't be bothered with the hassle, so have complained online instead. Didn't realise I could do that.

Not much other money news - still haven't received my tax credits renewal pack. Tried to phone them last week to tell them my actual income for last year, rather than the estimated figures. I was on the phone for 40 minutes to be told they couldn't take the figures from me until my renewal pack has been sent out which it hadn't. :mad::mad::mad:

Anyway, off to try and get through my day at work. Nothing to do...
Bored is not the word for it.

X

MeandO

Must also add, have talked myself out of utter stupidity this morning...
I saw a great deal on another board - something at less than half price of the normal price, but still well over £100. Immediately clicked through to look at it, justifying to myself why I should buy it and although I have the £100+ in another account, it is for another purpose, but I thought, I'll make the savings elsewhere.

Idiot me - that's the attitude that got me into this mess in the first place.

Anyway, gave myself a slap, I totally don't need this item and saved my cash. Simple really isn't it.
:T:)

Levi-

don't know if this is any help but I had my tax credits renewal pack today xx

liltdiddylilt

Hey lady

Don't worry about the pack. they send them out in tranches for at least 2 more weeks now - they won't penalise you and from what you said you overestimated, so it is them who will owe you and not the other way around. All good in the hood. Don't bother phoning them until you get it. And have you got the 0345 number for when you do have to call? Apparently the best time to ring is after lunch, before 4pm. I got through in a couple of minutes then, I presume because everyone else is working... Wonder if you will be able to make the call in work time?

Well done on saving yourself the cash for the *thing* that you didn't need.. It is a shame we have to take these decisions when things are an obvious bargain isn't it but you've got your big girl pants and head on and that is to be applauded!! xxx

Hooray for some proper time spent with Him on your own without the monster. I really hope next weekend proves to be a turning point for the little princess

Also, welcome for the online complaining malarkey. I have learned this from Him, who so loathes telephone calls that he can find ANY way of complaining that doesn't involve his voice in seconds. Mr A and Mr T offer instant online refunds, via your order. Amazon and the bay of e have an online chat option... I could go on forever xxx

System

Hey chick, I'm sorry you're feeling down today. You obviously still care very much for your ex, and I know that you don't want him to feel sad. You know that if you got back together then it just wouldn't work though - you would crave the passion & the fire in your belly that you just didn't get before. You love him like a brother, a best friend, and that is lovely. You can still be there for him, and vice versa. He is your son's father and I know he'll have a special place in your heart, always.

As for Him, I can understand why being with him is like being on a rollercoaster. It sounds like a case of when it's good, it's really good, but when it's bad it's terrible. Only you know how you feel, but if the negatives are winning then maybe try & have a break. You deserve to be happy!!

Sending you massive squishes sweetie. I'm only a PM away xxx

liltdiddylilt

loopybecs wrote: »

Hey chick, I'm sorry you're feeling down today. You obviously still care very much for your ex, and I know that you don't want him to feel sad. You know that if you got back together then it just wouldn't work though - you would crave the passion & the fire in your belly that you just didn't get before. You love him like a brother, a best friend, and that is lovely. You can still be there for him, and vice versa. He is your son's father and I know he'll have a special place in your heart, always.

As for Him, I can understand why being with him is like being on a rollercoaster. It sounds like a case of when it's good, it's really good, but when it's bad it's terrible. Only you know how you feel, but if the negatives are winning then maybe try & have a break. You deserve to be happy!!

Sending you massive squishes sweetie. I'm only a PM away xxx

Ditto to all of this!!

I know you're having an internal war of words right now, with the emotions to go with it, but it is partially the unsteadiness with Him that is making you look at what you did have, as it was stable and secure, even if, as Becs said, there is no fire. But you will come back around in the space of a couple of hours to the remembrance that it was not working and would, if left to go on have made you both miserable, not to mention destroyed the great friendship that you have. There is a lot to be thankful for in your situation.

As for Him being sad and not looking after his house... Is he around yours *fixing* you every 5 minutes? You are just as sad and need just as much support, even though you are a woman and therefore cleaning is a necessity so your house will never reveal the contents of your mind despite having a 4 year old in it. You can only support him so far sweetheart, and as you so well know, the rebuilding has to come from within himself.

Stay strong for yourself, be nice to the ex, and hopefully he will manage to pull himself out of his current state. If you clean his house and fix everything up for him... he has no sense of accomplishment, and everything will be a reminder of the two of you tied together.

I do think the garden is a good idea though. Everyone finds a bit of mental peace in a nice garden! xxx

MeandO

Thanks so much both, I know you're right, it's just a major case of the 'what if's' really and I either need to snap out of it or just accept that they'll always be there and move on.
Becs, you really hit the nail on the head, guess the sadness is still there really. Yeah, he is like my annoying big brother lol! I just can't stand it when people I love are sad, I've always tried to 'fix' them, even from 4 years old I can remember trying to do so.

liltdiddylilt wrote: »

Ditto to all of this!!

I know you're having an internal war of words right now, with the emotions to go with it,

Lilty this ^^^^ is exactly how I'm feeling.
It's like I've got Dr doolittle's pushmepullme in my belly constantly.

You're gonna tell me you don't know what that is too though and make me feel old aren't ya?! :rotfl:;)
Guy Smiley anyone? Anyone else remember Guy Smiley???

Anyone?

The ex isn't round mine much tbh. I think the fact it used to be his house too and Him is round sometimes puts him off, but he knows he's always welcome, regardless of Him or not. Maybe we'll have a BBQ this week or something if the weather's nice, cheer us all up.

I haven't cleaned his house or mentioned anything to him about it, but have just observed it always seems to be in a state of chaos. He was never the tidiest, but used to clean, especially the kitchen. His kitchen is tiny to be fair and he has way too much 'stuff' in it, but it just looks like he's not coping.

Have spoken to the ex half an hour ago and he sounds more upbeat, so a bit less worried. It's his birthday at the end of next month and we're all off for it, so I'm going to plan a nice family day out somewhere with Ds and a picnic if the weather's nice. Need to save some pennies towards that come payday, I already have his birthday pressie sorted - am sending him away for a long weekend with his best mate - to a beer spa in Poland lol. I think it will do him the world of good to get away and give him something to look forward to. Yes, it did cost me a fortune, but it's a 'Big' birthday and is all paid for, bar transfers, so I'm not worried about that.

I've also knuckled down with the healthy eating today. The keto will have to wait until I'm 100% up on it and I have the money to fill the freezer, but I'm trying to be as good as possible. I have a nutracheck membership which is brilliant, so I have uploaded today's food into that this morning. I'm feeling motivated now to start feeling better about myself.

Oh, but I am definitely making those jalapeno egg poppers this weekend - they sound amazing. I tried making keto crispy chicken at the weekend and it was an epic failure unfortunately.

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