This girl wants me to go see "fifty shades of grey" with her

kingslayer

I didn't mean that women aren't supposed to be dominant too, but i just haven't come across women who are dominant. Maybe it's because of the age range that i've been with, obviously being younger than me and therefore have less experience.

However, even when I was with a woman in her early 40's, she wasn't the dominant type, so i just think it's very rare for a lot of women to take control in the bedroom. With men, it's more expectant of us to be the one in control and dominate.

I don't mean offence by it and I'm not trying to cause arguments again.

kingslayer

purpleshoes wrote: »

Is this just another thread where the op posts his ridiculous views on women?

Its a book/film. Its not real.

Now we get the view that its ok for men to be dominant but if a woman enjoys this kind of stuff theres something wrong with her head.

What business of yours is it what other people do in bed?

I don't have ridiculous views on women, or I at least try not to have anyhow.

I think men who like the dominatrix stuff and extreme BDSM are a bit messed up in the head too, not just women! I really don't see the satisfaction one can get from those type of activities to be honest with you.

When I watched !!!!!! i would sometimes click on videos of guys being overly aggressive and doing all different type of stuff, such as spitting, choking, very hard slapping and other stuff which is rougher than what i'd expect from many women to enjoy. I know it's all for the camera, but still, i think the female stars in these scenes are lying by saying they enjoy it.

I always make a case of asking women what they like before we have sex (or during) because I want to be considerate and selfless, and provide her with the most satisfaction possible.

kingslayer

purpleshoes wrote: »

I dont believe that 27 year old men would spend their time posting about being desperate for a gf and then get one and go into a tailspin about going to see fifty shades.

Even with the drama filled back collection of jackanory tales. Its just time for some attention, here we go again.

She isn't my girlfriend, though :undecided we only met in the gym and I was giving her some tips, then we just kept meeting up and we've been getting to know each other since, but we are not boyfriend/girlfriend. We are just hanging out at the moment. I think sex MIGHT be on the cards anyway, as her parents are away this weekend and i plan on going out with her on friday, whether it's to the cinema or not, and she also lives only a couple miles from the main town centre, but as i said, she is really eager to see this film so we will see.

misspickle_2

kingslayer wrote: »

I didn't mean that women aren't supposed to be dominant too, but i just haven't come across women who are dominant. Maybe it's because of the age range that i've been with, obviously being younger than me and therefore have less experience.

However, even when I was with a woman in her early 40's, she wasn't the dominant type, so i just think it's very rare for a lot of women to take control in the bedroom. With men, it's more expectant of us to be the one in control and dominate.

I don't mean offence by it and I'm not trying to cause arguments again.

I do get what you mean. Years ago I used to wet myself at the thought of Kevin Costner in the bodyguard. His role in that film made me go weak at the knees.
Massive difference between fantasy and reality though.
Each to their own I suppose. As long as both people in the relationship are both happy that's all that matters I guess.

kingslayer

I like being dominant and in control, it's a turn on for me. I haven't met any women who are against me being the dominant one either, so I don't see the problem personally.

misspickle_2

kingslayer wrote: »

She isn't my girlfriend, though :undecided we only met in the gym and I was giving her some tips, then we just kept meeting up and we've been getting to know each other since, but we are not boyfriend/girlfriend. We are just hanging out at the moment. I think sex MIGHT be on the cards anyway, as her parents are away this weekend and i plan on going out with her on friday, whether it's to the cinema or not, and she also lives only a couple miles from the main town centre, but as i said, she is really eager to see this film so we will see.

But you said you'd made sure you didn't end up in the "just friends" bracket!
Oh king your not giving her mixed signals are you?
That's how people get hurt!
Still, I suppose this girl has a mind of her own. She will live and learn. Like we all do.

misspickle_2

kingslayer wrote: »

I like being dominant and in control, it's a turn on for me. I haven't met any women who are against me being the dominant one either, so I don't see the problem personally.

If they like a dominant male then no problem! If that's what they choose then so be it!
Do they come back for more? If so then you must be doing something right. If they don't then you will need to rethink lol.

kingslayer

No i don't think so. I told her I just wanted to keep things casual for now and I wasn't looking for anything serious and she accepted that. I also made note of saying that I wanted to meet new people and it would be great to get to know her better. I am trying to stay honest with women now, especially after I used to be deceitful in the past to get them into bed, which in hindsight, i'm not pleased about as I lost some really nice girls due to it.

misspickle_2

kingslayer wrote: »

No i don't think so. I told her I just wanted to keep things casual for now and I wasn't looking for anything serious and she accepted that. I also made note of saying that I wanted to meet new people and it would be great to get to know her better. I am trying to stay honest with women now, especially after I used to be deceitful in the past to get them into bed, which in hindsight, i'm not pleased about as I lost some really nice girls due to it.

Sounds like your growing up. At least your being honest. Have fun while you can, your only young once, trust me lol. Just try to make it with people who want the same and won't get hurt though. That's the difficulty though. Me and some other posters on here are wise to it all as we are older and more experienced but some of the young girls presume you will fall in love and change. Sad but true.
When you say to them "casual" and "not serious" they often don't hear you because when you sleep with them and get intimate they think they mean something to you. Men have sex, women make love.
Obviously there are many exceptions to the rule, but I mean in general.

misspickle_2

You'll know when you find the right one. Obviously your not going to live like a monk in the meantime. Its par for the course.
Pretty soon you'll be mortgaged to the hilt with a few baby kings running around so make sure you choose well! Coz that's when it gets messy lol.