sisters wedding

Lozzy88

My OH and his brother are just like this, will talk to the parents about what's going on complaining they are not involved but wouldn't dream of talking to each other!

Ring her, ask her what dates you will need to book of work and wish her well. She maybe wanted a few more things in place before letting you know. She might of wanted to see you in person, who knows? No one until you call her!

marlot

oliviacam wrote: »

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Today on the phone to my mum I said I believe our sam has booked the wedding, and then mum started gushing, (understandable) about the arrangements, at the end I said, oh it would have been nice to get a call/text about it,
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Sorry to be harsh, but it's not all about you.

People are sometimes thoughtless. If you dwell on it and try to read all sorts of things into it then you'll just make yourself and everyone around you miserable.

I understand you're upset, but I'd urge you to move on.

squirrelchops

You know she's getting married in 18 months time and you're already saving up. The only thing you haven't been told is the exact date. I don't see the issue.

bagpussbear

Sorry OP, but I think you are slightly overreacting here.

It's possible she wanted to get you all together and make the announcement properly, rather than drip feed it. It's unfortunate that the hairdresser and then your daughter found out before you and your mum.

If you are close, and you love her, then let this one drop. Her mind is swirling with excitement, and like marlot says above, it's not all about you.

Being 'gobby' towards her when you see her with a flippant comment, may make you feel better but will potentially cause a rift or unpleasantness in your close relationship. I don't think it's worth it.

balletshoes

oliviacam wrote: »

<<she is getting married in 18mnths time, she booked a WEEK ago? She needs the time to enjoy it herself without worrying about you being upset not knowing the date etc for a WEEK . Leave the woman be . She is not some 19yr old . >>


she's been telling me for the past 3 months about it, and for me to save for it, as her sister, I thought after our mum I would have been her next port of call, because she was mine, I guess you think that I'm over reacting, to the fact that I'm upset because our hairdresser knows all about it before me, and she hasn't bothered to call/text me.


Well I'm sorry I can't change who I am, and the 1st people I would want to call would and is family.

yes, sorry, i do think you're over-reacting. You might consider the first people you would call would be your family, your sister isn't you though, is she? Her hairdresser knew because they were chatting, presumably in person, and presumably right after your sister had sorted all her plans and was giddy about it.
If you think you haven't got all the details you need from your daughter and your mum about the date/venue/time/travel arrangements, call or contact your sister and ask - she'll know you know, as she spoke to your daughter.

pickledonionspaceraider

You need to get over it

Sorry but you do.

If you have a go at her about this, you will end up looking petty and jealous.

Start by wishing your sister well, instead of looking for the very FIRST OPPORTUNITY ((a full 18 months before the wedding)) - to start trouble.

If you aren't genuinely happy for her, which you don't come across as you are, then you would be better off not going at all. Rather than turning her wedding into something it isn't.

sassyblue

I have a sister exactly like you OP. If I ever ring to invite her out with the rest of the family because we've just planned something the response is 'oh, I didnt know about this, nobody told me'. Well of course not, we'd just planned it!

It's so tiresome, she loves being a victim and I think this is exactly what you're doing here. You don't need to know everything the second it's been sorted, where's the harm in your sister telling someone something before you?

This isn't about you, so don't make it so.

Pollycat

oliviacam wrote: »

Thank you for your replies and input.

But after the reply from coolcait i'll bow out now , without deleting the post, like lots do.
in my 48 years on this earth I have never ever had a problem with my family, not one, which I'm very lucky to say, after the stuff I've been reading on here for years.
which is why I felt hurt after what I heard yesterday.
I guess i'll do it my way then,

thank you.

I wonder what the OP means by 'do it my way'.

Is she - despite almost every poster telling her she's over-reacting - going to put her 'gobby' (the OP's own words) mouth into gear and have it out with her sister?

I hope not, because any feeling of satisfaction she feels after doing that will probably not last long.

sulphate

It's not all about you!

j.e.j.

oliviacam wrote: »

Thank you for your replies and input.


But after the reply from coolcait i'll bow out now , without deleting the post, like lots do.
in my 48 years on this earth I have never ever had a problem with my family, not one, which I'm very lucky to say, after the stuff I've been reading on here for years.
which is why I felt hurt after what I heard yesterday.
I guess i'll do it my way then,


thank you.

Crikey, what a drama llama



If this is you 18 months before the wedding I dread to think how stressed out and angry you're going to be when it comes to the wedding itself :eek: