sisters wedding

Hermia

peachyprice wrote: »

It's threads like these that make me glad I don't have a sister!

It seems to be common for people to react like this alas. When my mum died I couldn't face telling more than a few people a day as it was so emotionally draining and time-consuming. It therefore took me a couple of weeks to work my way through the list of people who needed to be told. I obviously tried to do close friends first and acquaintances last, but I did not know her friends that well and sometimes people weren't in. I ended up with people complaining that they had been told a day after someone else despite being a closer friend than that person blah blah blah. I can knd of understand why people just announce things on Facebook now!

Lunar_Eclipse

I don't think this is anything personal/a big deal at all so I wouldn't over think it. I seem to recall reading that you know about the wedding, the overseas location and the date, so personally, I wouldn't go round telling anyone it was actually "booked" (What's the point? I'd only be informing them if there was a change to what I'd already communicated.)

I do however think that since you know about the booking, and your mum is likely to tell your sister that, you should consider contacting her to say 'heard the good news about you booking your wedding.' Otherwise she might assume that you have an issue with her (which is true.)

I can't say I understand why she would tell anyone she'd booked it, apart from her fianc!. It strikes me as communicating nothing, so I don't get it. I suppose the only explanation I can think of is you like to be kept informed about everything and/or it's not how you would act. Or you're just very excited and love talking about it. Weddings, pregnancy and babies are my avoid at all cost subjects of conversation: incredibly boring and repetitive for those not directly involved. ;-)

aileth

Honestly it depends on your family. I tell my parents things as soon as they come up, but 99% of the time I don't hear about things from them or my sister, important or not, for weeks. Chances are she's been caught up in the planning and arrangements. Don't hold a grudge. It's only been a week, and I'm sure she isn't withholding the information from you on purpose!

We are very far down the list on siblings telling us things, for example we were the last in the family to be told SIL was pregnant, and even that was by email.

fluffnutter

OP.. sometimes it's just not about you.

thorsoak

oliviacam wrote: »

I have not demanded anything.

I would just have liked to have heard from my sister that she had booked and finalised her wedding, and all her plans were in place.
Not sat here 7 days later with hearing nothing from her.
As if it was me, my 1st port of calls would be my daughter, parents,sister.


And to the people who have pm,d me I have replied to them, thank you.


Thanks for those helpful comments.

Don't forget ...it's not just your family that have to be informed/kept sweet ....there will be a partner with an equally-demanding family! And surely 18months notice is sufficient to arrange things.......

Mojisola

thorsoak wrote: »

Don't forget ...it's not just your family that have to be informed/kept sweet ....there will be a partner with an equally-demanding family!

There can't be that many siblings to let know that everything's settled and the dates are confirmed.

thorsoak

Mojisola wrote: »

There can't be that many siblings to let know that everything's settled and the dates are confirmed.

Could be another family of drama llamas! :-D

pickledonionspaceraider

Isn't this all what invitations are for?