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Pyxis

ChrisJJ wrote: »

(what's all this about duvets?? Are they hypoallergenic. Got my allergies to think of...)
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OMG! OMG! I just spent ages going back through the thread trying to find where the duvet fort started, and it came from P. 515 of The Auld Thread! Heartbreak_Star built it! Can't believe it was that far back!
Golly gosh and gumdrops!

Of course they're hypo-allergenic! They're made of silk, which is very hypo-allergenic, and very warm and snuggly! But if you want them made of something else, then they're made of that, too!

Pyxis

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Pyxis wrote: »

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Here is the suggested THREAD ETIQUETTE. By following this etiquette, all posters, whether new or existing, will feel safe, unpressured and respected..

- This is a thread for support. We have discovered some good friends on here, but we promise always to welcome and include new people, and not to be cliquey.

- People may make suggestions to help each other, and might even ask if the suggestions were helpful or have been carried out, but we'll really try not to nag each other or put too much pressure on.

- The normal board rules about sexism, racism, homophobia etc. apply, but if we are careful we should be able to discuss almost anything without breaching board rules - so far we have discussed subjects ranging from child abuse to incontinence!

-If someone thinks that too much pressure is being applied, they can post the trigger word PENGUIN and flag up the fact that they believe there's a potential for someone feeling too nagged to do something. ANYONE could post PENGUIN if they felt there was a danger that suggestions were being enforced too much.

Similarly, if they want to discuss something that might be a trigger for some people, then posting PENGUIN would be a warning that what follows in the whiteout might be a trigger.


- So, if you think something might be a PENGUIN, please post something like the green bit which follows.

"I would like to discuss something to do with [insert subject here], but I am concerned that this might be a trigger for some people. Is everyone OK if I post about that?"

Then, when you post, repost the word PENGUIN above the discussion. Then post the penguiny bit in white! And the phrase END OF PENGUIN when you have finished.

It will look like this. You will be able to see the white text if you highlight it or if you quote it, (so please don't 'quote' a post containing a penguin onto the thread!)
(Harmless example follows here):-
PENGUIN

This is a penguin. A nasty, crotch biting penguin (CBP).
It isn't really! So you can look. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ozGTv0hxhpc[/url]


END OF PENGUIN

(NB on a tenth-page repost of the etiquette, you can see these penguiny words because they are white against the green 'quote' background. On a normal post, they will be white against white, and so won't be seen on the thread.)

IMPORTANT: It has been ascertained that some posters to this thread have found that there are certain subjects which act as triggers, precipitating a worsening of their condition.
To protect these posters, you are respectfully requested NOT to discuss these subjects on this thread:-

Religion. (Please note: it is recognised that everyone is entitled to their beliefs, and we respect those beliefs. It is only because of the fact that religion does act as a trigger for some posters, that we exclude it from discussion.)
N.B. Please don't even mention the name of the religion.

The afterlife. The reason for this is explained in this thread by one poster, and there will be others for whom this is a trigger.

We ask and thank you for your co-operation in this matter.


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It should be pointed out that if anyone is feeling very distressed or close to a crisis, they do not have to worry about what they are posting, or whether it is a penguin for someone else or not. In a crisis situation, just post! We wouldn't want anyone to feel that they couldn't ask for help in case it's a penguin! The penguin thing only applies to a general discussion situation.

- More suggestions please.............We stress that we are suggesting that we AGREE some Thread Etiquette to HELP people who might feel anxious about posting, we are not trying to IMPOSE rules, just relating this to facilitating groups, so that people feel safe and able to participate as fully as they can.

Bluebell68

Not good day if bring Biscuits can I come and join you all
xx

Pyxis

Jump in, Bluebell68 and welcome!

LostSoulForever

This is mainly in response to Pyxis's reply to my post - but maybe some more bits on me .

If you are living in a mirror world of mine then i feel for you - knowing that someone else is living/feeling this way is not nice & it's not something i would wish on anyone.

Like you i now don't tell people (no-one to tell anyway) when my birthday is as in my head they will only do something/send something out of sympathy & i'd rather it not be that way. I try to igmore it the best i can but when the day comes around and it's been another year it hits quite hard & knowing no-one gives a **** is quite depressing.

I like the fact that you go away at Xmas, that must be really nice .

For me, again it's not that i'm single but another reminder of having no-one around - i do my best again at ignoring it but their are constant reminders everywhere you look that it's the time of the year for family, friends & love ones etc.

Like you Valentines is about singledom & similar to what i've said above it just marks another year of it & similar to you brings out thoughts of being unloveable & that i'll never find someone who will love me.

As i mentioned in the Singles thread - it really is like i have an invisibilty cloak on as i seem to be totally invisible to the opposite sex.

I could say so much more & ramble on about things i haven't even mentioned yet & elaborate further on things but i'll leave that for another time.

I'm glad you pointed out that a dog might lick my toes as i wasa going to wonder who the fetishist was :eek:.

LostSoulForever

Oh & i would like to welcome the recent newcomers to the thread.

Be wary of the requests to join the duvet fort - they only want you for the biscuits :rotfl:.

ChrisJJ

Is cake allowed? Think cake may be required.

Thanks Pyxis re the duvet - silk is perfect! And easier to sweep the crumbs off. Luxurious yet practical

lostinrates

I have a silk duvet, but its inside a cotton duvet cover. Its the best duvet I've had I think.

Joanthebone

I have a confession to make, it might be good for me,




I have been under my duvet all day, its not that I have nothing to do, quite the opposite, but I am feeling totally overwhelmed today, again.


Thank you.


Bye

System

Pyxis

Yeah I'm not gonna phone him, he got pretty !!!!ed off that I messaged him at 3am and then deleted me off FB so yeah, that friendship is gone. He was a new friend so it's not a massive loss.

I'm having a onesie and duvet day today. And trying to book a doctors appointment for next week. Apart from being an idiot of the drivel messaging thing (and throwing up) I actually did have a really good night. I bumped into someone who actually used to be one of my best friends but we had lost touch over the past few years, hopefully going to meet up with her soon, so whilst I may have lost one "friend" I've hopefully gained another.

My weeks start on a Sunday (it's cos at work the week starts on Sunday) so for me this a brand new week. I need to out behind me all the sadness and the hurt and try and have a fresh start and look after myself.