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  • calleyw
    calleyw Posts: 9,896 Forumite
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    Worst film I ever saw was identity with John cusack.

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    I love that film. One of my favs.

    Yours


    calley
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  • System
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    Pyxis wrote: »
    Ahem! Fancy coming round my place? With said broom and mop, that is? :D
    I would offer to but its knackered me out! having a cuppa and a rest! :p

    Hopefully with me not being here half the time, it should stay tidy.

    Only rubbish thing is that the black bin (general waste) is full and i have a few bags worth i need to get rid of, but the bin goes out tomorrow so under the cover of darkness i shall offload what i have into some empty bins (naughty i know :o )
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  • calleyw
    calleyw Posts: 9,896 Forumite
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    Pyxis wrote: »
    Ahem! Fancy coming round my place? With said broom and mop, that is? :D

    According to my dad and my ex you need a pitch fork and a shovel in my house :(

    They are probably right

    Yours

    calley
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  • Pyxis
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    calleyw wrote: »

    Sorry to be on a downer today when everyone seems to be having a good day. Might be because I going to end up on my own all this weekend. With only the 4 walls to talk to.


    Calley
    Calley, you're not alone. I'm having a dreadful day, and have had a dreadful week. Have been feeling extremely depressed. It doesn't show here because for a few moments I can write funny or cheery things, but underneath I feel really ill, mentally. I managed to get out this morning, and looked round some charity shops, beaming at the assistants and making conversation, but feeling ghastly inside. I treated myself to a real Italian pizza in a real Italian pizza restaurant a short walk away, and practised my Italian on the waitress, and you wouldn't have thought anything was wrong, but inside I felt awful.

    I got home, watched the news about the new Princess, and now I'm in bed, just wanting to cry.
    It's a combination of things; some of it is due to a medication hiatus, some of it is the condition I have, some of it is due to having had the bug and its after-effects for two weeks, and some of it is reactive due to some horrible family dynamics that have worsened recently.

    But like you, I feel friendless, family-less, unlovable and unlikeable, and doomed to be lonely for the duration. And it's not for want of trying. And yes, I'll be alone all weekend too, and doubt I'll get anything done as usual.

    So, you see, I can be good at putting on an act! Must be all the drama classes! :D Interestingly, in Drama classes, I always found it very, very easy to act sorrow, misery and anger, and hard to act happiness! :D I could even cry to order, no probs!



    Only rubbish thing is that the black bin (general waste) is full and i have a few bags worth i need to get rid of, but the bin goes out tomorrow so under the cover of darkness i shall offload what i have into some empty bins (naughty i know :o )

    May I make a suggestion, MessedUp? May I suggest that you pop round to the neighbours and ask them if they'll have any space in their bins, rather than just put your stuff in them?
    The reason I say that is that, living alone and not usually having a lot of rubbish that isn't recyclable, my bin is often three-quarters empty. Occasionally, but not often, a neighbour thinks it's ok to use my bin space in the night. If they asked me, I wouldn't mind, providing it was cleanly bagged, but the fact they don't ask infuriates me, and quite honestly, I feel put upon. There was one time when I was clearing stuff, but got too tired to do more and went to bed. I woke early as usual, and decided to do some more before the bin men came, but when I took my extra stuff to the bin, yes it was full with someone else's rubbish! So I couldn't put mine in! I was livid.

    So you see, it's the right thing to do, to ask first, really, don't you think? :A
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  • System
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    Pyxis wrote: »
    Calley, you're not alone. I'm having a dreadful day, and have had a dreadful week. Have been feeling extremely depressed. It doesn't show here because for a few moments I can write funny or cheery things, but underneath I feel really ill, mentally. I managed to get out this morning, and looked round some charity shops, beaming at the assistants and making conversation, but feeling ghastly inside. I treated myself to a real Italian pizza in a real Italian pizza restaurant a short walk away, and practised my Italian on the waitress, and you wouldn't have thought anything was wrong, but inside I felt awful.

    I got home, watched the news about the new Princess, and now I'm in bed, just wanting to cry.
    It's a combination of things; some of it is due to a medication hiatus, some of it is the condition I have, some of it is due to having had the bug and its after-effects for two weeks, and some of it is reactive due to some horrible family dynamics that have worsened recently.

    But like you, I feel friendless, family-less, unlovable and unlikeable, and doomed to be lonely for the duration. And it's not for want of trying. And yes, I'll be alone all weekend too, and doubt I'll get anything done as usual.

    So, you see, I can be good at putting on an act! Must be all the drama classes! :D Interestingly, in Drama classes, I always found it very, very easy to act sorrow, misery and anger, and hard to act happiness! :D I could even cry to order, no probs!





    May I make a suggestion, MessedUp? May I suggest that you pop round to the neighbours and ask them if they'll have any space in their bins, rather than just put your stuff in them?
    The reason I say that is that, living alone and not usually having a lot of rubbish that isn't recyclable, my bin is often three-quarters empty. Occasionally, but not often, a neighbour thinks it's ok to use my bin space in the night. If they asked me, I wouldn't mind, providing it was cleanly bagged, but the fact they don't ask infuriates me, and quite honestly, I feel put upon. There was one time when I was clearing stuff, but got too tired to do more and went to bed. I woke early as usual, and decided to do some more before the bin men came, but when I took my extra stuff to the bin, yes it was full with someone else's rubbish! So I couldn't put mine in! I was livid.

    So you see, it's the right thing to do, to ask first, really, don't you think? :A
    I will ask :) Landlord owns the house next door too and they are usually friendly. I've never done it before, its my housemate who usually does and put the idea in my head.

    Sorry you're not feeling very good right now :( and you too Calley. You're both loveable and likable :D You're all a part of the WaS family, and we always have your back.
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  • Georgiegirl256
    Georgiegirl256 Posts: 7,005 Forumite
    I love horror/suspense movies! Jeepers Creepers is particularly spine chilling! :eek:

    Just been reading about Rio Ferdinand's wife, so sad. :(
  • Georgiegirl256
    Georgiegirl256 Posts: 7,005 Forumite
    Big big hugs to Calley and Pyxis. :) Sorry to hear that you're both having a bad time. :(
  • jobbingmusician
    jobbingmusician Posts: 20,347 Forumite
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    Special big hugs to anyone who is feeling low (((((((pyxis)))))) ((((((calley)))))) ((((((anyone who needs one ))))))

    I really mucked up my match betting today and LOST money instead of making it, so I'm feeling a bit fed up with myself. (Totally my own fault.) Never mind, I'll just have to work extra hard next week to make it up again :( Coming on here makes me feel I've nothing to complain about, though.

    And I remember an episode of some American sitcom where the 2 characters were moaning about spending Valentines day alone - and I thought to myself as I watched it (alone) 'but you aren't alone, you have each other as friends!' Same on here - we have each other as friends. Enjoy!

    (Yes of course fairy cakes, but when you go shopping for the stuff, I'm afraid you will have to look for cupcake stuff :D They had, and I believe still have, a whole lot of Jane Asher stuff in Poundland, but it is labelled cupcake.)
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  • purpleshoes_2
    purpleshoes_2 Posts: 2,653 Forumite
    Life is tough for lots of folk. It doesn't seem like that when you feel down. I always used to think everyone had s better life than me. Maybe because I've been on my own for so long but it's not true.

    I don't have tons of folk in my life. I have acquaintances, I have my mum and brother and I have my felines.

    I'm staying in all weekend too, but I'm ok with that. I was really low a couple of weeks ago due to something in the scheme of things daft then some sad stuff on the news, I think I cried on and off all weekend.

    The fact that you went out and practiced your Italian while you don't feel so good is something you should be proud of.

    I'm always really tough on myself. I think last time was the first time I did a sporting event and didn't go, I was rubbish.

    We need to be kind to ourselves sometimes. Staying in is the new going out anyway.
  • Pyxis
    Pyxis Posts: 46,077 Forumite
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    edited 2 May 2015 at 6:09PM
    Good on you, MessedUp! Knew you'd do the right thing! :A


    And thanks for your support, you, Pauline and JM. It means such a lot! You've no idea! Well, you probably do have an idea! :D

    The good thing about here is that you all do understand, and you don't do what a lot of people in RL do, which is try and jolly you along, at best, or at worst, castigate you for 'not having anything to be depressed about'. Both guaranteed to make you feel far worse! :D
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