We all need to be heard for a little while.

jobbingmusician

calley, have you tried contacting Different Strokes? They have some self-help stuff for younger stroke survivors and their families (and obviously the Stroke Assn is excellent too, but DS is really good for younger people.)

calleyw

dragonette wrote: »

Calley, that sounds like an awful strain. I am also an occasional carer for an ex partner with depressive and suicidal tendencies. Lots of (((hugs))), it can be terribly difficult but I understand the drive to continue helping.

Its complicated at the moment as he still owns the house I live in. It was our family home and at the time we moved I was not working so did not put me on the mortgage even though when I was working I paid half of everything. I need to buy him out and he is happy to wait for the money I owe him. And even sign it over with out the money. Thats how much we trust each other.

But I am not sure if I want to move due to other issues. So as you can see my life is a one big fat mess rather like me LOL!!!

Also even if the house/money was not the issue. We moved here to be closer to my family. He has made friends round here more than me LOL!!! His children don't bother with him that much. And I would feel guilty and a total b!tch if I abandoned him. Its not his fault he had a stroke it was no ones it just happened.

We are good friends. Like today spent the day together went out for lunch and a bit of shopping. I left his place at about 7ish after meeting up at about 11am.

He is so funny and sweet and we get on better not being a couple. We still have our own little in jokes that others don't get. I expect we get on better than some couples do. I get to go home to my own place. And he has his.

I can honestly say he is not the man I married he has changed not for the better. But I suppose when you have something about the size of a tennis ball dead in your head lucky to be walking and talking. What gets him down is not just the hand but the tablets he has to take everyday. Blood test every two months, becoming epileptic. Only upside is that he now gets his prescriptions free. Also that he can't do what he use to do. Drive, archery and work.

Yours

Calley

calleyw

jobbingmusician wrote: »

calley, have you tried contacting Different Strokes? They have some self-help stuff for younger stroke survivors and their families (and obviously the Stroke Assn is excellent too, but DS is really good for younger people.)

Thanks. We are very lucky to have a very good local support group here. They have weekly coffee meetings and go on courses. They have done a photography one. Learning how to edit images etc. They have had a cooking one.

And have access to counseling etc. A god send and has helped take some pressure off of me with things such as form filling.

Yours

Calley

Pyxis

Big (((((((((((Calley))))))))))))) :A

purpleshoes_2

Drumroll please..........................................

I baked a cake!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Used the recipe posted earlier in the thread and added some banana, grated marrow, chia seeds, some flaxseed/cocoa seeds and a bit of chocolate and after some nervous is this ever going to rise waiting, just had a look at it and it looks fine.

Going to leave it to cool and have a bit of it tomorrow and give the rest to my mum as I cant really have cake until bootcamp is done

The first cake from scratch I have ever made in my entire adult life and that is the truth.

calleyw

Pyxis wrote: »

Big (((((((((((Calley))))))))))))) :A

Thank you.

Yours

Calley

purpleshoes_2

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GxXSUyc3BAU

Ive had this song in my head for days now, wonder why

1970s kids tv was the absolute business.

elsien

Just found a new freeview channel showing season 5 of The Walking Dead. Is it weird that zombies make me a happy person?

dragonette

Decided to doa tiny bit of self medicate/reward myself for making it out past the shops to get rid of glass recycling - a well watered whisky while tidying. Scandalous!!

Elsien - that doesn't that weird, no

purpleshoes_2

I can't do anything zombie related. I remember an ex took me to see evil dead 2 on one of our first dates.

Crackpot, why on earth he thought we would enjoy that was beyond me.

I can't do zombies, horror or anything that makes my over active imagination go into overdrive.

Which is why I go and see kids cartoons when I go to the pictures.

Not just those, but nothing that would keep me awake at night.