We all need to be heard for a little while.

Pyxis

tea_lover wrote: »

Darius was a weird crush of mine at one point . Then I saw that freaky kilt picture and it put me off! :eek: Warning - do not google that at work! :rotfl:.

Good job I'm on a fast day.....that would have put me off my lunch!

tea_lover

The Darius diet :rotfl:.

SpiderWestCider

Hi all,

I've been reading this and the previous thread and felt I needed to say thank you!
Currently in turmoil with no one to tell and reading this has helped me feel less alone.
Thanks

Pyxis

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Pyxis wrote: »

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Here is the suggested THREAD ETIQUETTE. By following this etiquette, all posters, whether new or existing, will feel safe, unpressured and respected..

- This is a thread for support. We have discovered some good friends on here, but we promise always to welcome and include new people, and not to be cliquey.

- People may make suggestions to help each other, and might even ask if the suggestions were helpful or have been carried out, but we'll really try not to nag each other or put too much pressure on.

- The normal board rules about sexism, racism, homophobia etc. apply, but if we are careful we should be able to discuss almost anything without breaching board rules - so far we have discussed subjects ranging from child abuse to incontinence!

-If someone thinks that too much pressure is being applied, they can post the trigger word PENGUIN and flag up the fact that they believe there's a potential for someone feeling too nagged to do something. ANYONE could post PENGUIN if they felt there was a danger that suggestions were being enforced too much.

Similarly, if they want to discuss something that might be a trigger for some people, then posting PENGUIN would be a warning that what follows in the whiteout might be a trigger.


- So, if you think something might be a PENGUIN, please post something like the green bit which follows.

"I would like to discuss something to do with [insert subject here], but I am concerned that this might be a trigger for some people. Is everyone OK if I post about that?"

Then, when you post, repost the word PENGUIN above the discussion. Then post the penguiny bit in white! And the phrase END OF PENGUIN when you have finished.

It will look like this. You will be able to see the white text if you highlight it or if you quote it, (so please don't 'quote' a post containing a penguin onto the thread!)
(Harmless example follows here):-
PENGUIN

This is a penguin. A nasty, crotch biting penguin (CBP).
It isn't really! So you can look. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ozGTv0hxhpc[/url]


END OF PENGUIN

(NB on a tenth-page repost of the etiquette, you can see these penguiny words because they are white against the green 'quote' background. On a normal post, they will be white against white, and so won't be seen on the thread.)

IMPORTANT: It has been ascertained that some posters to this thread have found that there are certain subjects which act as triggers, precipitating a worsening of their condition.
To protect these posters, you are respectfully requested NOT to discuss these subjects on this thread:-

Religion. (Please note: it is recognised that everyone is entitled to their beliefs, and we respect those beliefs. It is only because of the fact that religion does act as a trigger for some posters, that we exclude it from discussion.)
N.B. Please don't even mention the name of the religion.

The afterlife. The reason for this is explained in this thread by one poster, and there will be others for whom this is a trigger.

We ask and thank you for your co-operation in this matter.


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It should be pointed out that if anyone is feeling very distressed or close to a crisis, they do not have to worry about what they are posting, or whether it is a penguin for someone else or not. In a crisis situation, just post! We wouldn't want anyone to feel that they couldn't ask for help in case it's a penguin! The penguin thing only applies to a general discussion situation.

- More suggestions please.............We stress that we are suggesting that we AGREE some Thread Etiquette to HELP people who might feel anxious about posting, we are not trying to IMPOSE rules, just relating this to facilitating groups, so that people feel safe and able to participate as fully as they can.

Pyxis

SpiderWestCider wrote: »

Hi all,

I've been reading this and the previous thread and felt I needed to say thank you!
Currently in turmoil with no one to tell and reading this has helped me feel less alone.
Thanks

Hello, SpiderWestcider! Feel free to talk as much or as little as you want.
If you don't mind a crowd, you can always hide in the duvet fort.

Budge up, everyone!

Gingernutty

elsien wrote: »

Are you registered with the telephone preference service - a mention of that usually gets you off the call list. (Does for landlines, anyway.)

It takes time, but the TPS thing does work. And, if someone does call a registered line and leaves a number/text/name of a company name, you can complain.

You are eventually taken off the databases as you remind people that they have committed an offence by calling you.

Mobile phones work too - I've registered both my land and mobile numbers and get great satisfaction by saying

"This 'phone number is registered with the Telephone Preference Service. You have committed an offence by calling this number".

I don't get to the end. They hang up before I finish.

((((Hugs)))) elsien.

tea_lover

Hello SpiderWestCider (may I call you SWC ?) *waves* Would you like a biscuit?

System

Hello SpiderWestCider :wave:

Welcome to the thread (and the fort )

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Didn't feel up to work today, didn't sleep very well and woke up feeling sick. Just need a day to process things. I still think i did the right thing. It was just weird waking up thinking "its actually over..".I'll go back tomorrow, just didnt feel i would be able to concentrate and i'd rather they had time to arrange cover than me go in, not cope and be sent hope leaving them a person down (like monday).

So far i've managed to have a shower and tidy my room. Had to take down pictures and mementos. They're in a drawer. I somehow figured if i cleared my room it might clear my mind.

Sorry for rambelling on about it

tea_lover

That's not rambling! (You saw my XXXL long post lol, and we haven't even technically split up yet - brace yourselves people :rotfl:)

A day at home and a bit of a sort out sounds like a v good plan. Hope you're doing ok x.

System

tea_lover wrote: »

That's not rambling! (You saw my XXXL long post lol, and we haven't even technically split up yet - brace yourselves people :rotfl:)

A day at home and a bit of a sort out sounds like a v good plan. Hope you're doing ok x.

Thank you (and yours wasn't rambelling, it helped a lot)

I'm doing ok. Felt a bit wobbly hen i was taking down pics but had to remind myself that the bit i'm grieving for wasn't the relationship we had but the relationship i wished we could have had (and in the beginning thought we would have), and the reality was that bit didn't really exist except in my head i guess. God i sound like i'm psychoanalyzing myself

Trying to make plans for the 2 weeks off i have. Just to keep my mind busy. So far i have cinema trip, karaoke (god help everyone when i get hold of the mic :rotfl: depressing break up songs it is), playing pokemon and a film night. Should keep me busy. Its times like this i'm so grateful for my friends (IRL and you all on here)