We all need to be heard for a little while.

Georgiegirl256

Tea, there's no doubting it'll be hard. I guess in a way it's like a trial run of how it'll be when he moves out for good and that's bound to be hard to cope with. Like JM says though, nothing is for ever if you don't want it to be.

Melly, he's gorgeous! He looks to be a right sweetie!

MU, I didn't have a pet growing up either apart from a goldfish! Soon sorted that though and got a cat when I got my own place. Wanted a dog at first but couldn't because of work, but now I adore cats!

WaS, hope your MIL is doing ok?

mellymoo74

OH had had cats never had a dog. When my 2 sister cats passed away I didn't want another cat and I thought OH should experience the joy of a dog so we got Mr Boo.
He worships my OH I'm alright but OH is god lol.

tea_lover

Self-indulgent, stupidly long, whinge coming up.... I fully realise this is not important in the grand scheme of things, especially compared to what some of you lovelies have going on right now. But it's going round and round in my head so am hoping that writing things down will calm my brain down a bit. Feel free to ignore this.

FOH bought me tickets to a sporting event I've always loved for my birthday (then slightly ruined the moment by announcing he wouldn't come with me, but that's a different whinge lol). The event is held in the city where one of my best friends lives.

I was v excited at the time and stupidly posted on fb about the tickets. I saw this friend a couple of days later and she was saying how I could stay with her.

This is where I sound v ungrateful - I don't want to! We've been friends for 20 yrs, have stayed together and holidayed together many times so that's not an issue. It's just that she's in the middle of moving house (with her OH, who seems a lovely bloke but I've only met him once). She's also unable to get any time off work due to the nature of her job, so I'd literally be turning up at her house sometime in the evening, then she'd be out early in the morning to go to work. The nature of the sporting event means that I have no idea how long it will go on for, so couldn't even give her a time to expect me.

Every time I've driven to that city before I've got hopelessly lost (never could find her old house without a lot of crying). The train there is v expensive but have been looking into the park and ride this morning and that looks doable.

Ideally I'd like to just drive there, use the park and ride, go to event, go home again. But I have no idea how to tell her this without seeming v ungrateful.

Part of me is tempted to say I'm not going - she knows the tickets were from FOH and that we've since split so I could possible use that angle. But I would feel awful about lying to her. Plus, the event is on TV so chances are I'd be spotted (just my luck!)

Am kind of tempted not to go. Still have the problem of an empty seat next to me as FOH got me two tickets for a quite specific sport then refused to come with me.

I know I'm making a massive big deal about a total non-issue but I am seriously stressing about this. It's a couple of weeks away and already giving me sleepless nights.

codemonkey

Could you not just tell her that you have somewhere to be very early the next day so you can't stay but you'd love to get together once her house move is done?

I have a problem. I should be on the train, but I'm not. My face hurts a bit but I can push through it maybe. But here is my problem. I weighed myself on Monday - I didn't like the numbers so all week I've been working out and trying to eat better - I've been trying to eat to my BMR requirements. I have done my 10000 steps as usual, I've done some interval training, I've done circuit training (I've done these everyday). I've also done couch 2 5k twice this week and pilates once. This morning I was feeling tired and discouraged so I thought I'd stand on the scales because even 1lb weight loss would push me. I've gained half a stone. Now I keep crying.

This doesn't seem like a good enough reason not to go to work, but this with the crushing tiredness and the pain makes me not want to. Hence the not being on the train thing. What do I do?

jobbingmusician

Half a stone is nothing in the overall grand plan. You can easily gain this by being pre-menstrual. AND you will have gained muscle from all that exercise.

If you stay at home you will feel worse, guaranteed If you go to work late you will feel a sense of achievement. Do it now!

lostinrates

codemonkey wrote: »

Could you not just tell her that you have somewhere to be very early the next day so you can't stay but you'd love to get together once her house move is done?

I have a problem. I should be on the train, but I'm not. My face hurts a bit but I can push through it maybe. But here is my problem. I weighed myself on Monday - I didn't like the numbers so all week I've been working out and trying to eat better - I've been trying to eat to my BMR requirements. I have done my 10000 steps as usual, I've done some interval training, I've done circuit training (I've done these everyday). I've also done couch 2 5k twice this week and pilates once. This morning I was feeling tired and discouraged so I thought I'd stand on the scales because even 1lb weight loss would push me. I've gained half a stone. Now I keep crying.

This doesn't seem like a good enough reason not to go to work, but this with the crushing tiredness and the pain makes me not want to. Hence the not being on the train thing. What do I do?

Hang on, hang on. You are probably hanging on to water. Are you eating right for your workouts? How are your clothes feeling, how are YOU feeling. And not just eating your bmr requirements but how are you eating them?



You are gonna be ok.


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lostinrates

jobbingmusician wrote: »

Half a stone is nothing in the overall grand plan. You can easily gain this by being pre-menstrual. AND you will have gained muscle from all that exercise.

If you stay at home you will feel worse, guaranteed If you go to work late you will feel a sense of achievement. Do it now!

Yep. Seconded.


I woke up this morning and feel muscles I had forgotten I had and didn't feel I'd worked yesterday. I have a non sexual/ romantic crush on my yoga teacher.

Wish you could all come here to have session with him. His remedial work doesn't feel like 'help the cripple' and the still work is peaceful.

How are duke and Harry?

tea_lover

You can change up/down half a stone by having a salty meal, drinking more/less, needing the toilet, PMS, exercising more (mad as it sounds, but repairing muscles will hang onto water), etc.

You're doing the right things with food and exercise. Sometimes the scales take some time to catch up to that.

ps - telling her I have to be somewhere the next morning is genius! It's so obvious, why didn't I think of that?! You are officially my hero now :beer: (this is low-cal beer!)

Birdie85

Hugs Code, often we can pile a bit of weight on after doing a lot of exercise as water retention, it is very possibly it's just a bit of bloat and will fall off in a couple of days. Don't be discouraged! As for going into work or no, it's up to you. Do you feel strong enough to take the day head on?

Tea, I hope you enjoy your weekend. By the time FOH comes home you'll probably be distraught that he's come back and ruined your peace and quiet! As for the sporting event, I'd go with Code's idea of saying you have to be away super early so can't stay over. Do you have anyone who would go to the event with you? What is it? Even if something's not really my cup of tea, if a friend offered me a free ticket to something I'd usually accept!

I need to make a confession here... I have never had a 'proper' pet! :eek: My brother had a hamster when we were really young, I briefly had one too but don't count it as he didn't last long and we could never touch him as he was really bitey! My parents never wanted the tie of a dog and my Dad hates cats so that was that. Our flat is too small for a pet now too so we're still pet-less, at least the in-laws have a wonderful 14 month old Cockerpoo so DS will grow up with a kind-of pet!

ETA: Cross posted!

Pyxis

jobbingmusician wrote: »

Half a stone is nothing in the overall grand plan. You can easily gain this by being pre-menstrual. AND you will have gained muscle from all that exercise.

If you stay at home you will feel worse, guaranteed If you go to work late you will feel a sense of achievement. Do it now!

Yes, tealover, this is why I don't like weighing myself! I go by whether my clothes feel tight or not!

As JB says, with all that exercise, your muscle bulk will have increased, and muscle weighs a lot more than fat!

(Sorry about the bold)

Go by how your clothes feel! :A