What should I do...?

so12345

dottymrsp wrote: »

I would say it seems like you're both hurting right now and you're both going through a really tough time. Don't be too hard on him, we all make mistakes, and certainly in my book, love is about forgiveness.

The best thing you can do right now is talk to him - tell him how you're feeling (without laying on too much blame if you can) find out how he's feeling - together you ARE stronger, and you can get through this :-)

Thank you. I do feel like we need to talk to each other more about our feelings. I know we both keep alot in and that can't go on if we try to work things through.

Pollycat

so12345 wrote: »

I don't think I'll be needing a termination because I've had lots of pain and bleeding since yesterday lunchtime. Not looking for sympathy, I don't deserve it. My consultation appointment at the hospital is next week so they'll probably be able to tell me then. Unless I show signs of infection, in which case I'll have to see my GP sooner.

Don't say that!

You're not the one who has been sending rude photos of yourself to some random man.

As for the termination, I'm sure you both must have given it much thought before coming to that decision.

What about counselling/marriage guidance?

preciousillusions

why is the woman here the 'skaink' as you put it?! Such double standards!

so12345

She's a skank for sending him messages, her phone number and naked pics. He's just as much of a skank for responding to them. At no point have I said he's an innocent party in any of this. Because he isn't. Which is why I've been considering ending our relationship.

so12345

Pollycat wrote: »

Don't say that!

You're not the one who has been sending rude photos of yourself to some random man.

As for the termination, I'm sure you both must have given it much thought before coming to that decision.

What about counselling/marriage guidance?

Yes, that's what my oh has suggested. I think we'll try something like that.

duchy

preciousillusions wrote: »

why is the woman here the 'skaink' as you put it?! Such double standards!

Possibly because decent women don't throw themselves at attached men and send them intimate photos and then try to follow their wives on social media ?

Sounds pretty skanky behaviour to me- Doesn't excuse the OP's partner of his part in it as it takes two to tango but some women's lack of self respect amazes me. Talk about desperate !

lazer

so12345 wrote: »

I don't think I'll be needing a termination because I've had lots of pain and bleeding since yesterday lunchtime. Not looking for sympathy, I don't deserve it. My consultation appointment at the hospital is next week so they'll probably be able to tell me then. Unless I show signs of infection, in which case I'll have to see my GP sooner.

So to the doctor/hospital and get checked out sooner than next week. and then at least you will know.

stormbreaker

I am sorry to hear about the possibility that you may have lost the child:(

I think you should go to counselling together. You have already said that he wants to be more intimate than you. With that in mind and the fact that you have had an unwanted pregnancy, you will be even less inclined to get intimate for fear that you will fall pregnant again.

I don't think you should separate for any time. He may feel pushed out and temptation for him may be greater and it's not that he does not love you but his sexual frustration may take over.

I truly hope you can both work it out.

(ps. It is true that men are from Mars and women from Venus )

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

The_Goob wrote: »

I would say it to her face. I'm a Catholic and proud of it. With exception to you, all of the other posters mentioning me are committing religious discrimination.

Not a particularly good (or educated) one, if you think the Church would be ok with the removal of a pair of testicles as a means of permanent contraception.

j.e.j.

The_Goob wrote: »

I would say it to her face. I'm a Catholic and proud of it. With exception to you, all of the other posters mentioning me are committing religious discrimination.

You can express whatever views you want (in theory!)
But if the post is abusive (or if it offends enough people..) it will get reported/deleted.

As for murder, well murder would of course be homicide
Abortion is by definition foeticide

In any case the OP situation has changed since the discussion yesterday.