What should I do...?

j.e.j.

so12345 wrote: »

I think he liked the attention and the thrill. Maybe I am a little to blame because he wants to be intimate (cough cough) alot more often than I do. But I think I feel so hurt about it all because if was in his position I would never respond in the way he did. Actually, I have been and basically told the person that I'm not interested. And that was that.

It could be that if his needs aren't being met at home he might start looking elsewhere, but if you both are keen to work through things, maybe with a marriage counsellor (?) you might be able to address this, and come to a compromise.

so12345

Everyone is entitled to their own opinions on abortion. I've always thought that I would never terminate a pregnancy. Until I was in the position I'm in. And I'm glad that I have the choice. It's not a decision I've made lightly and it will take me a long time to come to terms with it. Or maybe I will never be able to. But it's the choice I've made.

mellymoo74

And that is why instantly jumping in with the hate really hacks me off.

All posts from our friend the fruit loop have been reported

so12345

Person_one wrote: »

I have to admit, I don't find his story entirely believable. Is your partner so drop dead gorgeous and stunning to look at naked that its possible a stranger would be so desperate to keep receiving messages and photos from him that she'd blackmail him? After all, if you're a woman who wants to receive lewd messages from men online, its not something that's in short supply, is it?

Or, does he know this woman? Is there more to the backstory?

This did make me laugh haha! Apparently this woman has done it before to someone else on twitter. And then kind of stalked/slagged them off when he wanted no more to do with her. Not sure if she is mentally unbalanced or just likes to cause trouble. But obviously it's not just her fault. Although if he knew this why even get involved in the first place? Unless he remembered about it when it was too late.

j.e.j.

so12345 wrote: »

Everyone is entitled to their own opinions on abortion. I've always thought that I would never terminate a pregnancy. Until I was in the position I'm in. And I'm glad that I have the choice. It's not a decision I've made lightly and it will take me a long time to come to terms with it. Or maybe I will never be able to. But it's the choice I've made.

Lots of women have abortions.

I don't know how many of them go on to have guilt-feelings afterwards, but the main thing is it is your decision, and that YOU feel happy and comfortable about the choice you are making.

If you don't, then it is not too late to change your mind.

Good luck whatever you decide.

Person_one

so12345 wrote: »

This did make me laugh haha! Apparently this woman has done it before to someone else on twitter. And then kind of stalked/slagged them off when he wanted no more to do with her. Not sure if she is mentally unbalanced or just likes to cause trouble. But obviously it's not just her fault. Although if he knew this why even get involved in the first place? Unless he remembered about it when it was too late.

So he does know her then?

so12345

j.e.j. wrote: »

It could be that if his needs aren't being met at home he might start looking elsewhere, but if you both are keen to work through things, maybe with a marriage counsellor (?) you might be able to address this, and come to a compromise.

Maybe we do need some kind of counselling together if we are to fix things. Obviously something is wrong, but not wrong enough for him to want to leave me? I'm just worried now that this is the tip of the iceberg and there have been other times/things that I don't know about.

so12345

Person_one wrote: »

So he does know her then?

He knows her from twitter, not in real life. He said they've followed each other on there for quite a while. I don't think he's lied about any of it because I can easily contact this woman if I need to, seeing as she's followed me on my Instagram account. Not sure if I'd want to contact her but on the other hand I'm not sure if she plans to get in touch with me or carry through whatever threats she made to my OH.

Person_one

Is there any particular reason why he follows her? How did they first connect and when?

so12345

I think it's just a case of when someone follows you and you follow them back. Which I have also done. I'll find out the ins and outs later but all I know right now is that they've followed each other on there for quite a while.