What should I do...?

Mojisola

j.e.j. wrote: »

It was this part:

..speaks volumes, imo.

But you may be right. Perhaps he is doing it to get back at her.

I still don't see anything saying that he has put pressure on her to go for a termination.

He might be hating the idea of the termination as well and the texting be a stupid stress reaction.

If she feels so bad about the termination, it needs to be talked about more before going ahead with it - possibly with an independent person as well as each other.
http://www.bpas.org/bpaswoman/counselling

clairec79

You do need to seperate the two situations in your own head

If you are not sure about the termination then hang fire (if you are 5 weeks then delaying the decision by a week or two is not going to change things)

paddy's_mum

j.e.j. wrote: »

Seems that there's immature behaviour on both sides

Excuse me? What 'immature behaviour' on her part is that, then?

Rambosmum

End it. He's done it before, he'll do it again. He's clearly very emotional about the pregnancy/ termination and can't cope with those emotions so he's looking for a way out/ distraction. But that isn't what you need- you need honesty of emotion in your relationship for it to proceed in a positive way.

January20

Post 16 by the Goob

Unacceptable judgemental post. Reported!

so12345

Thanks for the frank opinions everyone. There's been lots of very good advice. Ill be back later when I'm at home to respond. Forgot to say that the twitter progressed to phone numbers, I don't know but it all seems to have escalated quickly? And about the termination, I suppose it was more my decision although we both agreed it is for the best in the circumstances we are in (we decided before all the other stuff came out).

mellymoo74

January20 wrote: »

Post 18 by the Goob

Unacceptable judgemental post. Reported!

Me too January.
Can you unquote it those that have otherwise it will be left on if deleted.

so12345

We did use protection.

Person_one

I have to admit, I don't find his story entirely believable. Is your partner so drop dead gorgeous and stunning to look at naked that its possible a stranger would be so desperate to keep receiving messages and photos from him that she'd blackmail him? After all, if you're a woman who wants to receive lewd messages from men online, its not something that's in short supply, is it?

Or, does he know this woman? Is there more to the backstory?

As for the abortion, ClaireC79 is absolutely right, you still have time to delay if you aren't sure. If you do go ahead, it isn't murder, it isn't wrong, it isn't ending a life, it is a decision that only you can make and if you do make it then its because its what's right for you and your existing children at this moment in time and you'd have no reason to feel guilty.

Mercenary

January20 wrote: »

Post 16 by the Goob

Unacceptable judgemental post. Reported!

Also reported. As unacceptable and against Women's rights.
Have also reported the disgusting post #23 (from someone who doesn't even know that castration is a male procedure).