What should I do...?

marisco_2

The_Goob wrote: »

You should have been castrated then if you knew prior that the next one was going to be murdered. You disgust me.

You are entitled to your views on abortion. There is nothing though that justifies you coming onto this thread behaving like a vicious keyboard warrior intent on judging the OP, making abhorrent remarks which I doubt you would have the nerve to say to her face to face, whilst offering nothing in the form of constructive advice.

I suggest you look deep within yourself and think about the necessary improvements you need to make to your approach to others, before you have the almighty cheek to tell someone else that they disgust you.

Person_one

marisco wrote: »

You are entitled to your views on abortion. There is nothing though that justifies you coming onto this thread behaving like a vicious keyboard warrior intent on judging the OP, making abhorrent remarks which I doubt you would have the nerve to say to her face to face, whilst offering nothing in the form of constructive advice.

I suggest you look deep within yourself and think about the necessary improvements you need to make to your approach to others, before you have the almighty cheek to tell someone else that they disgust you.

Just ignore and report.

Its a troll, your giving it exactly the response it wants.

j.e.j.

Everyone is entitled to their opinions (be it on foeticide or whatever else).

However, the way they express those opinions might have some bearing on whether or not they are taken seriously

Don't get into a conversation with him/her, OP.

January20

j.e.j. wrote: »

Everyone is entitled to their opinions (be it on foeticide or whatever else).

However, the way they express those opinions might have some bearing on whether or not they are taken seriously

Don't get into a conversation with him/her, OP.

There is also a time and a place for certain discussions. This thread today is not the place for a discussion or accusations! The OP was not asking for opinion or advice on her termination, was she?

As for the posters who say the OP doesn't sound sure of her choice, it is totally possible to make a decision which is the best decision for a couple, a family, and still not be happy about that decision.

In view of the mess that seems to be happening in this relationship, I hope posters will no try and convince the OP one way or another.

This is real life. Her life.

She know all the in and outs of her situation. We don't.

She will be the one affected by her decision, she will be the one dealing with the outcome whilst we will all have probably forgotten she ever posted here! (I'm sorry So12345 but this is the reality of forums)

j.e.j.

January20 wrote: »

There is also a time and a place for certain discussions. This thread today is not the place for a discussion or accusations! The OP was not asking for opinion or advice on her termination, was she?

As for the posters who say the OP doesn't sound sure of her choice, it is totally possible to make a decision which is the best decision for a couple, a family, and still not be happy about that decision.

In view of the mess that seems to be happening in this relationship, I hope posters will no try and convince the OP one way or another.

This is real life. Her life.

She know all the in and outs of her situation. We don't.

She will be the one affected by her decision, she will be the one dealing with the outcome whilst we will all have probably forgotten she ever posted here! (I'm sorry So12345 but this is the reality of forums)

^^ It certainly is...

But you've been on here long enough to know that discussions quickly sway away from the the original topic of conversation. In fact it's rare that they keep to just one subject, - like in real life, I suppose.

The fact that the original post contains a topic that could potentially be emotive and controversial has, predictably, drawn opinions here and there. And it's evidently hit a raw nerve with some. Nothing new there.

As I say, it's not about the opinions themselves, more the way someone chooses to express them. You can say you disagree strongly with something without name-calling or getting hysterical.

so12345

Thanks again for all your responses. The latest is that this woman has started following me on my Instagram page. Hers is locked so I can't nose at any of her pics and I've not refollowed. Not sure what she wants to happen next but I've just left it as that. Plus, I'm not vain but she is much older and definitely a few steps down in the looks dept. Not sure if that makes me feel better or worse to be honest. I'll talk to my partner after the kids have gone to bed and find out exactly what happened and when. She is not local, her location is hundreds of miles away.

thorsoak

The_Goob wrote: »

You should have been castrated then if you knew prior that the next one was going to be murdered. You disgust me.

Goob: Your ignorance as well as your bigoted views disgust the majority of posters here. Your posts have been reported as going against the ethos of ToS on Moneysavingexpert.

Whilst you may be entitled to hold them - they are your views and your views only. Ignorant and bigoted are the words that come to mind.

so12345

stormbreaker wrote: »

It is escapism for him. You are hormonal. I think the fact it has only been since Monday and he is already racked with guilt that he told you, does say something for how he feels about you. He has had a moment of weakness and quickly realised following the threat of blackmail what he has to lose.

I am sure you can work things through in time. Whilst you are hormonal is not the time to make rash decisions.

Honestly is the best policy and if it come out in the wash that there is more, then may be the time to take stock.

Thanks Stormbreaker. The thing is I'm not sure if it was the guilt or the fear of what this woman may do that made him tell me. Maye we can work things through. He's said he wants to get some kind of therapy because he doesn't know why he responded to even the first message. I just don't know how I will be able to trust him again. I hadn't completely rebuilt my trust in him from the first time...

so12345

It's difficult to try and get any space away from each other for a while as he has no family here. Apart from mine. He could stay with my parents for a while but my mother has her own issues making her very difficult to live with. He has some friends at work who he could probably stay with. But they are out partying most nights as they're young free and single...

so12345

I think he liked the attention and the thrill. Maybe I am a little to blame because he wants to be intimate (cough cough) alot more often than I do. But I think I feel so hurt about it all because if was in his position I would never respond in the way he did. Actually, I have been and basically told the person that I'm not interested. And that was that.