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God Only Gives Us As Much As We Can Handle?? HUH!

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  • Faith177
    Faith177 Posts: 2,927 Forumite
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    Domayne wrote: »
    I read this fabulous quote somewhere on the mse boards yesterday, can't remember where but it went....

    'Everything will be alright in the end. And if it's not alright, it's not yet the end....'

    Or something xD

    I'm sure everything will be ok *sending you hugs* try not to stress too much as it only makes things worse. And when the wolf knocks, just offer him cookies ;)

    You have no idea how much this just made me smile thank you :)
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  • Money_maker
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    Sounds to me like you need to sit down with both sets of parents (or mums) and explain that you cannot continue to financially support them whatever crisis they are going through. They certainly shouldn't be accepting this from you both when times are so hard.

    This could solve a lot of your problems if your OH manages to hang onto his job.
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  • Faith177
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    edited 22 January 2015 at 10:39AM
    ViolaLass wrote: »
    Is he not putting both of you through this?

    You're married but sound like two very separate individuals. Not a criticism, just an observation.

    I agree totally with regards to money and bills we have totally different out looks but then so did my mum and dad and they say girls marry their fathers :rotfl:

    He is awful with money and I mean like really bad he is constantly getting charges from the bank which I hate as I have never had a bank charge in my life. He doesn't ever seem bothered by late payment charges or going over his credit limit permantely lives in his overdraft. Where as again I have no overdraft at all and refuse to have one if I can't afford it I can't buy it

    I think it's because he was always use to having money before moving in with me whereas I had brought my house at 20 so learnt to budget quickly. He has gotten better but he still just sometimes amazes me

    Example yesterday he decided to drive to birmingham from London to see his mum and then go play in his mates photography studio. I had no objection to this at all however while he was out with his mum he brought a set of plates for £15. When I asked him why he said "oh because one of the plates broke last week in our set" ok but we have 12 dinner plates in a house of 3 people I'm sure we could have waited to buy some replacement plates once we knew he had a job still *grrrr* lol
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  • mogwai
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    OP you do seem highly strung about this - my advice would be just wait and see..nothing may come of it apart from a slap on the wrist. Save your energy in case you do need it (hopefully not)

    Good luck for your OH today x
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  • pollypenny
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    I hope things work out for you and your OH, Faith!

    I've always been the 'accountant' in our family, too, and we've had to juggle the money many times.

    You shouldn't have to supplement parents, though. It's hard on your mum, who is ill, but your OH's mum sounds careless.
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  • Faith177
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    pollypenny wrote: »
    I hope things work out for you and your OH, Faith!

    I've always been the 'accountant' in our family, too, and we've had to juggle the money many times.

    You shouldn't have to supplement parents, though. It's hard on your mum, who is ill, but your OH's mum sounds careless.

    Thank you :)

    I've pretty much gotten to the what will be will be stage (with just a tiny bit of annoyance on the side)

    He is still waiting for a call now so God knows how much longer they are going to drag it out for :(

    And she is pleads povety but wont give up her fags or bottles of bacardi :mad:
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  • Mela322
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    Your title isn't correct and isn't in the bible. That quote came about from 1 Corinthians 10:13

    3 No temptation[c] has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted[d] beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted,[e] he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it.

    Paul is reminding his readers that God will not allow people to be tempted beyond their abilities. That is, there is no temptation that you should feel you are powerless against, because God would not allow you to be tempted by something you couldn’t resist. If you’re being tempted, in Paul’s thinking, it’s something you are strong enough to resist.

    Personally, I feel new doors are always being open to us and in the process, old doors need to be closed. Hold tight to your faith and God WILL see you both through this. Also remember, God is a comforting God and is always by your side.

    Disclaimer-I'm not religious, I just go to church and try and live by the bible and I'm human and not perfect and I still sin, but I fight back hard.
  • cavework
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    If he was employed by me and this was his only mistake I would be looking at areas where I may have failed him as employer and maybe offering some retraining.
    I think things will turn out OK but if he is finding some aspects of his job difficult he could actually earn brownie points by asking for extra training to ensure he does not make the same mistake again.
    Hope this helps
  • McCloud1
    McCloud1 Posts: 127 Forumite
    Hi Faith177,

    It's horrid when you feel you're on a constant up-hill climb. Just know that perseverance, and striving for something better every single day, will eventually yield results.

    Imagine you are digging a well; the earth may look dry, but you could be a few shovels away from water. Giving up is the only time you truly fail.

    I hope you get there soon.
  • Faith177
    Faith177 Posts: 2,927 Forumite
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    Thank you Cavework and McCloud1

    I had a good cry yesterday (had some bad news about my mum) and got a lot of my chest and OH did too and I feel a little brighter today

    I managed to get a second job doing bar work last night. I only went into enquire they offered me an interview then and there and hired me on the spot so that is a little bit extra coming into the house so that will ease things a little bit.

    We are STILL waiting for a call from his work the latest they were meant to call was yesterday so who knows :(

    This is the first thing he has struggled with there up to now so hopefully they will see it for the genuine mistake that it is and give him a break
    First Date 08/11/2008, Moved In Together 01/06/2009, Engaged 01/01/10, Wedding Day 27/04/2013, Baby Moshie due 29/06/2019 :T
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