God Only Gives Us As Much As We Can Handle?? HUH!

zarf2007

jaylee3 wrote: »

I would love to know where this place is.

I have worked at about 25 places in my life (15 of them over 2 years, whilst I was a temp in London in the late 1990s,) and I have never worked anywhere where you could 'come in when you like' and 'leave when you like' and pop off to do personal shopping mid morning or mid afternoon whenever it suits, and still have a full hour for lunch. When does anyone ever get any work done?

Surely you jest. A place like this does not exist.

just work in any council office and you will get a taste of this.....institutional lazyness.....

I was quite amused when the public sector workers such as council workers were upset over pension/pay freezes etc...they wouldn't last five minutes in the private sector.....

if you want a stress free life (admittedly with lower pay most times) work for the council.

Faith177

deannatrois wrote: »

Usually invoicing errors can be corrected with credit or debit notes.., so no loss is made. They're not desirable, but they definitely happen.

Obviously what the company does can't be controlled but if your husband makes it clear what he can do to make sure the error never happens again, it will help. Quite often we learn a huge amount from errors so they turn out to be of benefit.

Try to encourage him to be apologetic, acknowledging what he's done wrong but also as confident as he can be that he has learned from the experience and is worth keeping on the payroll (without being arrogant). If he talks about it like a shambling defeated idiot, it won't help

This is what I think he will do

He believes he knows how the mistake happened and explained it to me last night it's all down to 1 digit being wrong but the company who he over charged have put a complaint in about it saying if it is rectified straight away they will take their business elsewhere. Due to the way the other company are acting might be why they are being so strict on this with the suspension.

DKLS

jaylee3 wrote: »

I would love to know where this place is.

I have worked at about 25 places in my life (15 of them over 2 years, whilst I was a temp in London in the late 1990s,) and I have never worked anywhere where you could 'come in when you like' and 'leave when you like' and pop off to do personal shopping mid morning or mid afternoon whenever it suits, and still have a full hour for lunch. When does anyone ever get any work done?

Surely you jest. A place like this does not exist.

Friend of my wife gets half a day a week off to get her hair and nails done and spend her 20k annual clothing allowance. But there are some downsides to that job as she is on call pretty much 24/7.

ViolaLass

Faith177 wrote: »

Just annoyed that he can put me through this when he knows I'm struggling as it is even if it was unintentional

Is he not putting both of you through this?

You're married but sound like two very separate individuals. Not a criticism, just an observation.

Morglin

zarf2007 wrote: »

just work in any council office and you will get a taste of this.....institutional lazyness.....

I was quite amused when the public sector workers such as council workers were upset over pension/pay freezes etc...they wouldn't last five minutes in the private sector.....

if you want a stress free life (admittedly with lower pay most times) work for the council.

Well, I don't know where you work, but I worked in both the private and public sector, and the hardest I have ever worked was in the public sector!

14 hour days were fairly regular, and lunch hours were generally a forlorn hope - unlike my previous private sector jobs.

(and paid less than I would have been in the private sector, although the pension is very good)

All places vary, and some jobs are more demanding than others - some people crumble in any demanding job.

Lin

geerex

Reading between the lines, you have no respect for your OH. You talk about financially crippling "me" rather than "us" and your whole tone seems to just blame him for everything.
You sound way too highly strung and I feel for the poor guy who is going through a hard time with little support from you.
I'm sure if you were a man and your partner female there would be some very different responses on this thread. Some posters should be ashamed of themselves.

Domayne

I don't believe in god. But yes, you can handle this even if life is tough right now. Its certainly nothing to throw yourself off of a bridge over

Faith177

geerex wrote: »

Reading between the lines, you have no respect for your OH. You talk about financially crippling "me" rather than "us" and your whole tone seems to just blame him for everything.
You sound way too highly strung and I feel for the poor guy who is going through a hard time with little support from you.
I'm sure if you were a man and your partner female there would be some very different responses on this thread. Some posters should be ashamed of themselves.

That's because it will fall on me to support both of us just like last time.

I suffer with anxiety and depression so that's why i might seem highly strung which is also why OH's attitude of "we'll sort it" drives me mad because I cant just mentally leave it to him to come up with solutions because I fear we would lose everything

I have supported him at every turn in our relationship I supported him when he moved 180 miles away to take the opportunity of a promotion and he was away for 2 years. I supported him when he decided he had, had enough and wanted to come home and took a 6K pay cut to do this, I supported him when he was unemployed for 6 months, I supported him when he decided he wanted to start doing photography and even gave him half towards his 2.5K camera and helped him plan shoots and suggested ideas for him to use, I supported him through several other "situations" that I don't really want to go into right now or I'd be here all day

Faith177

Domayne wrote: »

I don't believe in god. But yes, you can handle this even if life is tough right now. Its certainly nothing to throw yourself off of a bridge over

I know and i'm hoping it's going to turn out ok

We'll battle on we always do but I'm just fed up of constantly trying to keep the wolf from the door and had my hopes set that this would be the year the cycle would break lol

Domayne

Faith177 wrote: »

I know and i'm hoping it's going to turn out ok

We'll battle on we always do but I'm just fed up of constantly trying to keep the wolf from the door and had my hopes set that this would be the year the cycle would break lol

I read this fabulous quote somewhere on the mse boards yesterday, can't remember where but it went....

'Everything will be alright in the end. And if it's not alright, it's not yet the end....'

Or something xD

I'm sure everything will be ok *sending you hugs* try not to stress too much as it only makes things worse. And when the wolf knocks, just offer him cookies