What is the point of being married?

duchy

It's kind of ironic that whilst many hetrosexual couples insist marriage is an outdated convention many gay couples are queuing up to get married after decades of campaigning for the right to do so.

Morglin

I spent 30 years married to 'Mr Wrong For Me' and wishing I wasn't married.:eek:

After 30 years, I got myself together and filed for divorce - which cost me a fortune, as I had to pay him off to get shot swiftly. :mad:

I met a man, who had virtually been through the same with his ex - we lived together swearing that marriage just wasn't for us....but once we were sure we had found soul mates in each other, we suddenly couldn't wait to get wed lol

So, we did, nearly 10 years ago, and I am glad we did - I love being his wife, and am proud to have his name and wear his ring.:j

Lin

TonyMMM

One of the saddest things is when one of the unwed partners dies after being together for years and the survivor finds they can often only be shown on the death certificate as "person arranging the funeral" because the law doesn't recognise them as being family.

MissHope

I agree with the posters who have said it's a very subjective thing; marriage isn't for everyone and I have some very happily unmarried friends.

Personally, I would very much like to get married in the future - with the right person - because to me, it's about creating a new little family with that person and I would feel more safe and secure with that additional act of commitment than just living together.

My views may be coloured by all the long, happy marriages my parents and grandparents have enjoyed and the two failed LTRs I have experienced in my life - both of which were living-together-but-not-married relationships.

Andy_89

Very much agree with the above.

I am getting married;

- Because I want to, I was brought up that it is the right thing to do when you commit your life to someone.
- I want to make proverbial extra step to show my committment to my OH.

The presents and the day, don't bother me that much. The honeymoon is where it is at.

AngelOfTheNorth

TonyMMM wrote: »

One of the saddest things is when one of the unwed partners dies after being together for years and the survivor finds they can often only be shown on the death certificate as "person arranging the funeral" because the law doesn't recognise them as being family.

Yes. Cohabiting is absolutely fine when things are going fine. Less so when the !!!! hits the fan, unless the couple have ensured they're well prepared.

Claire_A87

I wasn't looking for you to pick apart my reasons for wanting to get married Mojisola, merely answering the original question of the thread on why should people get married with my own reasons. As I said, it's a personal decision as it's your own life. Your own justifications for wanting to be married are valid as long as you believe them. People are of course free to challenge them, but no one should tell you you're wrong.

And thank you for your rather patronising comment regarding a wedding not a marriage. As i don't have a ring on my finger I obviously have no concept of the difference...

Mojisola

Claire_A87 wrote: »

I wasn't looking for you to pick apart my reasons for wanting to get married Mojisola, merely answering the original question of the thread on why should people get married with my own reasons. As I said, it's a personal decision as it's your own life. Your own justifications for wanting to be married are valid as long as you believe them. People are of course free to challenge them, but no one should tell you you're wrong.

And thank you for your rather patronising comment regarding a wedding not a marriage. As i don't have a ring on my finger I obviously have no concept of the difference...

There was no intention to patronise you - there have been a lot of threads before about getting married and it's quite common to hear people say things like "We'd like to get married but can't afford it" because they haven't got the money for a big do - it's very cheap to get married - not so cheap if you want a big wedding.

Absolutely agree with you that every couple should make their own choices. What's sad is when people make the choice to live together not realising that they don't have the legal protection that the marriage certificate brings.

There are still a lot of people who think that a "common law marriage" exists and that they have legal protections just because they have lived together for a long time.

corf999

Unfortunately the only reason to get married is 'death' (next of kin etc)

My partner is keen, I see it as an outdated religious ceremony stolen from older family-family contracts and don't think it is relevant in today's world.

I don't see the gain from a bit of paper saying i'm married.

mildredalien

I never thought I'd get married, but I am. As a feminist parts of the normal wedding traditions make me cringe - after all it did used to be all about handing over possession of a woman from father to husband. Yuck!

However, with my current partner I just felt that him being my 'boyfriend' wasn't enough. It felt right to take that extra step of commitment to each other, so why not? Plus, an excuse for shiny jewelry, a new dress, a bang up meal and an exotic holiday - all things I heartily enjoy