what do you do in the evening and weekends?

calleyw

Retroguyuk wrote: »

It's a shame when you don't necessarily sound happy with the way things are at the moment, but I'm not sure really what else I can suggest- if you don't do things where you go out and meet more people, you're lowering your chances of meeting someone new.

But I wish you luck and hope you feel better about your situation soon

Its not that I am not happy just resigned to it. Yes I know if I don't get out there then no I wont meet people.

All my boyfriend relationships I fell in to by meeting through others or living close by.

Yours

Calley

Lady_Bee

I live on my own, always have done since moving out of home. I've never had a relationship and I'm not really bothered about meeting anyone. If it happened great but I'm not ever going to actively pursue it. I do work full time and my colleagues are okay but we don't socialise outside work and I wouldn't want to.

I don't have many friends so most of my evenings are spent at home on my own with the telly for company. My parents live close by so I go round there for tea once a week and then spend Saturday round there too so I do get out a bit. My main company for years was my sister but she moved abroad a few years ago. I look forward to my holidays visiting her and hopefully somewhere down the line I will be able to join her. She's single too so I'm seeing us as two old spinsters living the good life in our old age!

Whilst I'm happy with how I am at the moment one of my worries is how things will become in the future. I'm in my late 30's, obviously if things go to plan there are plenty of years ahead for me and family but I do worry about how life might be if something were to happen to my sister who I hope to have as my long term company after my parents have passed. I guess this is a natural worry for all but without children I do worry that I will be lonely in my old age.

It is really interesting to read thoughts of other people who are in the same boat. I think outside pressure makes us feel like we should always be doing something, be in a fantastic relationship etc. I'm currently happy with my circumstances so I'm sticking with that

carefullycautious

You and Retroguy seem to have a good dialogue going!!!

goggle

what about volunteering - helping at Brownies for instance is very rewarding, can take as much or as little time as you wish & you will get to know all sorts of people
Evening classes etc are also good - even shy people can find that going to something they have paid for & are thus there as a consumer (much as if you were going to the cinema etc) is easier than going to a "social event"
Where in the country are you? Maybe another lonely MSEr would like to meet up!

calleyw

carefullycautious wrote: »

You and Retroguy seem to have a good dialogue going!!!

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Yours

Calley

calleyw

Well its been a few days.

And thought I would just come back and fill people in if the are interested.

Meet someone and seen them 3 times in a week and half. if it goes no where I have made a new friend.

But in general feeling much more contented and happy to be on my own and at home.

Started to have a massive declutter. Living looks like a whirlwind has been through it with stuff every where LOL!!!

Just think I might need to be a bit more ruthless with my stuff.

Hope everyone else is ok.

Take care

Yours

Calley

d70cw6

Probably be frowned on by some here - but have you tried online gaming (an mmo, like wow maybe?)

onomatopoeia99

calleyw wrote: »

Meet someone and seen them 3 times in a week and half.

Firstly, yay

Secondly, for the benefit of all of us singletons reading this, where? how? (etc)

ColS_2

Long time lurker, but finally decided to join and actually post a message after coming across this thread ......

Not saying that I'm glad you find yourselves in this situation (at least, not the ones who are unhappy about it), but I have to say that it is a bit of a relief for me to realise that I'm not the only one.

Deep down, I know that everyone's lives can't all be so much more filled with excitement and fun than mine, but sometimes it seems that way. For way too long now, mine has been a case of get up, grab a shower, go to work, come home, bit of housework, have something to eat , watch TV / read, go to sleep, rinse and repeat

All too often it does feel like you are the only one living that sort of existence, I'm afraid

calleyw

onomatopoeia99 wrote: »

Firstly, yay

Secondly, for the benefit of all of us singletons reading this, where? how? (etc)

I meet them on POF and we both have an interest in common. Him being more hard core than me LOL!!!

Yours

Calley