New Alcohol self help

brodev

I have literally lost count of the people I have know who have ended their own lives. I still get shocked, however, every time I hear of it happening or being attempted.
I have tried to do this myself on two occasions. I found myself in a black soulless place where no one cared and no one bothered, least of all me. I really do not want to go back there. The insanity of the illness that I suffer from is I tend to forget about that place and forget that one drink is all that I need to take me back there. Fortunately I am not solely reliant on myself as I have the support of AA and my higher power.

brodev

After all this doom and gloom I would like to share a good experience. I was in a market cafe today with an old AA friend. After a while a 40ish man and wife came in with their young family. After a few mins. the man came over and asked my friend his name. He then went on to thank my friend as he had heard him speaking at a prison meeting of AA over 10 years ago. He explained that he had identified with him and that on his release and return home a few weeks later he had joined his local group and had been sober ever since(and jail free). He had tried to find out about my friend but to no avail. My friend was totally humbled by the experience and overjoyed. Afterwards he told me that he could not even remember the evening as he was a prison sponsor for some years. My friend and I together with guy and his wife left for home with a spring in our steps.

andipandi_2

brodev wrote: »

After all this doom and gloom I would like to share a good experience. I was in a market cafe today with an old AA friend. After a while a 40ish man and wife came in with their young family. After a few mins. the man came over and asked my friend his name. He then went on to thank my friend as he had heard him speaking at a prison meeting of AA over 10 years ago. He explained that he had identified with him and that on his release and return home a few weeks later he had joined his local group and had been sober ever since(and jail free). He had tried to find out about my friend but to no avail. My friend was totally humbled by the experience and overjoyed. Afterwards he told me that he could not even remember the evening as he was a prison sponsor for some years. My friend and I together with guy and his wife left for home with a spring in our steps.

yeah excellent good news,well done to your mate:T

lewt

brodev wrote: »

After all this doom and gloom I would like to share a good experience. I was in a market cafe today with an old AA friend. After a while a 40ish man and wife came in with their young family. After a few mins. the man came over and asked my friend his name. He then went on to thank my friend as he had heard him speaking at a prison meeting of AA over 10 years ago. He explained that he had identified with him and that on his release and return home a few weeks later he had joined his local group and had been sober ever since(and jail free). He had tried to find out about my friend but to no avail. My friend was totally humbled by the experience and overjoyed. Afterwards he told me that he could not even remember the evening as he was a prison sponsor for some years. My friend and I together with guy and his wife left for home with a spring in our steps.

Thats wicked mate, funny how something we dont remember means so much to others aint it.... ?

annapantscats

brodev wrote: »

After all this doom and gloom I would like to share a good experience. I was in a market cafe today with an old AA friend. After a while a 40ish man and wife came in with their young family. After a few mins. the man came over and asked my friend his name. He then went on to thank my friend as he had heard him speaking at a prison meeting of AA over 10 years ago. He explained that he had identified with him and that on his release and return home a few weeks later he had joined his local group and had been sober ever since(and jail free). He had tried to find out about my friend but to no avail. My friend was totally humbled by the experience and overjoyed. Afterwards he told me that he could not even remember the evening as he was a prison sponsor for some years. My friend and I together with guy and his wife left for home with a spring in our steps.

What a lovely story...thanks for posting it Brodev

I use to do quite alot of prison talks so your post has given me a little bit of hope that maybe, somewhere along the line, I have helped/inspired someone to turn their life around.

lewt

I've done one prison share at an under 21's place. it was good that all the lads were honest with there talking and questions. but sad as 3 out of the 5 that came were in black out when they did whatever it ws they did to be there. it made me think about my self and the things i have done in black out and either never been caught for or just simpley cant remember and have never been told.

just to keep you in the loop my man who was in hospital is back there again tonight after being sent home the next morning i got a flurry of calls about an hour ago saying they had got strange texts from him so i phoned his phone and got through to his wife who was distraught saying he had taken and od again. the long and short is that luckly we have a doctor amongst us and he got up there sharpish and got him to A&E. i waiting for updates as i type. i have heard he is ok though.

Could i have done more? i dont know. i had asked him to phone everyday which he did until today. i was just thinking i hadnt heard from him when i got the texts. I'm just hoping he aint one of the incabable ones that cannot or will not get honest.

i'm at work btw so sorry to filll the thread with "down" topics. i find that just typing is a release too.

I have also been on my knees praying he gets through this.

andipandi_2

lewt wrote: »

I've done one prison share at an under 21's place. it was good that all the lads were honest with there talking and questions. but sad as 3 out of the 5 that came were in black out when they did whatever it ws they did to be there. it made me think about my self and the things i have done in black out and either never been caught for or just simpley cant remember and have never been told.

just to keep you in the loop my man who was in hospital is back there again tonight after being sent home the next morning i got a flurry of calls about an hour ago saying they had got strange texts from him so i phoned his phone and got through to his wife who was distraught saying he had taken and od again. the long and short is that luckly we have a doctor amongst us and he got up there sharpish and got him to A&E. i waiting for updates as i type. i have heard he is ok though.

Could i have done more? i dont know. i had asked him to phone everyday which he did until today. i was just thinking i hadnt heard from him when i got the texts. I'm just hoping he aint one of the incabable ones that cannot or will not get honest.

i'm at work btw so sorry to filll the thread with "down" topics. i find that just typing is a release too.

I have also been on my knees praying he gets through this.

sounds like your doing all you can lewt

lewt

thanks my mates been to see him, he took a lot of xtasy, but was sick. hes still off his bean though. and is being kept in, and i'll hear more tomorrow.

ginger

Hi everyone.

I've subscribed to earlier threads on this subject and am pleased to see it is still going. I think it's important to remember there's many reasons for turning to alcohol and job/debt/money problems are some of them so I do think there is a link to this site. My OH is an alcoholic. It's not easy to say or admit but that's the situation. He won't face it even though he has been told by doctors (and more recently a consultant neurologist) that he HAS to stop drinking or risks brain damage. He has lost jobs/friends because of drink and has had a number of fits because of drink. He neglects our children in that when he drinks during the day he often falls asleep and I come in from work about 6 to find they haven't been fed and even the dog hasn't been fed all day. The house is a disgrace as he isn't doing anything around the house (he isn't working and I am) and I am at the end of my tether. He's been referred to alcohol counsellors but doesn;t do. I know that to keep my sanity and to protect my children he has to leave but I also think that if I made him leave he would not be able to cope and would do something stupid. I feel responsible for him even though he refuses to take responsibility for himself and has little concern for my or our children's feelings. Sorry I don't know what response to expect I just needed to rant a bit and feel better about it. Any advice?

L

brodev

Hi Ginger, I am no expert in coping with life whilst living with an alcoholic. I would strongly suggest that you contact Alanon. The contacts are in the first post in this thread. I wish you and your OH every success