New Alcohol self help

habibi_2

Hi Feelie I'm good thanks. How's your life now?

So quiet on here these days. What happened to Lewt?
x

lewt

Im still around. i just aint been to the thread for a while.... will read through now and catch up

sparrer

Just catching up and reading the posts as I haven't been here for some time. I had my 5th b/day on Wednesday 24th and am celebrating by taking myself off to the Jersey convention on Thursday

Thanks to my fellowship, my higher power, my sponsor, my friends, the support of my family and boards such as this for helping me stay on the straight path. Without you all I'd no doubt be dead today and leaving memories that my family would rather not have .

Hoping you're all in the pink and just enjoying being alive today. It doesn't have to be anything momentous, just a calm life without the chaos that used to be.
Thank you all, and God bless
Sparrer x

habibi_2

lewt wrote: »

Im still around. i just aint been to the thread for a while.... will read through now and catch up

That's good

jacktyler

hello :hello:

sorry if i'm in the wrong place , is this the alcohol self-help thread?

i was subscribed to it, but haven't looked at it for months, and suddenly, it all seems a bit dodgy? is it closed or is there a new one? apologies if i'm not supposed to ask!! hope someone can point me in the right direction! jack :) :A

savemoney

I wont come on here to have a go at anyone who has a drink problem

I just want to highlight the problems if you dont get help

My reason for posting this is to warn others. I lost my brother aged 45 2 weeks ago because of alcohol abuse over many years. I have had to tell his ex had to trace her and then his daughter who he hasnt seen for many years she is 10. Thats was no fun I can tell you.

I dont know the real reason he did take up drink but I know he had problems from what family said.

My brother did get help from various places like Gilead foundation

It did work for a while when he was there but sadly something made him get back to drink.

I didnt stay in touch with my brother much, none of us in family did. Truth be said he has been a handful most of his life but he wasnt a bad person

My Father and 2nd eldest brother also had drink problems so maybe is connected. I hardly drink I dont socialise much and dont really have the taste for alcohol , maybe because I seen the effects of excessive drink can do

I just want people who have a problems please seek help

savemoney

From my other post above, I wish I didnt post above in some way because now I thinking about my brother.

All of us in family share some guilt. Myself guilt in not realising how bad he was and doing something to help him

brodev

Hello Jack, the thread has not been closed it just seems to have fallen into a unused state. I am subscribed to this thread and therefore I am notified of all new posts. If you need or want some support just let me know and together we can revive this thread.

Savemoney, I am sorry to hear of your loss. Alcoholism is a major killer. It also leaves in its wake unhappiness resentment and guilt. If you think that you would benefit from a talk with someone I would suggest you contact Alanon, details of which are on the first post in this thread

rose28454

I am coming on here for a bit of advice for my ex. He is an alcoholic for 28 years and is 2.5years sober. We have been seperated since he stopped drinking but are still in touch. He called me today to ask for some advice. He goes for coffee or lunch with his parents every Saturday and does not want to stop but they insist on drinking when with him and insist on discussing the merits of white wine. All the years he was drinking they refused to help and were embarrassed by him. The first Xmas he was sober he went to them for Xmas lunch and they drank all day. So last year he invited me and our grown up kids for dinner and we just has a selection of nice soft drinks and when me and the kids got home we then had a drink. The kids both have emotional issues due to the drinking years and are both really close to their Dad now and in fact my DD who had a really difficult relationship with him gave him 3 gifts for Fathers Day last week. I know someone's drinking is not other people's problem but would it be wrong of me to call my brother in law and ask him to mention it to his parents?

Bogof_Babe

Hi rose, good to see this thread bumped again but sorry it is because you have a worry.

I haven't had a drink for two years and eight months, so around the same time as your ex. From my perspective I would only say that as he has found the willpower to stay dry for so long, I'd think he is probably past the point where being with drinkers could sway him. I certainly don't even envy them now, and find it mildly amusing when they are getting steadily plastered.

If he does have a problem with it, maybe he should go back to AA, if that is where he received support in the past. Has he actually said he struggles when he is with his parents, or is it just resentment that they are not appearing to respect his situation?

It's very good of you to be so concerned, given that he is your ex, but as the father of your children I appreciate that you want to encourage him to lead a sober life. It sounds like he is doing very well, and hopefully he will find the strength of character to simply ignore the drinking that goes on around him. It's an attitude of mind, and I'm sure if he works on it he will get over this hurdle.