Official Trying to Conceive - Thread 12

cats2012

Rachylou1981 wrote: »

Thanks Cats. I am just confused about the symptoms I've never had before. I've been off contraceptives in the past (not for TTC) and not had these before so it's all new. I don't know if I can conceive without having had an AF? Internet says people have done.

You definitely can - when you come off femodene you body needs to gear up to release an egg - it hasn't released once for however long you've been on the pill.

Therefore it will release it when it's ready and c.14 days later you will get your first AF. Some people seem to have had it released within a matter of days, for others it takes months.

Yours could quite possibly have released one by now and so yes you could in theory be pregnant. However it would seem unusual to have so many symptoms but no +ve test...possible though!

cats2012

So I was a total idiot and caved and took a test - BFN of course - and then when I wiped (sorry TMI) there was some spotting anyway. So looks like AF is here as timing/type is wrong for implantation and I do feel very AF-y.

I am beyond gutted. I really thought this was our month, we did everything right and it felt more right than ever before. I feel at a complete loss and really scared now that something bigger may be wrong.

If AF comes in full force tomorrow it will be an 11 day LP which isn't ideal but is ok, I've had spotting a lot earlier before.

I'm just really really struggling with how heartbroken I feel. OH keeps telling me we're young and we have time (which is true) but TTC is all I think about morning, noon and night and I don't know how to keep hope up anymore.

I'm really sorry I know all you ladies are the same but I don't know anyone else who can understand the feeling so I just need to put it all out there. Supposed to be going running in a minute and really don't want to but it would probably be good stress relief.

Onwards and upwards I guess - but I'm finding it really hard to believe that anymore

Rachylou1981

Sorry to hear that Cats

I have just came back from doctors, she said nothing I didn't already know. She said I could do a test there but when I asked if it was much different to home tests, she said no and suggested I take a sample for testing in a week if nothing happened. I am pleased I didn't as AF had arrived and greeted me when I got home.

I am relieved as it's a bit of a weight off for my stress levels. I can now plan my cycles and have a bit more clue about what is going on with my body.

I'm obviously fairly new to this thread Cats but it certainly seems that this is the place to vent and rant and chat with other, whatever the situation *hugs*

Jonesy88

I understand how you feel cats, TTC is always on my mind and when babies/having a family crops up in conversation my heart sinks that I feel I need to lie and say "ooo not for a few years yet" etc etc. Mentally I'm also forever working out how dates/events/holidays etc would work if I got a BFP.

In fact a girl announced at work today she is pregnant. Not a surprise, she's had every symptom going. I'm genuinely happy for her but jealous too. I just want it to be our month!

Also, after seeing in mentioned a couple of times on here I've downloaded the Ovia app - how's everyone finding it?

FreddieFrugal

Cats I know exactly what you mean. We've had same feeling the last few cycles.

I've said all the same stuff 'it's still early, we're doing all we can, it's just a case of keeping trying but we'll get there in the end'.

Always come around to being more positive when we get back to trying. But it really is a roller coaster.

As time goes on the troughs seem deeper, especially if your body was cruel and showed you all the signs that you'd succeeded.

As difficult as it is I still genuinely believe that it will happen. Even if we were dealt a rubbish hand at the start losing our first.

You'll pull through, it's something worth fighting for

midget_1907

cats it can feel horrible and cruel but until Af comes in full you're in with a chance. Plus if thyroid is now getting treated maybe it will work soon.

rachy sorry about AF but atleast you can start tracking.

Freddie I hope you have good news soon

As for me the aspirin doesn't seem to have done anything yet. Still no +ve ovulation stick.

cats2012

Oh gosh guys you're all awesome. Don't know what I'd do if I didn't have here to rant :-)

Thanks so much xxx

FreddieFrugal

Still no sign of AF. Getting so excited I looked up the direct referral for our local midwifery services. Since last time they've set up an online form that you can fill in to refer yourself and get booking appointment sorted.

This is the longest that she's ever gone without having any kind of spotting or AF, apart from when she was pregnant.

CD39 - 19DPO or 26DPO (if it was earlier, as we think it was)

Hoping for possible test tomorrow morning! She seems to be coming round to the idea. If not definitely will be testing on Saturday.

fx for everyone else

chocolatelover93

Cats - so sorry to hear that sending massive hugs your way. I know the feeling everyone says the same to us "you're young, don't stress or it will happen when it happens" but it's hard not to stress and get down

Freddie - FX for you

My doc said that to me too that my body is asleep after being on the implant and needs to wake up. Although it did confuse me a bit. Since coming off in Oct I've have two complately normal periods and then this one! Still no AF did a test yesterday and was anot her BFN so annoyed it means we'be basically.missed two months we could be TTC because my body just can't sort itself out!!

cats2012

Wow chocolate are we the same person?!? I had 4 normal months, although admittedly a bit long (c.40 days) then my random 73 day one!!