Official Trying to Conceive - Thread 12

lulu_92

IanRi wrote: »

Seriously! Babies everywhere and now Andy Murray news on every 10 seconds!

Don't get me started on that! :mad::mad::mad: How lovely that they managed to get pregnant A MONTH after marrying...It's not fair at all!

ThinkPink

I saw that about Andy Murray, although I guess we don't know what goes on in people's lives and they could have been trying for months.

Had to go and hide at work today, a colleague asked me when i was going to have a baby, and continued on to say if I want a child I really need to start thinking about getting pregnant soon as I'm getting older! I managed not to scream ' iknow I'm getting older, and I've been trying for two years now, it's not through choice I don't have a baby' . I then went to loos and hid and had to compose myself before going back.

ellesbellesxxx

ThinkPink wrote: »

Had to go and hide at work today, a colleague asked me when i was going to have a baby, and continued on to say if I want a child I really need to start thinking about getting pregnant soon as I'm getting older! I managed not to scream ' iknow I'm getting older, and I've been trying for two years now, it's not through choice I don't have a baby' . I then went to loos and hid and had to compose myself before going back.

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how DARE they!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am so angry on your behalf - I really wish I worked with you pink and I would have stuck up for you! What is it about children/pregnancy that everyone thinks they can be obnoxious and nosey? What did she think you were going to say... sod work for the rest of the day, clearly after your sound advice I am going to go home and get upduffed?

@cyantist - I think you have made a really good point about if it happens to us, about being sensitive about how you tell everyone - I wouldn't put it on social media at all! Some family members/friends put everything on the web so would have to tell them not to!

@Cuilean - hope everything went well for your SIL and things are going ok xxxx

Big hugs all around xxx

FreddieFrugal

lulu_92 wrote: »

Don't get me started on that! :mad::mad::mad: How lovely that they managed to get pregnant A MONTH after marrying...It's not fair at all!

I punched the car radio off in a rage when it came on.

ThinkPink

ellesbellesxxx wrote: »

:mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad:
how DARE they!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am so angry on your behalf - I really wish I worked with you pink and I would have stuck up for you! What is it about children/pregnancy that everyone thinks they can be obnoxious and nosey? What did she think you were going to say... sod work for the rest of the day, clearly after your sound advice I am going to go home and get upduffed?

@cyantist - I think you have made a really good point about if it happens to us, about being sensitive about how you tell everyone - I wouldn't put it on social media at all! Some family members/friends put everything on the web so would have to tell them not to!

@Cuilean - hope everything went well for your SIL and things are going ok xxxx

Big hugs all around xxx

I'm glad you don't think I was over reacting, I think it's the first time in 2 years that anyone's comments about me having a baby has ever affected me like that, but then most people usually don't go on and on about it and make such insensitive comments. Oh said I should just tell her the truth, but it's none of her business. I think when I see her next I'm going to ask her to stop going on about me having a baby, hopefully she will get the hint without then asking why! I think if I told her that we had been trying for two years and on Christmas eve at my 12 week scan I found I had a mmc she would feel awful for her comments!

Anyway, I have a much needed week off now!

Hope everyone is well and enjoying the sunshine.xx

ellesbellesxxx

You are right - it is none of her business! Apart from with a few close friends and my mum/sis in law, I have started to tell porky pies if anyone makes comments about babies to me... I just say we are enjoying being married and have nice holidays planned. You definitely shouldn't have to justify it!

I actually ignored someone recently when they made a pointed comment about "when ellesbelles has a baby haha," and when I changed the subject, someone else said "ooo she missed that comment," and I said "No I didn't" and carried on - let them think what they want.

Enjoy your time off Pink xxx

Toots14

We got married nearly 6 months and have it constantly. I tell people I'm not interested in kids at the moment and prefer my holidays. No way I want unnecessary pressure on me. Haven't even told my mum we are TTC as she is the worst. Desperate to be a granny!

AF still not hear, had some pinky/brown spotting this afternoon but only when I *tmi* wipe so keeping my fingers crossed but do think it will arrive in the morning.

P.s gutted Andy got Kim up the duff! I am totally in love with him and now we have no chance of being together. :rotfl: where does he find the energy to do it in less than a month after their wedding?

jtr2803

I really try not to be upset about others, its so easy to be but as most of us don't tell people about out struggles, you just never know what their real situation is....they may have had multiple miscarriages or years of infertility for all we know, I think everyone is allowed to have their bit of happiness at announcing.

I said it on another forum - its almost a shame people generally aren't open about infertility, I completely understand its one of those private journeys but I am adamant its way more common than we think and if it was discussed more you'd be surprised at just how common. My beautician has two customers who have been friends for years, both struggling to conceive but neither knows about the other! She's tried to gently encourage them to talk without breaking confidentiality but they won't, that's crazy! Infertility is absolutely nothing to be ashamed of.

Sorry, I don't mean to sound preachy, TTC sucks sometimes, I'm super angry this month at us both being Ill and only DTD once but I'm just angry at the situation, I try not to project that on to others. Maybe I'll feel differently a few months down the line.....

Black_Ribboner

Stupid question i know but, if you DTD the day after you may have ovulated can you still be lucky enough to get pregnant? I hope so or I'm completely out for another month

Lemon Tree, the egg can survive for up to 24 hours after being released. So depending on when in the day it was, dtd the day after could still do the job - it's a slim chance, but it's there! Good luck x

cyantist

lulu_92 wrote: »

Don't get me started on that! :mad::mad::mad: How lovely that they managed to get pregnant A MONTH after marrying...It's not fair at all!

This happens to almost everyone I know :-(
My mum had her coil taken out, never got a period so went to the Drs and she was already pregnant. Exactly the same happened a couple of years later.
Sister has managed to get pregnant twice while she was on the pill!
Cousin came off the pill as soon as she got married, was pregnant a month later.
DHs one cousin has had 7 kids in 7 years (and no multiple births) so I'm assuming she has never had to try very hard to conceive. And his other cousins have all had a baby within a year of marrying.
Then there's us :-(

I know that infertility is nothing to be ashamed of but it's so hard having to deal with people asking questions all the time. The people we have told have literally come out with questions like "are you sure you're doing it properly?" Along with completely unhelpful comments like we just need to relax and it will happen, or that there's nothing wrong with being an older mother, and so many comments that "it will happen" from people who obviously have some sort of crystal ball. It's just easier for me to say we don't want babies and not have to restrain myself from punching people in the head on a daily basis!

Toots: you're in love with Andy Murray?! I guess it's nice for him to have two people that are totally in love with him