Official Trying to Conceive - Thread 12

MancMama4

Hugs MRN, look after yourself xxx

CD6 here, ready for the BD madness to begin again.... started temping this month so have a new something to obsess about every day...

lulu_92

CD2 for me. Onto cycle 11...

I'm having a bit of a nervous breakdown atm. I can't cope anymore.

angel11

Hugs lulu, take care of yourself xx

MancMama4

Oh lulu I'm sorry... stupid AF ruining so many days for so many people!!

Sending you lots of love x

MancMama4

Hi Jonesy, good luck - I've been taking the pregnacare ttc vits

ellesbellesxxx

Big hugs lulu xxx

So back in April, I had scans and bloods done... The doctor said the next step would be for my husband to have SA which he is now booking in for....

Does anyone else find this journey lonely? I guess at the moment I am finding it hard as two of my closest friends, one being my brothers wife, are having babies close together. I am so happy and excited for them believe me!!!!! However, I don't feel like I can open up to them, about how we are feeling, without making them feel bad or guilty... Or like they can't share all the happiness in their lives.. Which I really want to hear about!
I am just finding it hard today, sorry for doom and gloom xx

FreddieFrugal

ellesbellesxxx wrote: »

However, I don't feel like I can open up to them, about how we are feeling, without making them feel bad or guilty... Or like they can't share all the happiness in their lives.. Which I really want to hear about!

We felt like that after the termination. Felt like every time I opened my mouth I'd be making people depressed.

Always helps talking though and from my experience it doesn't change the way other people treat you. You'll still get all the happy news shared.

Might feel selfish unloading your worries on others but it does help. Most people are happy to listen and that's often all that's needed. You need to make sure you're heard once in a while, we all need it.

Well I know I do anyway

Cuilean

lulu_92 wrote: »

CD2 for me. Onto cycle 11...

I'm having a bit of a nervous breakdown atm. I can't cope anymore.

Lulu, don't be hard on yourself. This is such a horrible, draining experience. We're brought up to believe that when we want a baby, we'll just be able to magic it up first time around. We're of the age where we're surrounded by women who have clearly done just that, which is even more of a slap in the face when you've tried and tried, and in cases like yours, tried and lost. We're not supposed to talk about struggling with TTC in the same way people aren't really supposed to confess to being mentally ill. We're supposed to cuddle our friends' babies, organise baby showers, and laugh off the thoughtless comments as if they're the most hilarious thing ever. It's okay to stop laughing for a while and despise mother nature, your own body and everyone around you. It's not okay to give up on yourself. We're all here to listen. We listen to stories about each others' CM and describe BD in the kind of detail even our best friends don't get. Pour yourself a glass of your favourite wine, break open the biggest bar of chocolate you can find, and have a good night's sleep. Things are always better in the morning, unless you're a vampire

ellesbellesxxx

@ianri I can't even imagine what it has been like for you and your wife, especially to get so far... You are right though and I hope people have been there to support you both.

@cuilean as always you are spot on with your advice to lulu... Which I am stealing for myself too! What say we splash out and crack open the virtual Ferraro rochers to keep our spirits up? X

ThinkPink

could I guess.5 bfps for august please??

Just realised we.are approaching two years of trying, not that it feels that long!! And I've actually Only had.about.10 cycles in that time, but I do feel like my cycles have been slightly more regular over that last 7 months since my mmc.

I have decided that in September I'm going to.start.a two year college course,.no.idea how I would finish it if I did get my sticky bfp, but the one thing my ttc journey has taught me is to not put my life on hold.

Hugs to.those who need one
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