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Official Trying to Conceive - Thread 12
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Looks like we will be moving on to cycle 3 shortly, AF due 1st July and couldn't help myself so POAS yesterday morning...BFN!
AF will most likely rear her head just in time for my birthday on Sunday, so I will be stocking up on the prosecco & nibbles
Hugs and fingers crossed for those who need them
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Afternoon, all. Hope everyone's okay, or at the very least, coping. Big hugs to those with AF or BFPs. Chin up - we'll get there, ladies
Lulu, I remember the pain of waiting, although I was 33 when I started bugging hubby to propose. Every Christmas or birthday, I would hope there'd be something small and sparkly. He had good fun keeping me on my toes, but maintained it would happen when I least expected it. In the end, one boring Saturday morning, when some s*d had parked in our parking bay, I hauled him out of bed to move his car into the bay before the s*d came back, and threw him a pair of Crocs to wear, of all things. When he came back, he'd trodden in cat pooh and I started to open my mouth to have a go at him, then realised he was down on one knee. Definitely did not see that one coming. No flowers or roses, just a pair of Crocs covered in pooh. He was right though - it was a surprise, and it (unintentionally) had a good story to go with it. Give your bloke a chance to come up with something memorable. They're not usually creative creatures, and it may be that he's planning something to surprise you. Although hopefully not with Crocs and cat pooh :laugh:
Woop woop, Jellybox - congrats! Very exciting news, fingers crossed for a smooth nine months.
Mancmama, I had almost the same story on Friday. From nowhere, my friend suddenly announced she was pregnant with #2. Even worse was her addendum that "We weren't even trying". It feels like everyone I know is pregnant, and I spent most of Saturday morning being a miserable cow. Even hubby said "Who do you know who isn't pregnant?". By the time I get my BFP, I'm going to be such an accomplished actress, they'll need to get me a BAFTA for "Best fake smile for friends with BFPs".
I'm now on month 6 of TTC, so I can legitimately go to the GP after this cycle. I'm not sure what he'll say though. By the time this cycle's over, I'll be 36, so maybe they'll blame my age, which they can't do anything about. I know I'm ovulating because I've practically remortgaged the house to pay for all the OPKs, and I get a positive on those every month, so that can't be at fault. Nobody in my family appears to have trouble getting their BFP. I do wonder if OH is the one who needs...assistance... but I know he doesn't like doctors, and I'm not sure how to have that conversation. Any ideas?© Cuilean 2005. Any connection between your reality and mine is purely coincidental.0 -
Thank you all for the support - it really does make a difference.
Wow, huge congrats JellyBox and wishing you a happy and healthy 9 months! xx
Cuilean I know exactly how you feel about "best actress"... we've had 8 babies in my office in the last 2 years alone... every time the email comes round with the scan pic the merry-go-round begins... the announcement; baby shower; sweepstake; birth announcement, and then the visit to the office with new baby in tow... every time I bound over for a cuddle and get told "you're a natural, you'll be next" etc etc... the last one finished for maternity last week and I feel like all eyes are on me now... like I need more pressure!
As for broaching the subject with OH about the docs, its a tricky one - if he's anything like mine he will probably feel a bit awkward at first, but I'm sure he will be utterly supportive about what you both need to do to make this happen.
Sending positive vibes to all as always xMancMama4 (35) TTC since Apr 15, MMC Dec 15, Our Rainbow Baby Charlie arrived Dec 16 :heart2:0 -
I'm now on month 6 of TTC, so I can legitimately go to the GP after this cycle. I'm not sure what he'll say though. By the time this cycle's over, I'll be 36, so maybe they'll blame my age, which they can't do anything about. I know I'm ovulating because I've practically remortgaged the house to pay for all the OPKs, and I get a positive on those every month, so that can't be at fault. Nobody in my family appears to have trouble getting their BFP. I do wonder if OH is the one who needs...assistance... but I know he doesn't like doctors, and I'm not sure how to have that conversation. Any ideas?
Hi Cuilean, we are going to be moving onto month 7 of TTC, which for being 27 and my mum having conceived first time for both me and my sister at 39, is a bit of a blow to me. I got a BFN this morning. My cousin and my sister-in-law both got pregnant effectively first month without trying. It has crossed my mind sometimes whether it is OH with the issues, as I'm definitely ovulating, my cycle is 36 days so not crazy, my periods are textbook, my CM is textbook...
Something else that raises doubt in me too is he TTC with his ex-wife many, many years ago. They had no joy after about six months, whereupon she got knocked up in the first month of her affair with a colleague.
However, I know as soon as I bring it up he will overreact and go to pieces that the problem could possibly be with him. I don't know what I'd do if it was discovered he was firing total blanks.
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Oh, and CD1 for me please. Just after typing out that post I went to the loo and AF is here. Quite strange though, I have absolutely no cramps whatsoever and only very mild boob ache. Had an earlier OV and so early AF this month, 33 day cycle.0
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Yikes, Aileth. The evidence points to your OH, doesn't it? Given the consequences of his ex-wife's affair, and male pride being what it is, I don't suppose he'll be too chuffed to consider that, either, let alone talk openly about it. What an awkward situation.
There is evidence "against" my hubby, too, albeit circumstantial unlike yours. My OH's brother and his wife suffered from a few miscarriages before they had their first. His parents waited a long time for him, although I'm not sure if that was more through choice or not, and I'm definitely not close enough to my mother in law to ask her about her sex life :laugh: Hubby was also a very heavy drinker in his 20s, although he's not touched a drop of alcohol for about six years, and he's had blood tests galore after having glandular fever, which have all come back clear.
I've tried asking him if he plans on us doing the TTC thing forever, and as far as he's concerned, that's the plan. He won't even consider adoption, but I definitely don't want to be 50 and running around after a primary school aged child.© Cuilean 2005. Any connection between your reality and mine is purely coincidental.0 -
I know for my age I have to wait 12 months before seeing the Doctor, but does the same apply for men or can they just rock up at any point to test their swimmers?0
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I know for my age I have to wait 12 months before seeing the Doctor, but does the same apply for men or can they just rock up at any point to test their swimmers?
Just done some Googling, and in my NHS region at the age of 35+, before your GP will even consider Clomid or referral to a fertility unit, the man has to provide a sample, which must be couriered off to a lab the same day. I'm going to assume another appointment will be needed for that, since I've never seen FedEx loitering outside a GP on the off chance of collecting a pot of swimmers :rotfl:
Under 35 years old, they'll see you if you've been TTC for 12 months. Oldies like me can go after 6 months. Gawd, I'm officially classed as old enough for something to concern the NHS :laugh:© Cuilean 2005. Any connection between your reality and mine is purely coincidental.0 -
I know for my age I have to wait 12 months before seeing the Doctor, but does the same apply for men or can they just rock up at any point to test their swimmers?
When i went to the docs after 6 months and got my blood tested, they said to send hubby in for screening next so theres nothing to stop him going in especially if difficulties are suspected. They did warn me than testing for men is slower than simple blood tests for women - approx 6 week wait for tests.
FWIW - my sisters husband got tested after not producing children with his ex, and it turns out he is clinically deemed as firing blanks. The liklihood of men actually producing none is very unlikely - in the most part, male infertility is actually just poor quality and motility of sperm and therefore a lot can be done even if this is a diagnosis. My sisters husband still has the option of the doctors going testicle diving for one random sperm as thats all it takes. Granted, its a lot more invasive than just getting pregnant but its still a possibility.
In the mean time - LOTS can be done to increase a mans sperm quality; diet and lifestyle factors are really relevant. My husband was in the middle of a juice diet when he got me pregnant, i joke that his sperm was that powerful the egg flew out the other side...
Sidenote: its likely blokes get concerned they are firing blanks. My husband had a very frank conversation with me in which he stated that he was worried it was him and maybe he should go. I would couch a conversation in BOTH getting tested and going together to take the pressure off an unintended accusation of 'its so you'.#KiamaHouse0
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