Official Trying to Conceive - Thread 12

Black_Ribboner

Ncsmummy, I'm afraid I can't help, as I've never had one. But I think it is a positive thing, for both your general health and ttc. I hope it goes well!

Lulu, I understand what you mean. When I was waiting for my husband to propose (and I did have to wait, he'd have been really upset if I'd taken the initiative and asked!), it seemed like everyone else in the world was getting married and we were just sticking. Then we got married and it was wonderful - and now everyone else in the world is having babies and we're just sticking I don't think these things are ever easy, but you can take comfort that you and your OH love each other and are committed in one of the biggest journeys we can all take.

Am feeling a little less sorry for myself today and wanted to ask some advice, esp from anyone with longer cycles. (TMI alert!!) CD55 for me and I've had white/yellowy stretchy cm, like ewcm but not clear and not in huge amounts, just a glob on the loo roll. I had it on Monday as well. Is it possible my body's gearing up for ov and it could still happen? Or is this just cm going all strange during a long anovulatory cycle? Any help much appreciated!

Toots14

CD14 here and I got a peak on my CBFM and positive cheapie OPK. We DTD last night and think I've persuaded DH we should do it tonight and maybe tomorrow! We will be exhausted by Sunday!

I'm off to Armenia with some friends for a few days next week so that should at least keep my mind off the TWW!

BWZN93

lulu_92 wrote: »

I don't really go on about it though, he knows I think it'd be nice and that I don't expect it to happen. I tend to bring up the whole "you've agreed to have a baby with me so why can't you commit to me?"
I had this conversation the other day and I said that my OH waited until he was ready to be a dad, obviously he decided that he wanted to have children with me but he didn't decide as a sign of his commitment to me. If he wants to bring a baby into the world with me what's the harm in proposing? He's tying himself to me for life anyway!

I know you feel like you are getting old or whatever but you really aren't, and you still have plenty of time. I've always got the impression from your posts that your quite desperate to be a wife and a mother and your OH is happier just going along with the flow. Why do you feel that he isn't committed? Should you even try if this is how you feel? I honestly think you should relax a little and enjoy your freedom and youth while you still have it. Don't be comparing yourself to your mums generation - my mother had me at 18 - there's so much out there in the world she missed out on.

jtr2803

Have great travels/breaks littlemoog and toots! :j

My body did weird stuff this month, got excited over temp dip at 8dpo which ended up being very early AF, a 21 day cycle :mad:

I'm hoping this is just my body regulating after so long with an IUD. I have a huge stash of tests, cheapy opks and cb digitals so ready for next cycle!

Hoping for a few more bgps before month end, good luck ladies

lulu_92

JoBatch80 wrote: »

I know you feel like you are getting old or whatever but you really aren't, and you still have plenty of time. I've always got the impression from your posts that your quite desperate to be a wife and a mother and your OH is happier just going along with the flow. Why do you feel that he isn't committed? Should you even try if this is how you feel? I honestly think you should relax a little and enjoy your freedom and youth while you still have it. Don't be comparing yourself to your mums generation - my mother had me at 18 - there's so much out there in the world she missed out on.

He once said that he never proposed to his ex because deep down he knew that's not what he wanted, but still stayed with her til he had a reason to leave. I know he will one day, it's just waiting for when he decides it's the right time. I Don't care for this 'enjoy your youth' stuff, I've done what I want to do. I've had nice holidays, I've graduated and played the field. I know we're both ready for it. Remember that OH is 31.

Petlamb

I hope everything falls into place for you soon lulu, I was super keen before the mr asked me, and now look where we are [Actually when we first got together he didn't want marriage or kids, now we're TTCing newlyweds :P]

Currently CD26, don't temp or use OPKs so not sure of ov yet - considering trying temp charting to see if I can find a pattern as I'm concerned of the prohibitive cost of OPKs with our income being a bit low right now. Got a possible job lined up though, which would be good.

Roz_V

Well ladies, guess who arrived just in time for my holiday?! (That's if we even get away, OH isn't well and we had a trip to the emergency docs this morning... So even if we still go it's not going to be much of a holiday )

Please can you update me to CD1 please and pass the sangria

Petlamb

Due on tomorrow assuming a 28 day cycle, which has more or less held true since coming off the pill. Been a complete cow the last few days so wonder if I'm PMSing... or not. I'll shush now.

ThinkPink

Oh fingers crossed for the potential job you have lined up vampire addiction. (although fingers also crossed you get your BFP)

Feeling Ok today even though would have been my edd. Had a chat with hubby today and we are going to start trying again this month, so lulu could I be added back on the list. ThinkPink 32, ttc baby number 1, ttc since 09/13.

Lulu,.sorry.to hear you are still having a hard time with things. I've been with my oh 14 years now and we only got married 3 years ago, I have to admit.that when people ask me how married life is my answer is.always 'not Any different to before ', I honestly don't think it's made any difference in how committed we.are to each other or How much we love each other. From.what you have said about your oh and his original concerns.(not sure if that's the right word but I hope you get what I'm trying to say) about ttc, I think he is very committed to you and wanting a long and happy forever future with you.x

MancMama4

Day 25, 10DPO and I've been hit with a huge wave of PMT/depression... Just feeling totally desolate. Saw an old friend who's first comment before I even got through the door was to tell me she's 4 months gone. I felt like my insides were going to just collapse. I've never worked so hard at being enthusiastic and joyful for her - inside I was shaking like a leaf with jealousy. Sending love and positivity to those who need it today (including, selfishly, myself) Xx