Toddler behaviour

notanewuser

j.e.j. wrote: »

Me and my mum used to work together too. I particularly remember the 'collaboration' I experienced when I tied a washing line round her Yucca plant to hang my dollies clothes on :rotfl: One broken Yucca plant, one child with a smacked bum. What a violent woman, perhaps I should have rung the Police, pmsl

Hmmmm. Had you been told before not to do it? Was she unaware of what you were doing?

DD asked me earlier how she could fly. I told her clearly the circumstances that would allow her to jump off the arm of the sofa (e.g. nothing hard to land on, no slippery shoes, concentrate on what she was doing.) She got to fly, and I didn't have to take her to A&E. Win win.

Now, if we were at a friend's house and she wanted to fly, the answer would be no, I'd explain why (if necessary) and tell her that she could fly when we got home. If she subsequently climbed onto the arm of their sofa we'd be straight back in the car.

It's not that hard, is it?!

Marisco

notanewuser wrote: »

Where's the line then?

I'm taller, bigger and stronger than my 4 year old. If she hit another 4 year old or me for that matter, I can punish her by hitting her, can I?

Does that apply to my husband? He's taller, bigger and stronger than me. Can he hit me if he doesn't like his dinner tonight? Just a little smack. No harm, right?

That's not even worth an answer.

j.e.j. wrote: »

Well, we agree on something then :rotfl:

Not like cats?????? :eek: And I was just starting to like you

thorsoak

Interestingly, I've found theories that people who threaten to abuse animals also abuse people.......

Blackpool_Saver

Remember those lead reins kids used to be in........bring them back quick, along with play pens that are big enough for up to age 16

Marisco

notanewuser wrote: »

Hmmmm. Had you been told before not to do it? Was she unaware of what you were doing?

DD asked me earlier how she could fly. I told her clearly the circumstances that would allow her to jump off the arm of the sofa (e.g. nothing hard to land on, no slippery shoes, concentrate on what she was doing.) She got to fly, and I didn't have to take her to A&E. Win win.

Now, if we were at a friend's house and she wanted to fly, the answer would be no, I'd explain why (if necessary) and tell her that she could fly when we got home. If she subsequently climbed onto the arm of their sofa we'd be straight back in the car.

It's not that hard, is it?!

How about just telling her humans cannot fly on their own, otherwise you might find her trying it from the top of the stairs!

notanewuser

Marisco wrote: »

How about just telling her humans cannot fly on their own, otherwise you might find her trying it from the top of the stairs!

We don't have straight stairs. She's been jumping those for years!

notanewuser

Marisco wrote: »

That's not even worth an answer.

Where's the difference? Please, enlighten me.

Marisco

Blackpool_Saver wrote: »

Remember those lead reins kids used to be in........bring them back quick, along with play pens that are big enough for up to age 16

I had reigns for both mine, they were leather with an oval bit in the front, don't think you can get that type now, they were brilliant.

notanewuser

thorsoak wrote: »

Interestingly, I've found theories that people who threaten to abuse animals also abuse people.......

Well, unless people start !!!!ping all over my front lawn, I'd say they're pretty safe.

FBaby

No kids are the same, at 2 yo, 10, or 16 and then as adults.

My very close friend had a very troubled boy who displayed worrying behaviour from a very early age. He was even kicked out of Montessori nursery! I know many people, like me I admit, thought he was bound to turn into a trouble teenager. She did her best (single mum), but seemed overwhelmed by him. Well, at 16, he is a lovely, hard working teenager. Yes, he does have a very strong personality and express himself quite passionately, but he is a very normal teenager who does very well at school, does sport competitively, and is incredibly behaved for his age (no girlfriend, not interested, doesn't go to parties, not interested, never drank etc...). Most importantly, he is brilliant with his mum.

I can also think about another friend's daughter. Great parenting, normal family, but after a peaceful childhood, turned into the teenager from hell. Ran away 3 times, struggled at school, behaviour problems, really bad attitude, my friend was so worried. She is now 18, just gone to Uni and is back to being the perfect child!

My sister was the perfect child all the way through childhood and teenage years. Never really had to be disciplined, all she cared to do was pleased and so did as she was told. As an adult though....she is a brat, self-centered and treat my mum totally unacceptably.

My two are also very good kids, and for the most part have been easy to bring up so far. It is hard to imagine them becoming difficult children, but I am not holding my breath because I know that their behaviour could change at any time.

That's the thing with kids, you never totally know how they will turn out, but for the majority, regardless of their education, unless they have spoilt rotten or neglected one way of the other, they will be fine adults.