Toddler behaviour

j.e.j.

notanewuser wrote: »

A young child of 2 (as that seems to be the theme of the thread) probably has similar mental capacity to a cat.

Again, define "naughty".

It's absolutely violence. You can't dress it up as anything else!

Erm.. well the children we were talking about are three (or nearly three) and believe me a three year old is very different to a cat. Are you sure you're a parent? :rotfl:

Marisco

notanewuser wrote: »

No, but you're advocating violence as a behaviour modifier.

I wouldn't use it, no matter the circumstances.

However, the next cat that fouls my front garden is going to be drop kicked a very long way. Presume that would be fine, right? I'm only teaching it to behave.

Oh !!!!!! here we go! Another one who cannot tell the difference between a "good kicking" and a smack on the backside!

notanewuser

j.e.j. wrote: »

I'm not going to go digging up the thread again, but it all got very bizarre as I recall. It wasn't even xmas, it was X, wasn't it?? Your daughter got to celebrate X :rotfl: And when I pointed out that Dec 6th is actually St Nicholas day you got a bit annoyed :laugh:


But that's all by the by. Point is, you've got one little girl who does as mummy says (at the moment!) so you've not encountered the kind of situation where a bit of strict parenting is necessary.

Okay, whatever. Think what you like. No skin off my nose.

It's not about "what mummy says". We work together.

notanewuser

j.e.j. wrote: »

Erm.. well the children we were talking about are three (or nearly three) and believe me a three year old is very different to a cat. Are you sure you're a parent? :rotfl:

Yes thanks. Just not a cat lover.

moomoomama27

j.e.j. wrote: »

I'm not going to go digging up the thread again, but it all got very bizarre as I recall. It wasn't even xmas, it was X, wasn't it?? Your daughter got to celebrate X :rotfl: And when I pointed out that Dec 6th is actually St Nicholas day you got a bit annoyed :laugh:


But that's all by the by. Point is, you've got one little girl who does as mummy says (at the moment!) so you've not encountered the kind of situation where a bit of strict parenting is necessary.

I don't think it's very fair to bring up people's christmas related beliefs, it really adds nothing to the thread except a poor attempt at belittling.

I don't think it matters what age your child is, and if right now all is rosy. You can be a strict and loving parent, you can use other strategies apart from violence. I've BTDT do know that strict and loving parenting works in the long run, even if it is tiring, challenging and head banging against walk moments while doing it!!

notanewuser

Marisco wrote: »

Oh !!!!!! here we go! Another one who cannot tell the difference between a "good kicking" and a smack on the backside!

Where's the line then?

I'm taller, bigger and stronger than my 4 year old. If she hit another 4 year old or me for that matter, I can punish her by hitting her, can I?

Does that apply to my husband? He's taller, bigger and stronger than me. Can he hit me if he doesn't like his dinner tonight? Just a little smack. No harm, right?

j.e.j.

notanewuser wrote: »

It's not about "what mummy says". We work together.

Me and my mum used to work together too. I particularly remember the 'collaboration' I experienced when I tied a washing line round her Yucca plant to hang my dollies clothes on :rotfl: One broken Yucca plant, one child with a smacked bum. What a violent woman, perhaps I should have rung the Police, pmsl

thorsoak

notanewuser wrote: »

I don't really care who she is. It's common sense. I googled for reasons not to hit your kids and got that.

Please advise of a well respected child psychologist/behaviourist that advises hitting kids. (I shan't hold my breath.)

That's the wonder of the world-wide web - you can always find a someone to support your own theories.

Your daughter is four years old, you are rearing here in a way personal to you and your partner which may not be in step wit the rest of the world. Of course you are entitled to do this - there are NO RULES which say you must conform to one set of ideas - and there are NO RULES which state that others must conform to your ideas. We all do what we consider is best for our child/children.

However experience tells me that by the age of 7 or 8 there is a definite need in most children to conform with their peers - it changes as they reach adolescence - and you may find that your complient little daughter starts questioning your rules as she gets a little older.

But hey - what do I know - as you've stated so scathingly in other posts - I could be out of touch with modern ways now I am the age I am!

j.e.j.

notanewuser wrote: »

Just not a cat lover.

Well, we agree on something then :rotfl:

notanewuser

thorsoak wrote: »

But hey - what do I know - as you've stated so scathingly in other posts - I could be out of touch with modern ways now I am the age I am!

:huh: I've never mentioned your age! I don't even know how old you are!