Toddler behaviour

j.e.j.

Marisco wrote: »

Not like cats?????? :eek: And I was just starting to like you

I went off them a bit after I kept getting bitten by them :eek:
My sister's kept biting people and the neighbour's took a chunk out of my hand when I tried to pick him up.

But I don't mind them if they keep their teeth to themselves

notanewuser

Marisco wrote: »

I had reigns for both mine, they were leather with an oval bit in the front, don't think you can get that type now, they were brilliant.

DD had a backpack with a lead on it when she was toddling. Mainly because she was so flipping fast!

My mum had a set of "standard" reins for her, but they weren't leather. Just that webbing stuff with plastic adjusters.

j.e.j.

notanewuser wrote: »

Hmmmm. Had you been told before not to do it? Was she unaware of what you were doing?

DD asked me earlier how she could fly. I told her clearly the circumstances that would allow her to jump off the arm of the sofa (e.g. nothing hard to land on, no slippery shoes, concentrate on what she was doing.) She got to fly, and I didn't have to take her to A&E. Win win.

Now, if we were at a friend's house and she wanted to fly, the answer would be no, I'd explain why (if necessary) and tell her that she could fly when we got home. If she subsequently climbed onto the arm of their sofa we'd be straight back in the car.

It's not that hard, is it?!

What have washing lines got to do with flying?

Money_maker

Blackpool_Saver wrote: »

Remember those lead reins kids used to be in........bring them back quick, along with play pens that are big enough for up to age [STRIKE]16[/STRIKE] 20

Amended for you. Teenagers trump toddlers any day.

Marisco

notanewuser wrote: »

Where's the difference? Please, enlighten me.

Well if you don't know the difference between DV and a smack on the backside or hand, then I'm afraid whatever I say will sail right over your head. I've got 2 adult kids, who, when they were kids got the occasional smack on the hand, I had no problems when they were teenagers, apart from the usual timekeeping and dress issues, but nothing major. If kids are going to go astray, then they will do so, with or without whether they had a smack on the hand when they were 2/3!!

j.e.j.

Blackpool_Saver wrote: »

Remember those lead reins kids used to be in........bring them back quick, along with play pens that are big enough for up to age 16

Money_maker wrote: »

Amended for you. Teenagers trump toddlers any day.

I think there IS a market for adult playpens.. for those who are into that kind of thing :undecided




Whatever floats your boat I suppose

notanewuser

j.e.j. wrote: »

What have washing lines got to do with flying?

:huh: I wasn't comparing the 2. It was an example of working together (which you laughed at).

I asked whether you'd been told not to do it, or whether your mother knew. If she left you alone and that's how you amused yourself then I think smacking you was extremely harsh.

If I leave DD in a room with paint, brushes and no paper should i be surprised if she finds a wall to paint on? Whose fault would that be?

notanewuser

Marisco wrote: »

Well if you don't know the difference between DV and a smack on the backside or hand, then I'm afraid whatever I say will sail right over your head. I've got 2 adult kids, who, when they were kids got the occasional smack on the hand, I had no problems when they were teenagers, apart from the usual timekeeping and dress issues, but nothing major. If kids are going to go astray, then they will do so, with or without whether they had a smack on the hand when they were 2/3!!

I genuinely don't see the difference. It's all unacceptable in my view.

Is it DV if it only happens once? How come my husband can't smack me but he could (to your mind) smack DD no problem?

bouicca21

I should have realised this thread would deteriorate into a slanging match about parenting styles and corporal punishment.

For the record I don't believe that corporal punishment is necessary. Neither did my parents, who if both were still alive would have already celebrated their 100th birthdays and would be amazed to be told they had modern ideas.

All children are difficult but there is a difference between 'normal' difficult and disturbed difficult. And the problem OP faces is deciding which type of difficult is applicable.

And for what it is worth, I think that being consistent and setting clear boundaries for children is bloody hard work. Much harder than many people will admit.

j.e.j.

notanewuser wrote: »

:huh: I wasn't comparing the 2. It was an example of working together (which you laughed at).

I asked whether you'd been told not to do it, or whether your mother knew. If she left you alone and that's how you amused yourself then I think smacking you was extremely harsh.

If I leave DD in a room with paint, brushes and no paper should i be surprised if she finds a wall to paint on? Whose fault would that be?

I used to draw all over the walls too.. :rotfl:
I remember getting a smack for that too!

You paint on a canvas or a pad, not someone's wall. As I found out

Why would someone be told not to hang a washing line on a plant? Unless she had a crystal ball and knew that I was about to do that (which she obviously didn't).