My OH is in hospital in intensive care

torbrex

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So glad to hear that you have him back, now your hard work will begin but you will have the comfort of seeing his improvement all the time.

fivetide

Echo the above. He has a hard road ahead (and so do you Victory) but, he is here to walk it and I am sure that once he recovers you will both have a great life together because you are very much aware of how precious it is.


Good luck to you both.

tootallulah

Dear Victory, I will keep you all in my prayers and thoughts. The only help will be time and seeing small incremental improvements in your husband. My goodness you have so much on I hope that you will gets loads of help.

foxymum1977_2

Thinking of you all Victory x

RuthnJasper

victory wrote: »

Thank you, it is going to take some love to get him there, he cannot do anything for himself.

I wish all of you the best xmas and new year you have every had because I am a great believer in do good and you will get good back, you have done me good and you will be rewarded by good coming back to you all.

Lots of people talked to me about guardian angels and prayers and when it is your time it is your time, I am not sure I know about any of that but what I do know is I know my OH is in there somewhere.

Oh, my dear Victory. Bless you. It must be very distressing for you. But I suppose that the hospital is sure that he is able to receive sufficient care at home, aren't they? I hope that someone is considering your ability to cope too? Is a home nurse coming in sometimes to help wash and monitor your OH?

I don't know about guardian angels or suchlike either - and both my parents are Christian missionaries . I believe that when it's your time that's it, but I don't believe that a guardian angel watches over each of us (well, not after 11 September 2001, anyway ). I DO, however, believe that we are all capable of more than we think we will be in difficult times. You can do this Victory. I believe that.

Don't forget to allow some time just for yourself each day. Go out for a little 20 minute walk each day (or several times a day) and, if you have to take the mobile with you, put it on vibrate only. A breather and thinking space away from the house even for a short while can be terribly helpful. If one of your neighbours has a dog, maybe you could offer to walk it? I find a canine companion to be a good listener (!).

Lots of virtual hugs. xx

Tropez

I've only just seen this. I don't have/can't think of much to say Victory but given your kind comments over the years the least I could do is wish you and your OH all the best with his recovery. I truly hope that there are many pieces of good news to come in time. Take care.

harrys_nan

I am so pleased to hear he is back home, things can and will get better now.
I am so sorry he is still in so much pain but he is going the right way now, he now needs rest and fussing over, which I am more than sure you are all giving him.
You have to make sure you look after yourself as well .
Sending you all positive thoughts and look forward to hearing your updates in the new year.
2015 is going to be a very good year, take care xx

CRANKY40

The painkillers cause the "who are you, what is that" fog, especially if he is still being given morphine. If he is he will possibly see things that aren't there as well. I hope his pain eases soon.

duchy

I'm so glad he is home ....... now he's back in familar surroundings and isn't exposed to intrusive hospital routines and noise 24/7 he will find it easier to rest- and rest is what his body needs .

It'll be an odd Christmas for sure and you will no doubt need to be asking for more help in the new year as hospitals tend to send you home with the minimum and up it if you can't cope - so never suffer in silence. If you need the district nurse visiting- say so -if you need help getting him in and out of bed - don't ask -TELL them you need it.

That said -he's home and on the road to recovery - just take things one day at a time -there will be successes and setbacks along the way- but you've cleared the first hurdle - getting him home.

Sending you hugs and sincere wishes for the best Christmas you can manage and a positive and happier new year xx

thorsoak

Victory my dear - we are all with you in spirit on this long journey that you and your family are undertaking, and I pray that you are all given the strength that you will need.

I know it will be hard - had to take the same journey myself some 30 years ago when my OH has a serious accident. Just take one day at a time, take as much help as you can - and there are three magic words that you must use when you need them - I CAN'T COPE. There may come a day when you do feel that you cannot cope anymore - do remember to say this to get any more assistance. Hopefully it will come quickly - and the fact that he has some private medical health insurance through his job should help.

Come back here, and vent from time to time - you will need to, that I do know. And don't forget to take time for you, and for your boys too - don't let DS1 think that he has to be "man of the house" but take all the help that he will give .

Much love xxxxx