bad neighbours threatening my health

Lookingforcalm

Angelicdevil wrote: »

You won't be making more trouble for yourself.

Do people think the police just turn up at the offending residence and explain that mrs so and so at number x dobbed them in :rotfl:

Report them to the police, you might not be the only one who has done, you may be adding to their evidence.

Oh and also, best not to mention it to anyone as everything could disappear leaving nothing for the police.

What number should I call though? I know it shouldn't be 999

ratrace

Lookingforcalm wrote: »

What number should I call though? I know it shouldn't be 999

101 i think

Lookingforcalm

Hey everyone I'm dragging this back up!

Today my husband let rip at the neighbours this happened as last night the neighbours brother was trying to break in, they eventually let him in but this morning the lock was broken on the front door, leaving me with the morning from hell as I couldn't get back up to get our forgotten lunches so had to rush my son to school go to sainsburys buy lunches, drop it back at school and go to work all the while on the phone to LA.

Since I last wrote in this thread nothing has been done about them...we have complained SO many times. I was even told they are passing on the info to her social worker! Why is this going through a social worker? It's the council who should be sorting it, ok I understand multi agency working, but what about my family?

My husband went crazy earlier now I'm sitting her drowning in my anxiety wonder what I'm going to do...

RuthnJasper

Lookingforcalm wrote: »

Hey everyone I'm dragging this back up!

Today my husband let rip at the neighbours this happened as last night the neighbours brother was trying to break in, they eventually let him in but this morning the lock was broken on the front door, leaving me with the morning from hell as I couldn't get back up to get our forgotten lunches so had to rush my son to school go to sainsburys buy lunches, drop it back at school and go to work all the while on the phone to LA.

Since I last wrote in this thread nothing has been done about them...we have complained SO many times. I was even told they are passing on the info to her social worker! Why is this going through a social worker? It's the council who should be sorting it, ok I understand multi agency working, but what about my family?

My husband went crazy earlier now I'm sitting her drowning in my anxiety wonder what I'm going to do...

I'm sorry it's so grim for you. Have you got any plans for moving yet?

I really wish you happier times ahead - you come across in your posts as a very nice, caring, good-natured person and I am sorry that this bunch of thoughtless meat-heads is making you so unhappy. x

Lookingforcalm

RuthnJasper wrote: »

I'm sorry it's so grim for you. Have you got any plans for moving yet?

I really wish you happier times ahead - you come across in your posts as a very nice, caring, good-natured person and I am sorry that this bunch of thoughtless meat-heads is making you so unhappy. x

Thanks x
Hopefully in June I'll be out, my husband wants to keep the tenancy going so he'll have to stay. Just can't take it anymore. I wish I could go on not caring about these people and living my life but I just can't...

cjasmith84

Hi Lookingforcalm,

I have read this whole thread intently, my heart really goes out to you and your son. What an awful situation to be in.
It seems that you have tried all you can with regards to your neighbours,
I think that you need to draw a line under this and just pack a bag for you and your son and leave.
Reading between the lines, I think that your husbands desperation to get back on the housing ladder is clouding his judgement and it looks as though he is calling all the shots, even in the extremely unlikely event that both of you would get another mortgage, it would still be at least another 8-10 years before you could even think about selling (3 years before rtb, 5 years min residency, there will probably be a clause stating that you cannot sub-let) possibly add another couple of years on top of that for selling time as no one would want to buy it as you will have to disclose the problems with the neighbours.
It seems to me that all of your decisions are based around what your husband wants, like a previous post implied, he seems to have a life of riley, hanging around with his mates until late, leaving you with the problems at home.
Good on you for trying to stick it out, and hoping the proper channels can deal with it, but I dont believe anything will change with regards to your neighbours. People like that are good at playing the system and making the authorities feel sorry for them.
My advice is to go today, grab a bag, take your son and go to a friends house, or family member, if this isnt possible, go to your nearest b&b with a fistful of cash and get a nice quiet room in the short term for you and your son to get your sanity back! This may seem like unnecessary upheaval for your son, but he will thank you in the long term.
The cold realisation that you and your son have left will finally get your husband to sort his priorities out,(private rent seems the best solution here in the long term) if he doesnt, then he is clearly not wasting your time over.
I am sorry if this seems harsh, I do not want to offend you in anyway, I do hope it turns out well for you all. Your husband included.

Best of luck.

Chris.

Pixie5740

I think your biggest problem is not your neighbours but your husband. He's being a selfish A-hole.

I get that he sees this council property as route to getting back on the housing ladder but there are more important things in life such as the wellbeing of you and your son.

Even if, in however many years time, your husband manages to purchase this property, then what? Let it out? Who would want to live next to the shower of !!!!!! that you currently do? Your husband will end up with a high turnover of tenants and void periods. Would your husband hang on to the property for 5 years and then try and sell it? Who would want to buy it? Your neighbours would put most buyers off.

I hope you get moved out soon into a nice new home where you can relax.

*Robin*

I too have read the whole thread.

One thing you haven't tried, OP, is asking the neighbours if they have a friend in local LA housing who would like to do a swap; their flat for yours?

Am also rather concerned because you say you are training to work in child welfare. Must say I would not wish any vulnerable child I loved, to be 'supported' by someone suffering the levels of personal anxiety you are obviously experiencing.
Maybe you could use that somehow?

Good luck. Your DH sounds like a bigger problem than the neighbours.

Lookingforcalm

Hi, thanks for replies,
I don't really know where to start, just my husband has plans for this place and hopefully if I get out of here in June he can do whatever he wants. He recently told me maximum eligibility for right to buy will be changing to 3 years and said he will seek help to buy but to be honest I don't really take much notice in these conversations as its always 'this is what my friend did' etc
As for my uni work I'm so behind, honestly don't think I will be working with my own group of kids any time soon, I'm 60 ish % behind with work which is around 4 months catch up if im lucky, I know the work and I'm so good at what I do, but I struggle when I'm feeling so anxious or worse...depressed.
I asked my doctor to write me another letter today and she said she'd start charging me for them and thinks they don't really help.
My neighbours are really unapproachable so I can't really ask them anything my flats on sites like home swapper and facebook swap sites but honestly don't think I could swap with people knowing the mess I'd be putting them into.
I'm just waiting for June as that's when I can move I wish it come sooner

jamie11

I've just read the thread, I do sympathise.

However, being practical, if and when you do move out of the council flat and your husband remains there will be nothing to stop your husband taking a lodger and benefiting from the government's 'rent-a-room' scheme.

He might even find a lodger that appears to be an 'imposing' presence that likes his peace and quiet and does not take kindly to intimidation.

Just a thought you understand!