bad neighbours threatening my health

mgarl10024

Bantex wrote: »

The police will do nothing.

Lookingforcalm2 wrote: »

Any other ideas on what to do about this I have called police in the past about it and these neighbours have been raided twice since we've been here, it's a gross smell and when I tell them I can smell it they either deny it or say 'yeah whatever'

Do you have a Neighbourhood Beat Team?
In my area, we have the Police, and then we have a Neighbourhood Beat Team who are made up of a mix of PCSOs and PCs. The Beat Team tackle local issues - antisocial behaviour, graffiti, disputes, drugs, etc. - all things that don't require an emergency blues and twos response.
I'm pretty sure that the Beat Team in my area would be interested in your neighbours, so your Beat Team should be too. Try speaking with them instead?

rosie51

So sorry for what is happening to you, put yourself and child first, move to your friends place.
I am on medication due to having neighbours from hell, making life uncomfortable for us. I refuse to go out much as I am scared of coming face to face with them. They are such awful people who think off only themselves and go out of their way to make our life's hell.
All down to parking issues, which we reported to our council. I won't go into detail as they are regulars on here.
Funny thing is, we are in sheltered housing and all concerned pensioners. The times we have had the police round.
Good luck for the future. God bless.

Slinky

Even if you managed to buy the flat, you're going to have endless problems with tenants. Decent people won't want to live there for the same reasons you don't, and people who don't care about the problems downstairs are likely to be problem tenants for you to deal with.

Your safety and sanity are worth far more than a step on the housing ladder.

Lookingforcalm

rosie51 wrote: »

So sorry for what is happening to you, put yourself and child first, move to your friends place.
I am on medication due to having neighbours from hell, making life uncomfortable for us. I refuse to go out much as I am scared of coming face to face with them. They are such awful people who think off only themselves and go out of their way to make our life's hell.
All down to parking issues, which we reported to our council. I won't go into detail as they are regulars on here.
Funny thing is, we are in sheltered housing and all concerned pensioners. The times we have had the police round.
Good luck for the future. God bless.

So sorry for what's happening with you, you sound like me a compete bag of nerves. I do go out as much as I can and more but like you can't stand to be face to face with them they terrify me.
The worse thing is becoming obsessed with them knowing when they're home or out scared of making noise and listening to them talk in the corridor. The worst thing I think is the kids, so scruffy and rude I feel sorry for them as they know no different.

Lookingforcalm

I'm just gonna make a quick reply as today has gone so quickly and I can't keep up with the time.

So i had the morning off and had a doctors appointment which was booked two weeks before and I was really anticipating this visit, but first I wanted to be first in the queue at the housing centre-which is a bit like shelter but know the ins and out of the LA and I was lucky because I was first there!
I told the advisor about this whole situation and she was very supportive of both mine and my husbands decision to stay on at the flat. She said as long as he doesn't claim benefits he is exempt from the under occupying rule. That when I choose to move I could claim council tax benefit which would be really helpful but if I chose to claim housing benefits I would have to prove I don't recive financial support from my husband, so it's best to stay away from it.
That I'm still liable for rent/care of this flat as its a joint tenancy-so for example if my husband didn't pay rent I would be liable.

I also rang the LA to confirm these details and they were all correct!

( BIG sigh of relief)

Then I had my doctors appointment, we spoke of my coping strategies which have led to OCD and my anxiety. She thinks it's best me and my son remove ourselves from the property.

Around an hour ago I confirmed all these details with my husband and he is quite overwhelmed. We have spoken about this but know he knows this could be happening and has a lot to think about/take in.
I found it difficult though, he was saying 'so your taking my son away'
'You would cope better if you just ignored them, f@@k them get on with your own life' we didn't argue just discussed the whole situation. I think he's worried and thinking I'll have another man!
He went out which I'm grateful for, it gives him time to think and maybe discuss it with a friend.
Hopefully all will go to plan

Lookingforcalm

SamDunham wrote: »

Hi lookingforcalm, I just wanted to offer you some support after reading your posts as I have just been through an almost identical situation to yours. Me and my other half were living in a first floor flat and, like you, had neighbours from hell below. They were smoking pot and making our house stink, having all night and all day raves, unsavoury people turning up at all hours, shouting, swearing, fighting, etc. I ended up being a bag of nerves. We don't have any children to think about at least, you must be very concerned about your son.
Our local authority advised us NOT to complain as if we did they'd have to inform the nightmare neighbours that it was us that had complained and they said this often escaletes the problem and makes things worse. The police were not in the slightest bit interested about the drug use or fighting, although I didn't actually make a complaint for the same reason as not complaining to the council.
In the end, we moved in with my parents who luckily have the room and were kind enough to have us. Five months later, we've found somewhere else and hopefully will be moving next month.
I just wanted to say you're not on your own and your health and sanity are way more important than being on the property ladder!! Please look after yourself and find somewhere quieter and healthier to live

Thank you, so glad I'm not alone in these kind of situations

AdrianC

Lookingforcalm wrote: »

He went out which I'm grateful for, it gives him time to think and maybe discuss it with a friend.
Hopefully all will go to plan

Good for you. Hopefully, this'll make him realise JUST how bad this situation is for you, and he'll understand you're not being melodramatic.

Lookingforcalm

AdrianC wrote: »

Good for you. Hopefully, this'll make him realise JUST how bad this situation is for you, and he'll understand you're not being melodramatic.

Thanks but I did have a dramatic voice message left by my mum while I was in the shower, saying he'd rung her and was worried about the situation, so I rang her back and apparently he's not pleased with the situation he's said I was wasting money and that it seems 'dodgy' my mum who I haven't spoken about this situation was able to give him an ear full!
I really wanted to call him but resisted, I need to let him think...the worse thing is the friend he's outvwith might be more on his side but my mum said it really is something that needs to be discussed at home with me. She also said he's worried I 'blabbled on' at the LA...I don't know, I supose he's seeking views on this and is worried he'll lose the flat if I move but I did make it clear we would not.
Oh well I wonder what tomorrow will bring for me?

bouicca21

If your husband is more interested in buying the flat than in your health, then he is as much of a problem as your dodgy neighbours. Moving out sounds like the best thing you could do.

Lookingforcalm

bouicca21 wrote: »

If your husband is more interested in buying the flat than in your health, then he is as much of a problem as your dodgy neighbours. Moving out sounds like the best thing you could do.

He is I'm afraid and im hoping it's not going to prove difficult to talk him around.