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Did I crossed the invisible line?

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  • yvonne13 wrote: »
    I didn't need his number I just asked for it.

    I honestly didn't see any harm.

    rubbish.

    You asked for the number for a reason,even if you don't want to admit it here at least be honest with yourself.
  • everyone in our team has each others numbers 6 men and me 2 are married 1 engaged 1 long term relationship 1 new relationship 1 unattached

    we use it to keep each other up to date share stupid jokes the normal type of can you remind me in the morning to XY and Z sometimes they text asking if someone can grab some milk on the way in or as some of us also do extra work at home we communicate about that

    it depends on your motives why you wanted the number as to whether it matters or not
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  • Georgiegirl256
    Georgiegirl256 Posts: 7,005 Forumite
    edited 13 November 2014 at 10:09PM
    yvonne13 wrote: »
    Don't you mean you would be wondering why he gave it out in the first place.

    I might wonder that, yes. But like I said, my first thought would be why she was asking for it.

    You still haven't answered why you asked for it.
  • thx1138
    thx1138 Posts: 353 Forumite
    edited 13 November 2014 at 10:10PM
    barbiedoll wrote: »
    Of course it's ok to have a co-worker's phone number if he is "attached"! It's only not ok if you got it by subterfuge or if you intend to send naughty pics of yourself! :rotfl:

    Don't listen to other people's opinions about how you should behave around co-workers, it's no-one else's business.

    Except, presumably, yours.
  • meritaten
    meritaten Posts: 24,158 Forumite
    you have been completely open about it - so I don't see a problem. its when its kept secret then there is something underhand going on.
    don't worry about it.
  • jaylee3 wrote: »
    I wondered that too.

    What do you need this man's number for? Do you need to contact him outside of work for anything? Do you do anything outside of work with him? You say you have loads of the other male colleagues numbers. Why?

    How old are you? Maybe it's a generational thing. I am late 30s and have NO mobile phone numbers of men that I am not related to. Several of my nieces have every boy's number that they know though. Then again, like many in their generation, they are always on their bloomin' phone, and talk to people more via text than in real life!

    So I am not sure what answer to give as to whether it's appropriate or not.


    Seriously?

    Let me think, I'm in my 20s,have a partner and I have numbers for most of my colleagues, all other members of team happen to be male at the moment.

    One, married, he sends us jokes by text, should I not get these cos I'm female?

    Two, married, I sometimes need to text or ring him for work info or to advise if I'm going to be late or off sick, he's not always at a particular desk so mobile is more appropriate

    Three, with a partner, I sometimes give him lifts etc, should he not be allowed in my car?

    Four, married, I occasionally call or text him if I have car trouble as he or his friend are good with cars, he has contacts hat gets me a good deal on Mot's should I not use this information and seek help from more female beings?
  • yvonne13 wrote: »

    Anyway today I was talking to one of my other male co-workers and he made me feel like I crossed the invisible line.
    .
    Sounds like something a b*tchy female would say rather than a male, what did he say exactly?

    Is he jealous? Or just a wind up merchant?
  • Poppops
    Poppops Posts: 313 Forumite
    yvonne13 wrote: »
    Don't you mean you would be wondering why he gave it out in the first place.

    I think your response here is really odd.

    You asked if you had crossed a line by requesting the phone number of an attached man. You get a response from Georgiegirl saying that if it were her husband then she would wonder why you had asked for it.

    Then you turn that back on her and suggest that it would be her husband whom she should be questioning in that situation.

    Well, I think you are probably right in theory. However your response does make me wonder if there was more to your request than you are letting on.
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  • HPoirot
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    Very odd indeed being on the defensive.
  • Turtle
    Turtle Posts: 999 Forumite
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    I've got lots of mobile numbers of unrelated men, but I haven't got any 'for no reason'. I don't think it's odd to ask for it 'just in case' as you work together but if there's an ulterior motive that's not really on (and I'm 39 by the way).
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