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  • I think it depends on your workplace. In mine, we all know each other's work email address and check our email every day, so we wouldn't really have reason to text anyone, as we can let our line manager know if we are running late, etc.

    Maybe in an environment where people aren't on a computer every day they might use texts for keeping in touch. Facebook isn't always appropriate for work, or you might not check it every day.

    I know a few people my age (40-ish) who still do the texting jokes thing. I don't, but I wouldn't call it childish.
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  • duchy
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    pol-zeath wrote: »
    At a guess OP I would say you are in your 30's probably late 30's and single. Now as for asking for your colleagues mobile number may be he felt uncomfortable but was too polite and gave it to you anyway. Did you take his number first and then ring him so he had yours?

    I'd put her at about 18 or 19 and in her first job.
    Most people work out pretty quickly what is and isn't appropriate and I'd expect the most gormless thirty year old to know asking a married man for no good reason other than you enjoyed chatting to them to be giving a clear message they were interested in them beyond a working relationship.

    OP If you were chatting in a group and you enjoyed talking to one particular man - would you ask him for his number in front of your boyfriend ?
    If you found he was collecting the numbers of attractive women at work "for no good reason" would you be OK with it ?
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  • notanewuser
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    duchy wrote: »
    I'd put her at about 18 or 19 and in her first job.

    She was 26 in December 2010................ ;)
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  • She was 26 in December 2010................ ;)

    I thought she was older than that for some reason? Obviously not, must have been giving off an older vibe I guess!

    Somehow I don't think we're ever going to get a straight answer off the OP.
  • notanewuser
    notanewuser Posts: 8,499 Forumite
    I thought she was older than that for some reason? Obviously not, must have been giving off an older vibe I guess!

    Somehow I don't think we're ever going to get a straight answer off the OP.

    I did too to be honest. She's started some very odd threads.........
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  • I did too to be honest. She's started some very odd threads.........

    :rotfl: I was just thinking the very same thing!
  • System
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    scooby088 wrote: »
    From my own point of view i only gave my personal number to my supervisor and manager. Thats it as for collegues i see them enough at work and dont need to communicate with them outside of work.
    My manager has access to my number, but nobody else in work has it. To be honest i spend so much time with my colleagues i'm glad for a break from it all on my days off and have no desire to mix work with pleasure. Its not that i dont get on with them, i do, in work. I just have no desire to talk to them outside of work :p:o
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  • Tropez
    Tropez Posts: 3,696 Forumite
    I've got the number of pretty much everyone at work; even the guy who annoys me to the extent that upon discovering his hatred of Bon Jovi, I went in to the office one weekend and altered his computer's sound files so that every single time Windows would make a standard system noise it played a Bon Jovi song instead.

    I don't know why I have these numbers, I just seem to have collected them and they've all got mine, except for the Bon Jovi-hater because I didn't actually update him when I last changed my number.

    There's only some sort of line to cross if you're getting the number for a dishonest reason. If you're planning on jumping the guy's bones, that's a problem. If you got it because he's just so f'in funny that you think he'll forward you some riotous jokes to make you smile, that's not a problem.

    Easy as that, really.
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