How did you meet your partner? and where are all the single men?

DigForVictory

Me, I followed the old fashioned path & met the chap I was to marry at University. (I'll draw a veil over the decade between meeting & marrying as I was a wazzock & he just hung on waiting.) So an evening class in something you're already interested in, or a course of lectures, may be a possible path?

When a colleague was idly speculating over where to find spouse v2 when v1 had been shoved off a cliff, our team was remarkably creative - starting with her interests in theatre, opera & racing & recommending she buy season tickets & thus get onto the same mailing lists as more possibles. (That we were recommending Convent Garden & Stratford rather than the local places surprised her, but we assured her we wanted her happy first & still on our team second.)

The team member who suggest checking out the high end old folks homes for a active elderly gent got a very odd look - she'd been round several already looking for a good place for her dad.

In the end I think v1 is still alive & well, but the ideas stand.

babymoo

In the pub but it was a blind date that neither of us was aware of. Worked out well though

snowleopard61

Met ex-husband at university (we were married quite a long time).

Met fiance two-and-a-half years ago when he came to mend something in my house! He had been there a long time before in the same capacity but was then in a long-term relationship, and later told me that he had always remembered me, so that when his relationship ended he was considering looking up my address and just knocking on my door and asking me out, when the occasion arose anyway!

I wasn't looking for anyone at all at the time and he's different from the sort of men who would normally attract me in that he's much more practical. I don't think we would otherwise have met, but he's absolutely lovely and we are very content. I feel very lucky. So you could always try getting someone round to mend something ...

Limana68

I met my fella on a break in Dublin after my marriage had ended. I was not looking for anyone, but it just happened and we just clicked and we have carried on seeing each other as often as we can.
Just shows that love can happen at the most unexpected times!

I wouldnt say no to online dating by the way if I was single

Linda32

Slinky wrote: »

Got mine out of the newspaper in the days before internet dating was popular.

Me too My friend answered an advert from two men for us two. She had to write to a post office box number including an SAE.

schwam66

yeah you should do the internet dating thing, for sure....makes alot more sense than going out and doing something you dont want to do in the first place or go to a bar and have 40 different guys rubbing there junk on you....the internet thing is better as you can get to know the person a bit before you actually get to know them if that makes sense.....

i met my wife on a yahoo pool chat room....i am from the u.s.a and she is from the uk we stayed in touch and talked and chatted everyday for over a year.....this was 8 years ago....we are now happily married(7 years) 2 children and settled in the uk.....give the online dating try, whats the worse that can happen.

all the best and goodluck, i hope you find what your looking for :-)

miss_independent

The way I have started to look at it is that I know that I very much want to marry and have children and if in ten years time I was still single and had lost out on the chance to have kids, then I would bitterly regret not doing everything in my power to try and meet someone whilst I was younger. That includes internet dating. The only thing that has stopped me from trying it so far has been my own pride.

Give it a go. Yes, you could meet someone whilst out socialising. I met someone last year as a postgraduate student on my course at uni. He wasted 8 months of my time because as soon as things started to get serious he got terrified. He has never wanted to settle down and doesn't see himself ever doing so. It didn't stop him stringing me along for the best part of a year and breaking my heart though. At least with internet dating you remove the possibility of that happening, most people on there ARE looking for a relationship and feel ready to meet someone.

Also, signing up for an online site doesn't prevent you from meeting people in person in your day to day life as well. It just means you get the best of both worlds.

Alternatively, just start making small talk and being sociable with new people wherever you go, i.e in the line at the bank, at the supermarket, on the train. The more you do it, the easier it gets. You never know who you might connect with. For some reason, the last few times I've been in Starbucks, there has been a hunky guy who has caught my eye and I've smiled back and eventually we've started chatting. One was a French Canadian on a business trip, another was a Scotsman on a pitstop along the M6 and the most recent was a professional rugby player in town to play against the home team. Obviously, nothing was going to happen with those guys as they weren't local but it was nice to chat and flattering that they were interested and it just goes to show you you could meet someone anywhere on any given day. Guys are all around, living their everyday lives. You don't necessarily have to join a club or a dating site to meet them.

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I read somewhere that people assume the most typical place to meet is in a pub or a club but something like only 17% of married couples met that way. However, I met my husband in a very naff nightclub when all our mates were off dancing and we were minding the coats (he was underage, I was not- a really naff nightclub :eek:) Of my good mates, one met her husband in the other equally naff establishment in the town at the time and another mate met hers in one of the classier more expensive ones some time later when we were all older! I would have no qualms at all about using online dating were I looking for a partner now.

valk_scot

onomatopoeia99 wrote: »

I can only speak for this single man, but here goes ...

Being single and living alone, I have to do all the household chores, all the cooking, mowing the lawn and so on, plus household maintenance (replaced a load of guttering and the roof of the front porch not that long ago, for example). This consumes a decent amount of the time outside of work.

Evening class once a week (Italian, my fourth year of study. I'm still pretty rubbish though ), plus a few hours during the week doing i compiti (the homework). However after work I generally need to switch off and disengage my brain, so I tend not to go out that often aside from that else I'm frazzled at work the next day and as a consequence can be found watching telly or even on MSE of an evening.

Weekends are typically spent either refurbishing my home, which it is in dire need of since I bought it from a retired couple that seem to have done nothing to it in about 40 years (think artex ceilings and woodchip wallpaper everywhere, and I'm currently replacing the kitchen which is mostly the original units from 1951), or helping out at motorsport events - I haven't competed in a few years as work on my home needs doing more urgently than repairing my racing cars.

I have no time for photography, which is my other hobby, but that's generally a solo activity anyway.

None of the above puts me in the path of many single women!

Every time I go to B&Q I seem to end up talking to at least one bloke. Is this why? ??


Must add I'm happily married but just happen to be the DIY capable partner. I met my OH at a church youth group that a friend dragged me along to btw.

CandyJ

I met my partner of 3 years on a dating website and we will be getting married next year! :beer:

In my experience of trying to meet people in a big city, it was a nightmare. Everyone's in a rush and when you are at a club or party, often people like to stick with their own groups. Saying that one of my best friends met her husband in a dingy night club so its not impossible.

Online dating can be fun and hopefully if you've both said that you are looking for a relationship, thats what will happen. (Although some guys I chatted to/ met were clearly not but as another member has said, you can tell these ones quickly). Be safe bet don't leave it too long with texting/ emails/ calls as I think its good to meet in person, even for a coffee, and gauge if there's any chemistry (or if he looks like his photo)!