How did you meet your partner? and where are all the single men?

AubreyMac

Majority of the couples I know mainly met through work. Some through friends and some were teen sweethearts.

My friend wants to start internet dating soon, but I'm reluctant to try this as I think there is still some stigma attached to it.

I do go out and socialise a lot and meet many new people in doing so. However, I notice most social groups I go to are almost always all women. The social activities I go to are mainly meals out, theatre and wild sporting activities such as quad biking, tightrope walking, and sometimes a food related festival. Are these interests seen as girly? I don't think they are but I only go as these are stuff I'm interested in, I don't go in the sole hope of meeting someone.

Another friend of mine has been widowed for a number of years, she has kept active and has been on many evening courses and learning new skills from sign language to sculpting. This is on top of her full time work as a college tutor.

I work with around 95% women. My field is social work and the only men there are either in higher management whom are all married anyway or newly qualified students (too young for me).

So what do single men do in their spare time? surely they don't just sit at home in front of the telly?

System

Online

I would never have met anyone through work (mainly cos half of them are 17/18 lol) and i rarely go out so doubt i'd have met anyone that way.

Online was better for me, gave me chance to get to know him. I met my most recent ex online too so it made sense to try it again.

I don;t think there is as much stigma as there used to be, its quite common, i'm sure something like 1/5 relationships now start online.

double_mummy

i met one at a tree one at an indie club (i was very cool back then)

one of my friends recently met hers in a mcdonalds another in a tattoo !!!!!!

torbrex

AubreyMac wrote: »

So what do single men do in their spare time? surely they don't just sit at home in front of the telly?

Depends on the age group that you are looking for.

They no longer sit in front of the TV though, most are surfing the internet and oldies like me are browsing the forums on MSE

Indie_Kid

xXMessedUpXx wrote: »

I don;t think there is as much stigma as there used to be, its quite common, i'm sure something like 1/5 relationships now start online.

I've found this too. I remember a friend telling me he'd met his ex online (which would have been the mid to late 90s) and I found the whole thing rather odd for some reason.

I met someone I dated briefly at a running club.

AlexLK

Met my wife at a car meet.

Edwardia

Met OH in a snowy field.

Person_one

There really isn't any stigma attached to online anymore, none at all. If you really want to meet someone I'd definitely give it a go. There's a lot to be said for it as there's a certain honesty right from the start that can cut out a lot of BS and wasted time!

What I wouldn't do is start hobbies/clubs etc. that you aren't particularly I terested in just to meet men. That doesn't strike me as the way to meet one you'll have a great connection with, and it starts you off on a bit if an odd footing where at some point you'll have to come clean that you don't really care that much about snowboarding or dungeons and dragons after all!

Georgiegirl256

In a Rock pub. :beer:

Gavin83

AubreyMac wrote: »

So what do single men do in their spare time? surely they don't just sit at home in front of the telly?

Men will be as varied as women with a massive variety of hobbies and interests. Naturally some hobbies are considered more girly and some more manly but generally speaking you'll find both sexes representing just about every hobby possible.

I guess just carry on doing what you enjoy and see what happens. I also wouldn't rule out internet dating. I'm in a relationship but if I weren't I'd certainly give it a go. It's a great way to meet people you wouldn't otherwise normally meet.

FBaby

My men could have written this himself and the reason why he did end up joining a site (the right one clearly!) despite him saying he never would. He had a very active life, but none of his friends knew single women he was interested in, his work like you was almost all males, and although he did go out regularly, it was to do more male activities and he didn't really like the idea of approaching women in pubs/nightclub.

In my case, I was a single mum of two young kids working full time so little chance to go out and do activities.

Ironically, we discovered after we met that our lives were quite close net after all, we passed each other driving every day and we knew people in common. We very well could have met in a more romantic way, but we didn't and the dating site did it for us.