How did you meet your partner? and where are all the single men?

System

Met my first husband in a pub. Ok I was only 15 but it was ok I was with my Mum and Auntie.:D

Second husband we met as kids. We reconnected over the cb radio (how very 80s!) and he turned up on my doorstep one day as a friend of a friend had told him where I lived.

Seems the norm these days to date online. I would have no problems with that.

Gloomendoom

fivetide wrote: »

I am not sure about dating at work though. I wouldn't personally, if something goes wrong or even if there has been a row, people can tell and the atmosphere comes with you. Never a good thing and I honestly believe some time apart is never a bad thing!.

A lot of people say this but there is some data (somewhere) that suggests that "work" is the most common place for people to meet their partners.

I've worked with my (now) wife for nearly 14 years and it's no big deal. Becoming a couple hasn't altered the way we function in the workplace. She's sharing my office today and her boss has just popped in for a quick meeting with her. We are just doing our jobs like anybody else

Raspberry_beret

Online. I have a 2 year old and work in a company of 3 people (including me!) so the chances of meeting someone lovely irl were very slim. Definitely give it a go, it takes a while to get used to it all and it is nerve wracking at first. I always saw first "date" as just a meeting (tried to keep it to quick coffee/drink - maybe lunch) and second date is the real first date - it makes it a bit less scary and more like real life (you'd have at least seen the person in the flesh before agreeing to a first date in real life).

I met about 20 guys in all, a couple slightly dodgy but nothing scary. I went out with one for a few months and have been with my boyfriend 3 months so far... :). I also think that if I had met someone in a bar, in tesco etc, I'd have found it easier to chat to them as I was practiced at meeting new people. So it helps all round, really - you can still do activities etc and be open to meeting a man in person too but no harm in being proactive and increasing the chance of meeting someone lovely.

Cyberman60

I know at least two couples that met via internet dating. I've had dates numerous times over the years. The stigma is in your own mind. Just bear in mind that not all applicants are honest with their details !!

Faith177

Stated talking to my husband via an app on Facebook in April 2008 started out as friends went to a gig in his home town in the Nov of that year started seeing each other be together ever since 6 years this weekend and been married for 18 months

roobee13

I met my OH sort-of through work (we've never worked in the same department). It was a big company and I'm still close to the team I left 4 years ago. He joined the department and started tagging along on our nights out, we couldn't get rid of him really

My friend has recently got engaged to her OH who she met online. I agree there's definitely no stigma attached to it these days. People are busy, it seems a sensible option.

fivetide

Gloomendoom wrote: »

A lot of people say this but there is some data (somewhere) that suggests that "work" is the most common place for people to meet their partners.

I've worked with my (now) wife for nearly 14 years and it's no big deal. Becoming a couple hasn't altered the way we function in the workplace. She's sharing my office today and her boss has just popped in for a quick meeting with her. We are just doing our jobs like anybody else

I am not doubting it works and I have worked in offices with couples in before, they were in different departments and that seemed to go very well.


I know a lot of people meet through work too, after all, these are people you spend most of your time with, however, I have also been in an office where a couple split up. Talk about frosty and it made everyone else feel uncomfortable because the nice division of friends simply can't happen with people who need to work with both sides.


I am therefore basing my opinion on observed events not just what "a lot of people" say.

sulphate

I met my husband online.

Whilst I was at uni I had a very active social life and went out with friends all the time. With my first two boyfriends, one of them I met at sixth form, the other through friends. After uni finished, people move away, get full time jobs, go travelling etc etc and even if I was single again now I wouldn't have a very active social life. People start "settling down" and aren't always interested in going out all the time like they used to be. Once you are no longer in education it becomes more difficult to meet suitable men on a regular basis.

Of course, it's definitely possible to meet spouses at work. At my previous workplace there are 3 couples currently going strong, such relationships are enabled by a mix of men and women. However in my current workplace I work with probably 90% women, and the 10% of men left are either much older or already married.

I think a lot of women fall into this assumption that they will just meet the love of their lives by chance in a supermarket or on a night out. Whilst that can and does happen for some, it's certainly not the case for everyone.

I think the stigma attached to online dating is down to the fact that people assume someone going on a dating site is desperate and that's very uncool. Honestly what's wrong with admitting to the world you would like to meet someone and settle down, if that's what you want to do? Plenty of people feel the same but don't want to admit it.

fairy_lights

My OH was an old school friend who I bumped in to again, drunk, years later in a pub, and we've been together ever since. Not a particularly romantic story!
If I was single again I wouldn't have any qualms about internet dating, but would approach it with caution. There are a lot of people online who are just looking for sex or a casual relationship which is fine if that's what your looking for, but if you want something more serious there are a lot of timewasters and creeps to weed out.

SailorSam

We've had this thread before so i've already given this answer, it's probably not as funny as the first time i said it. Maybe though with the Op starting the thread there are some that missed it first time.........
......... I was working in a travel agents when i met my wife. She came in looking for a holiday and i was the last resort.