Nice People 13: Nice Save

vivatifosi

I don't switch. Actually I can't easily switch as I'm on Economy 10 which is very hard to get on to. However I have to say that every time I've needed to contact my provider - E.On - they have been great. Thank goodness. Being stuck on something with a pants provider who can't get anything right would be a nightmare.

I find by far the worst company that I ever have to deal with is British Telecom.

Good luck getting your problem sorted Nikks.

vivatifosi

Nikkster wrote: »

Doesn't sit right with me either (I'm very camer averse at the best of times). But it sounds like pragmatic advice... knowing people including young ones will take and send these kind of photos, against most advice, the final possible protection is to at least not include your face, in case the pics end up with people other than the intended recipient.

I totally get what you are saying, and know that it is right, but I still find it uncomfortable. So glad I'm not a social worker, working with teens.

hjd

chewmylegoff wrote: »

I popped home for a sleep today so am now on night duty whilst OH finally gets to sleep. I am sitting in the dark listening to a mobile phone playing an imitation of the sound of a placenta. This is modern parenting.

There is a baby going nuts down the corridor. I guess they don't have the placenta app.

How did we ever manage without placenta music???

Generali

vivatifosi wrote: »

That doesn't sit right with me, especially if they are under the age of consent. Could that not, under certain circumstances, help legitimise grooming?

Turning our children into amateur !!!!!! stars. What could possibly go wrong?

lostinrates

vivatifosi wrote: »

I totally get what you are saying, and know that it is right, but I still find it uncomfortable. So glad I'm not a social worker, working with teens.

Nikkster wrote: »

Doesn't sit right with me either (I'm very camer averse at the best of times). But it sounds like pragmatic advice... knowing people including young ones will take and send these kind of photos, against most advice, the final possible protection is to at least not include your face, in case the pics end up with people other than the intended recipient.

Generali wrote: »

Turning our children into amateur !!!!!! stars. What could possibly go wrong?

Have to say I agree. My prude line is very strong with children/young adults and even the adult emotionally immature tbh.

IMO there is a huge difference in attitude and concern between a child sexting and an adult.

LydiaJ

I remember 20 years ago, when email existed mostly in universities and texting hadn't yet been thought of, let alone sexting, my dad taught me never to send anything by email if it would be really disastrous if it was accidentally sent to the wrong person. When I got my first mobile several years later, I realised that the same applied to texts, but even more so.

I only got that wrong once, which felt awful. LNE and I knew he was about to be sacked, so we'd lose the accommodation that came with the job, but it was still all very hush hush. I wrote a text about rented houses I'd been looking at online, and sent it not to him but to the next person on my mobile's phone book. I had to ring them up and beg them not to tell anybody, which they kindly agreed to.

I self-censor what I say on here, too. I try not to say anything critical of anybody that would be a problem if they read it and worked out who LydiaJ is.

I think my kids have got the message about that sort of thing with regard to online communication, not least because of this, which they thought was cool and told me about! I must have another chat with them about how it applies to texting too, though. If they understand that, they won't have difficulting understanding the extension to sexting.

Percy1983

LydiaJ wrote: »

I remember 20 years ago, when email existed mostly in universities and texting hadn't yet been thought of, let alone sexting, my dad taught me never to send anything by email if it would be really disastrous if it was accidentally sent to the wrong person. When I got my first mobile several years later, I realised that the same applied to texts, but even more so.

I only got that wrong once, which felt awful. LNE and I knew he was about to be sacked, so we'd lose the accommodation that came with the job, but it was still all very hush hush. I wrote a text about rented houses I'd been looking at online, and sent it not to him but to the next person on my mobile's phone book. I had to ring them up and beg them not to tell anybody, which they kindly agreed to.

I self-censor what I say on here, too. I try not to say anything critical of anybody that would be a problem if they read it and worked out who LydiaJ is.

I think my kids have got the message about that sort of thing with regard to online communication, not least because of this, which they thought was cool and told me about! I must have another chat with them about how it applies to texting too, though. If they understand that, they won't have difficulting understanding the extension to sexting.

I go with a very simple rule, if I don't want the world to see/hear something I don't send said things out into the world.

michaels

lostinrates wrote: »

Have to say I agree. My prude line is very strong with children/young adults and even the adult emotionally immature tbh.

It is strange how opinions differ, my parents I guess were of the woodstock generation and had no issues with being naked in front of us and now I am very un body conscious, the whole stripping off in the shower in front of your peers at the end of PE never even registered as an issue for me. Not surprisingly I think we build the whole body conscious / body image up in to much too much of a big deal and that it only leads to psychological issues where none are needed, all the way through to the upset with breast-feeding in public.

lostinrates

michaels wrote: »

It is strange how opinions differ, my parents I guess were of the woodstock generation and had no issues with being naked in front of us and now I am very un body conscious, the whole stripping off in the shower in front of your peers at the end of PE never even registered as an issue for me. Not surprisingly I think we build the whole body conscious / body image up in to much too much of a big deal and that it only leads to psychological issues where none are needed, all the way through to the upset with breast-feeding in public.

Naked and comfort with nudity is different to relationships and/or sex. And sex can be different from relationships. I am also very open, and indeed positive about kids knowing about sex in its practical elements ( and that its a loving thing, and that its not something to rush into). I'm very pro nudity.

I'm not pro kiddy experimentation, or making decisions about expressing nudity in a sexualised way in a irreversible and public domain without the maturity to think about how it might impact on you in the future.

michaels

lostinrates wrote: »

Naked and comfort with nudity is different to relationships and/or sex. And sex can be different from relationships. I am also very open, and indeed positive about kids knowing about sex in its practical elements ( and that its a loving thing, and that its not something to rush into). I'm very pro nudity.

I'm not pro kiddy experimentation, or making decisions about expressing nudity in a sexualised way in a irreversible and public domain without the maturity to think about how it might impact on you in the future.

I agree with you on all that, I just think if society didn't make such a big thing about nudity then perhaps sending naked photos would be less of an illicit thrill and thus less a required rebellious action....