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Doozergirl

bugslet wrote: »

Which reminds me of a favourite cartoon

In that case, you will like this:
http://rupertfawcettsdoggyblog.tumblr.com

lostinrates

Minor moral dilemma.

I am imagining this is more a stick up our bottoms childless old fashion couple complaint.


Bil and his family have made no acknowledgement of last three gifts sent. We don't expect thank you letters, just a text even.....'gift arrived, Thanks!' Would be sufficient. I've asked for guidance on what's wanted so I don't get it wrong. Last Christmas was right, b'day was right....I know because fir as asked....Has your box arrived or do we need to chase the mail company. Primarily he's asked in case we need exactly to chase the delivery company.

Just sending the gifts can cost a lot ( £47:50 or something for this Christmases because I couldn't reasonably breakdown the box into two boxes, its been a bit less and a bit more) and I'm feeling a bit grumpy that they cannot say 'its arrived'. It was sent on a five day delivery. I know post that end can be a bit cranky, its now had two weeks. It should be there, if not I want to chase it up.


I really do not want to ask/ have fir ask again to get a, 'oh yes, thanks!' reply...which somehow seems different to me than the one line initiating text' its here, thanks'.


I'm seriously feeling like not sending anything else. However, I am also aware that this might be misplaced cross ness from other family relationships and perhaps we're just being uptight about poor manners. Fir suggested this morning we simply don't initiate contact with them, wait for them to contact us, and if they don't he might think in the new year about writing to his brother explaining why he's not minded to send gifts, and that he can only presume our gifts are making them uncomfortable or are unwanted. I suggested a less antagonistic why not ask your father for advice...but he says its between his brother and him ( or our two families) and nothing to do with his father.

I think this is funny. I'm usually more for the direct approach, but you see, I'd call and say....what's going on, this is making me feel a bit awkward, and frankly brother dear, its a bit rude......tell me what I'm doing wrong so I get it right then tell me when you get the darn box, and say thanks for the wretched contents.

Generali

Hmm. If you don't say you're cross how's he supposed to know? My Mum had a similar complaint and now we send confirmation of receipt.

It's very hard to explain to non-parents just how little time parents have. I had far, far more time and energy working 8-6 or 7 at UBS without kids than I do working 9-5 over here. Stuff like Thank You letters go out of the window these days unfortunately.

bugslet

Doozergirl wrote: »

In that case, you will like this:
http://rupertfawcettsdoggyblog.tumblr.com

Well that kept me away from some invoicing:D

lir, a friend of mine had children, I bought presents, toys and clothing, two years of not getting a thank you and that was it, I stopped giving. it's pretty clear cut to me, but I'm probably a bit more straightforward about things like that than most.:o

Edit: having seen Gen's post, in my case we would talk on the phone and I didn't get a thank you. I know parents are busy, I never required a big letter, just a text which only takes a minute or a mention next time we spoke.

lostinrates

Generali wrote: »

Hmm. If you don't say you're cross how's he supposed to know? My Mum had a similar complaint and now we send confirmation of receipt.

It's very hard to explain to non-parents just how little time parents have. I had far, far more time and energy working 8-6 or 7 at UBS without kids than I do working 9-5 over here. Stuff like Thank You letters go out of the window these days unfortunately.

bugslet wrote: »

Well that kept me away from some invoicing:D

lir, a friend of mine had children, I bought presents, toys and clothing, two years of not getting a thank you and that was it, I stopped giving. it's pretty clear cut to me, but I'm probably a bit more straightforward about things like that than most.:o

Edit: having seen Gen's post, in my case we would talk on the phone and I didn't get a thank you. I know parents are busy, I never required a big letter, just a text which only takes a minute or a mention next time we spoke.

Gen we're not expecting a letter ( nor do we expect nor receive anything in return ) but a text? An email?


Fwiw though, my parents always managed thank you letters, as did others in their generation, as do many others since. I managed it when I had my nieces...( when they were tiny and they lived with me a while) while my nieces were exhausting they were not the busiest I have ever been. I am afraid it is hard to explain to this household that kids make you busier than any one else. More exhausted very probably, busier...I don't agree. I think its modern living that makes the letter seem out dated to many......but the acknowledgement in any sense? A phone call. Email or text? They are possible to fit in IMO.

How they are supposed to know?

Well....the socially correct overtures have so far been...

Are we getting the right things? ( I.e, you aren't acknowledging with enthusiasm, is this because we're getting the wrong stuff, tell us where we are going wrong so you can be pleased with the package and then say thanks genuinely)



You parcel should arrive within five days, they seem to be taking a while to come, please tell us when it arrives.


Did your parcel arrive? Oh good, it was just you being rude again, buck up. ( fir to brother in October)


Bugs, we'd be happy with a phone/ FaceTime acknowledgement or indeed, we're we giving the gift real time a warm 'thank you very much ' on receipt is fine.

We received a super gift this weekend that we open after the gift givers had departed, we texted thanks for it while settling down engrossed in it on both our laps together.

Generali

lostinrates wrote: »

Gen we're not expecting a letter ( nor do we expect nor receive anything in return ) but a text? An email?


Fwiw though, my parents always managed thank you letters, as did others in their generation, as do many others since. I managed it when I had my nieces...( when they were tiny and they lived with me a while) while my nieces were exhausting they were not the busiest I have ever been. I am afraid it is hard to explain to this household that kids make you busier than any one else. More exhausted very probably, busier...I don't agree. I think its modern living that makes the letter seem out dated to many......but the acknowledgement in any sense? A phone call. Email or text? They are possible to fit in IMO.

How they are supposed to know?

Well....the socially correct overtures have so far been...

Are we getting the right things? ( I.e, you aren't acknowledging with enthusiasm, is this because we're getting the wrong stuff, tell us where we are going wrong so you can be pleased with the package and then say thanks genuinely)



You parcel should arrive within five days, they seem to be taking a while to come, please tell us when it arrives.


Did your parcel arrive? Oh good, it was just you being rude again, buck up. ( fir to brother in October)


Bugs, we'd be happy with a phone/ FaceTime acknowledgement or indeed, we're we giving the gift real time a warm 'thank you very much ' on receipt is fine.

We received a super gift this weekend that we open after the gift givers had departed, we texted thanks for it while settling down engrossed in it on both our laps together.

Ah, well you didn't say all that first time around (or maybe you did and I missed it).

Perhaps you need to be directer with him. Maybe he's being a jerk.

Wheezy_2

Sorry to hear about big dog, lir. Wishing you lots of strength and sending hugs.


Come on Mas, give us the good news about the job.

GDB2222

lostinrates wrote: »

Minor moral dilemma.

I am imagining this is more a stick up our bottoms childless old fashion couple complaint.


Bil and his family have made no acknowledgement of last three gifts sent. We don't expect thank you letters, just a text even.....'gift arrived, Thanks!' Would be sufficient. I've asked for guidance on what's wanted so I don't get it wrong. Last Christmas was right, b'day was right....I know because fir as asked....Has your box arrived or do we need to chase the mail company. Primarily he's asked in case we need exactly to chase the delivery company.

Just sending the gifts can cost a lot ( £47:50 or something for this Christmases because I couldn't reasonably breakdown the box into two boxes, its been a bit less and a bit more) and I'm feeling a bit grumpy that they cannot say 'its arrived'. It was sent on a five day delivery. I know post that end can be a bit cranky, its now had two weeks. It should be there, if not I want to chase it up.


I really do not want to ask/ have fir ask again to get a, 'oh yes, thanks!' reply...which somehow seems different to me than the one line initiating text' its here, thanks'.


I'm seriously feeling like not sending anything else. However, I am also aware that this might be misplaced cross ness from other family relationships and perhaps we're just being uptight about poor manners. Fir suggested this morning we simply don't initiate contact with them, wait for them to contact us, and if they don't he might think in the new year about writing to his brother explaining why he's not minded to send gifts, and that he can only presume our gifts are making them uncomfortable or are unwanted. I suggested a less antagonistic why not ask your father for advice...but he says its between his brother and him ( or our two families) and nothing to do with his father.

I think this is funny. I'm usually more for the direct approach, but you see, I'd call and say....what's going on, this is making me feel a bit awkward, and frankly brother dear, its a bit rude......tell me what I'm doing wrong so I get it right then tell me when you get the darn box, and say thanks for the wretched contents.

It's simple. Include a reply card in the box. With a few simple tick boxes.

Well packed, or not.
Arrived on time, or not.
Next time, please include the receipt, so we can exchange for something we actually want.
Comment on size, colour etc.
Overall star rating.

That sort of thing. And, possibly a hint that acknowledgement would be appreciated. It's definitely, definitely not worth a falling out over.

lostinrates

GDB2222 wrote: »

It's simple. Include a reply card in the box. With a few simple tick boxes.

Well packed, or not.
Arrived on time, or not.
Next time, please include the receipt, so we can exchange for something we actually want.
Comment on size, colour etc.
Overall star rating.

That sort of thing. And, possibly a hint that acknowledgement would be appreciated. It's definitely, definitely not worth a falling out over.

Such a brilliant idea!

Funnily getting point across!

Thank you, will do this!


Receipts no good, as its going to US.

But I really love this idea and I think it would definitely be worth laughing over! Thank you, this is inspired!

Generali

lostinrates wrote: »

Such a brilliant idea!

Funnily getting point across!

Thank you, will do this!


Receipts no good, as its going to US.

But I really love this idea and I think it would definitely be worth laughing over! Thank you, this is inspired!

If in doubt ask a Belgian penguin