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My hair is very fine and I use my tangle teezer, which I find very effective.
Thanks. Will get one for her.
Yay! That is progress. Please allow yourself to feel good about it. :TWell, I have zipped up my documents as they are and sent them off in an email. It is not the email I was hoping to send, but it's not worth worrying about that now. I will send another email first thing on Monday.
No victory dances here. But I did bite the bullet and send an email.HAMISH_MCTAVISH wrote: »Because my role is measured by results and not number of hours at work.
You work until the work is done. Hours and days have no meaning.
If the CEO throws you a project you work 18-20 hours a day and 7 days a week until it's done if that's what's required.
If you work 20 hours a day, you need at least half an hour a day for miscellaneous activities such as eating, washing, getting dressed/undressed, travelling to/from places. That leaves 3.5 hours for sleep. Which is perfectly possible as a one off, but for most people doing that 7 days a week is not an effective way to produce good work, or indeed to work efficiently.Do you know anyone who's bereaved? Point them to https://www.AtaLoss.org which does for bereavement support what MSE does for financial services, providing links to support organisations relevant to the circumstances of the loss & the local area. (Link permitted by forum team)
Tyre performance in the wet deteriorates rapidly below about 3mm tread - change yours when they get dangerous, not just when they are nearly illegal (1.6mm).
Oh, and wear your seatbelt. My kids are only alive because they were wearing theirs when somebody else was driving in wet weather with worn tyres.
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lostinrates wrote: »No. And they failed to bring me a replacement docket ( last week they brought be back one weeks worth on the basis that changes to script might be made to allow drug change, and they were. They are now saying they cannot get hold of that one either.
The docket they brought me ran out today I think.
:mad::mad::mad::mad::mad:My Dad would appear to have had a prostate issue for the past couple of years and has a 3 + 4. His treatment options are pretty grim and leaving it alone doesn't appear to be an option (as that is what he has been doing) as he cannot urinate at all. He has a catheter.
Being an academic he has researched his treatment options and has confidence in his consultant at UCL so I am less worried about how he copes. He is realistic with himself about living for a further 2 -3 years. He has been weighing up the choices of quality of life against quantity if life. The impotence issue is a big deal to him even though he is 82....though I guess it would be at any age really.
Sending hugs. There are several of us on here who know how grim it is when a parent is going downhill. We are here for you whenever you need us.
The impotence thing reminds me that when my dad had his operated on several years ago, I was much amused by my mum telling me that he hadn't got any side effects from the procedure, with both of us very carefully making no mention of what exactly the side effect might have been.MIL is a total nightmare at the moment and I am not getting involved this time as her neediness and poor life choices have run their course with me. I feel bad writing it down but it's how I feel (OH is fully in agreement but it is his Mother so he has no choice but to get dragged in to all her dramas.
Good for you. I have a friend with a mother who makes constant demands and is never happy with anything that my friend does for her. I keep trying to tell her to say no more often. I don't think her mother would be any more dissatisfied than she is under the current set-up, and my friend might not be so emotionally depleted and indeed physically not very well.My mother seems to be ticking over nicely now and I hope the template of her op can be now made available to younger people with her condition. No sign of a tumour coming back, the new bile ducts are all working well and living with 45% of a liver seems to be fine.
Glad you have good news about one family member, anyway. Here's hoping things continue going well for her.So not worth it if you have kids...imho
I wouldn't do it even if I didn't have kids. People are all different, though. The NPT has been my first experience of knowing people who choose to work in that kind of job. Initially I thought they must be nuts, but as I've got to know various NP, I've learnt to see it in the same light as other choices where other people have different preferences from mine.Do you know anyone who's bereaved? Point them to https://www.AtaLoss.org which does for bereavement support what MSE does for financial services, providing links to support organisations relevant to the circumstances of the loss & the local area. (Link permitted by forum team)
Tyre performance in the wet deteriorates rapidly below about 3mm tread - change yours when they get dangerous, not just when they are nearly illegal (1.6mm).
Oh, and wear your seatbelt. My kids are only alive because they were wearing theirs when somebody else was driving in wet weather with worn tyres.0 -
If you work 20 hours a day, you need at least half an hour a day for.....
If you work 20 hours in a day you work more or less non stop, eat at home office desk, sleep 4 hours, wake up and do it all over again.
Since I last posted I've completed 3 spreadsheets and a powerpoint presentation. I'll be in bed by 3 and up at 7 and do the same again tomorrow. I do take toilet breaks and nuke some food in there somewhere.
It's not productive over the long haul, but needs must when there's a deadline on.The NPT has been my first experience of knowing people who choose to work in that kind of job. Initially I thought they must be nuts, but as I've got to know various NP, I've learnt to see it in the same light as other choices where other people have different preferences from mine.
No, I think we probably are nuts....
It's only in recent years that I realised such patterns are a bit abnormal. It's all I've ever known, and I used to assume people that didn't work that way were slackers or lacked ambition.
TBH the NPT has made me see things a bit differently.“The great enemy of the truth is very often not the lie – deliberate, contrived, and dishonest – but the myth, persistent, persuasive, and unrealistic.
Belief in myths allows the comfort of opinion without the discomfort of thought.”
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HAMISH_MCTAVISH wrote: »If you work 20 hours in a day you work more or less non stop, eat at home office desk, sleep 4 hours, wake up and do it all over again.
Since I last posted I've completed 3 spreadsheets and a powerpoint presentation. I'll be in bed by 3 and up at 7 and do the same again tomorrow. I do take toilet breaks and nuke some food in there somewhere.
It's not productive over the long haul, but needs must when there's a deadline on.
My half hour came from an estimate like this:
Putting clothes on in morning 2min
Taking clothes off to go to bed 2min
Shower 4min
Brushing teeth 2 x 2min
Toilet breaks 5 x 2min
Nuking food 2 x 3min
Making coffee to stay awake 2min
Total 30 min, assuming desk within a few seconds' walk of the bed, and spouse and/or domestic staff doing everything.
I suspect that because the toilet breaks and food nuking and so on are only very brief interruptions to the work, you were thinking more along the lines of "I have been awake for 20 hours and basically done nothing but work so I have worked 20 hours." Easy to get different answers if you're working from different (but both valid) definitions.HAMISH_MCTAVISH wrote: »No, I think we probably are nuts....
It's only in recent years that I realised such patterns are a bit abnormal. It's all I've ever known, and I used to assume people that didn't work that way were slackers or lacked ambition.
Well, if you admit being nuts, I'm happy to admit lacking ambition. I did have some ambition once. It went to sleep when I had my kids, and died altogether, I think, when our lives fell apart over the whole LNE saga. I find I don't miss it.HAMISH_MCTAVISH wrote: »TBH the NPT has made me see things a bit differently.
The NPT makes a lot of us see things a bit differently. It's one of the things I love about it. Do you know anyone who's bereaved? Point them to https://www.AtaLoss.org which does for bereavement support what MSE does for financial services, providing links to support organisations relevant to the circumstances of the loss & the local area. (Link permitted by forum team)
Tyre performance in the wet deteriorates rapidly below about 3mm tread - change yours when they get dangerous, not just when they are nearly illegal (1.6mm).
Oh, and wear your seatbelt. My kids are only alive because they were wearing theirs when somebody else was driving in wet weather with worn tyres.0 -
I went to check out the new Samsung virtual reality headset today which goes on sale on Monday over here. Blimmin flip it's good.0
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I suspect that because the toilet breaks and food nuking and so on are only very brief interruptions to the work, you were thinking more along the lines of "I have been awake for 20 hours and basically done nothing but work so I have worked 20 hours."
Quite.
Although if I did have 'domestic staff', that would make life rather more productive.
The NPT makes a lot of us see things a bit differently. It's one of the things I love about it.
Indeed.
And on that note, I'm off to pass out.“The great enemy of the truth is very often not the lie – deliberate, contrived, and dishonest – but the myth, persistent, persuasive, and unrealistic.
Belief in myths allows the comfort of opinion without the discomfort of thought.”
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HAMISH_MCTAVISH wrote: »Couldn't be done with kids unless your partner didn't work.
Too much travel, too many irregular hours, work has to come first.
Mrs McT does a similar job to me at a similar level. So no chance.
I've had a similar problem for years in finance. It's a job that can't be done 9-5 and it's unpredictable when the late nights will be.
I'm also simply fed up with working in an industry where ripping off clients is the normal way to do business. Fund managers all know that they're highly unlikely to outperform the market for extended periods and that their clients will lose after fees vs index fundsyet mmaintain the lie year after year.
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It's another total fire ban day today. No solid fuel fires to be lit including bbqs. No using power tools that create sparks. No smoking in bush areas. You can use a gas bbq but you have to stay with it at all times and have a way to put out a fire if you start one.
It's going to be 34C with lightning including dry strikes and 90kph winds. There's a big fire burning in the mountains just outside a fair sized town called Katoomba. Google the 3 Sisters: it's the iconic view in the Blue Mountains.
How very sad. The 3 Sisters are lovely and taking the cable car the view is spectacular. But it is all very wooded and a bit one road in, one road out. I can see the potential for huge devastation to the native animals. Katoomba is a beautiful little town too, but lots of little wooden houses iirc.I've had a similar problem for years in finance. It's a job that can't be done 9-5 and it's unpredictable when the late nights will be.
I'm also simply fed up with working in an industry where ripping off clients is the normal way to do business. Fund managers all know that they're highly unlikely to outperform the market for extended periods and that their clients will lose after fees vs index fundsyet mmaintain the lie year after year.
Had enough of it.
Isn't the market moving away from that? Having been charged for years for active funds that only moved ahead of the pack part of the time, we've moved to vanilla passive offerings instead, they perform more or less the same but with significantly lower fees. I think a lot of pensions do the same. Though there are I guess lots of new vehicles to take our money instead, such as liability driven investments.Please stay safe in the sun and learn the A-E of melanoma: A = asymmetry, B = irregular borders, C= different colours, D= diameter, larger than 6mm, E = evolving, is your mole changing? Most moles are not cancerous, any doubts, please check next time you visit your GP.
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HAMISH_MCTAVISH wrote: »If you work 20 hours in a day you work more or less non stop, eat at home office desk, sleep 4 hours, wake up and do it all over again.
Since I last posted I've completed 3 spreadsheets and a powerpoint presentation. I'll be in bed by 3 and up at 7 and do the same again tomorrow. I do take toilet breaks and nuke some food in there somewhere.
It's not productive over the long haul, but needs must when there's a deadline on.
No, I think we probably are nuts....
It's only in recent years that I realised such patterns are a bit abnormal. It's all I've ever known, and I used to assume people that didn't work that way were slackers or lacked ambition.
TBH the NPT has made me see things a bit differently.
Hamish, please take care of yourself. I used to have a job like that. After one very long project with long hours I burned out. When I went back to work I was seen as the weak one. Eventually I left and it felt a bit like leaving a cult. I then went on to another co, worked similar hours but somehow was less pressured. It's not just the hours you work, but the pressure and the group dynamic. Swimming in a shark tank is no fun.Please stay safe in the sun and learn the A-E of melanoma: A = asymmetry, B = irregular borders, C= different colours, D= diameter, larger than 6mm, E = evolving, is your mole changing? Most moles are not cancerous, any doubts, please check next time you visit your GP.
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vivatifosi wrote: »How very sad. The 3 Sisters are lovely and taking the cable car the view is spectacular. But it is all very wooded and a bit one road in, one road out. I can see the potential for huge devastation to the native animals. Katoomba is a beautiful little town too, but lots of little wooden houses iirc.
Isn't the market moving away from that? Having been charged for years for active funds that only moved ahead of the pack part of the time, we've moved to vanilla passive offerings instead, they perform more or less the same but with significantly lower fees. I think a lot of pensions do the same. Though there are I guess lots of new vehicles to take our money instead, such as liability driven investments.
The market is moving away from that model but fund managers are desperately trying to stop that money moving into low cost passive funds.
You can invest in my Aussie Core Equity fund for 1% or you can invest in the Vanguard S&P 500 ETF for .07%. 3 questions:
1. Which has better net returns
2. Which pays more commission
3. Which do you think a fund adviser will recommend?0
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