The envy of people

Caterina

Post deleted, please see first post. Thank you.

GreyQueen

alice_kate wrote: »

Ahhh this is the story of my life today

OH's friends are treating OH so badly due to their jealousy around our situation - I don't know what to say to him really as all of his 'good' friends have just been completely uninterested/rude since we started doing more 'grown up' stuff - not one mention of anyone being happy for us!

Sorry for the mini rant lol I am just stressed with it all and how badly they are treating him and today it's gotten worse!

It's a wicked shame that people can't be happy for you and your OH.

Being settled and steady by your early twenties used to be the norm. Gordon Bennett, my parents had been married and had both of us kids by the time they were 24, as had most of their peers and this group are racking up their golden weddings about now.

These days, there seems to be an idea that adolescent behaviour should continue into your mid-thirties or you're somehow losing out on life. I've heard the idea of 'clubable life' expressed in how many years you can stomach night-clubbing and bar-hopping etc. I think my clubable life was probably about 10 mins in the early 1980s. You couldn't pay me enough to get me into one of those ghastly places for the past 25 years - ick. If you have to be s$*t-faced to enjoy something it's obviously not actually enjoyable, is it?

I think these 'mates' of your OH are just jealous of what you have.

Please don't let them bring down your happiness and contentment. You may have to look for some additional friends elsewhere, or run with a slightly-older crowd who are more stable in their lives. The idea of an OS meet sounds fantastic, go for it.

fromtheshires

Quizzical_Squirrel wrote: »

it's probably because those other people worked equally hard, were equally economical but they just didn't get the breaks.

We tell ourselves that we became wealthy because of our actions, because we were special but most of the time it was because we were lucky enough to have the opportunities denied to most.

I agree a lot with this comment. My OH has just switched jobs as his manager took him along with her. Net result £17,000 pay rise for doing the same job. Thats almost my yearly salary.

He did the same with his previous job (the one he has just left) where his manager took him over (notice a pattern here...) and it netted him nearly £10k pay rise then.

I am ironically the saver an manage to save my money but I have a massive spreadsheet open of all his debts and slowly getting them paid off.

To the OP, ignore the others who bad mouth you or make comments. Even though I am not earning a lot, others think that I am loaded as both my parents work part time (paid mtge off in their early 40's) and i don't have a credit card / over draft, yet one person has spent nearly £4k on their garden to be landscaped as they got bored of it.

Horses for courses and let them say what they want

alice_kate_2

Thanks so much for all the kind comments everyone! I think it is just difficult when your so called friends aren't happy for you! I am very proud of what we have achieved

Meet up sounds interesting! Are they often?

It actually makes me feel so much better knowing that there are supportive and like minded people about so thanks everyone