my ex says he earns £156 a week.....

pugsley29

rang the helpline and they said there is enough evidence for a re-assessment

frugallass

since my initial posting, the NRP eventually offered to pay me £50 a week - still makes me wonder how he can afford to do that with his £156 weekly wages and not forgetting his two week holiday in the Dominican Republic, with 'premier seats' on the flights :rolleyes:

Here's my dilemma....

CSA assessed him as having to pay me £15 a week

He offered to pay me £50 a week but in an unofficial capacity - ie not through CSA (which I accepted of course)

His payments can be quite erratic, for instance I haven't had any money paid into the account this week (he's spending it in the Dominican Republic no doubt) and I'm tempted to ask for a review from the CSA

Will the CSA tell him that I've requested a review or will he just think it's procedure?

djdeckstar

i booted my ex husband out after i found out he slept with some one else when he left he paid 80 per week for our 3 kids within 2 weeks he had met someone off the internet and movedd 200 miles away from the kids and as soon as he left he stopped paying he left his job and hasnt had a job since hes married the women of the inetrnet and sees the kids max 2 times a year2 to 4 weeks in summer and xmas every other year he still dont pay any thing for them when i ask for help with school trips and stuff for kids he says he can affored it yet his partner works full time and her kids get every thing he says ours aint treated different from hers but they are her kids got psps for xmas mine got a rug and clock and a bratz trampoline that is to young for her

Smiley_Mum

Split from my boys' father after DV, CSA did take payments off him initially but he quit his job to stop payments and hasn't paid anything for several years. Despite him working in a decent job and his other half working too he's in a whole pile of debt and I'd say I'm probably in a better financial situation than he is. Blood/stone etc.

Banana23

frugallass wrote: »

since my initial posting, the NRP eventually offered to pay me £50 a week - still makes me wonder how he can afford to do that with his £156 weekly wages and not forgetting his two week holiday in the Dominican Republic, with 'premier seats' on the flights :rolleyes:

Here's my dilemma....

CSA assessed him as having to pay me £15 a week

He offered to pay me £50 a week but in an unofficial capacity - ie not through CSA (which I accepted of course)

His payments can be quite erratic, for instance I haven't had any money paid into the account this week (he's spending it in the Dominican Republic no doubt) and I'm tempted to ask for a review from the CSA

Will the CSA tell him that I've requested a review or will he just think it's procedure?

I was in the same boat and I accepted the £25 the CSA said he should pay by direct pay (from him to myself). As he is selfemployed he said he'll make it extremely difficult if I ask him to pay through the CSA. As we all know, the CSA has extreme difficulties taking money off self employed people. Of course he'd pay with two or 3 months delay...So off I trotted to the CSA again and ask them to do a review. So they did (and contacted him) and now he apparently earns £256 a week and he pays just over £100 a month. That's more like it.
Then last week I asked him what days if any he'd take our daughter during school holidays. He replied as follows: "As the CSA has gone up due to your whinging I wont be able to take (our daughter) in school holidays and will not provide pay for anything else like a school uniform etc"
So the answer is: Yes he'll know. (BTW I pay for the school uniforms myself and always have done).
Needless to say, he should have payed the higher amount from February onwards - I still haven't received a penny. When I rung CSA they said to me they'll send him a reminder letter and now have more powers to get the payment. Might be so if he was working for an employer. But I think with him being selfemployed it becomes increasingly difficult as they can 'cook the books' (that was the reason I've created a petition - so that the CSA on not the PWC proves that the NRP's lifestyle doesn't match his declared earnings).

But still my advice is, go ahead and ask for a review. At least then everything will be on record. He'll be angry either way. You're child has a right to that money.

Loretta

Why don't your write him a letter saying you know he is lying about his money and you think that his employer is helping him. Say you know that to get his mortgage he claimed he was earning far more. Explain that he is either lying about his income to either you or the mortgage company and that in 14 days time you will start creating as much agro for him and his employer as you can. Send a copy to his employer and write a list of the people you will send a copy of this letter to at the end of the 14 days ie Inland revenue etc

He then has a choice to be honest or he knows the consequences, the choice will be his

pastabake

Hi im new here and i have been reading the thread from the start, i was wondering if i could get some advice on this thread or if i need to post a new topic , thanks for any help .

Loopy_Girl

pastabake wrote: »

Hi im new here and i have been reading the thread from the start, i was wondering if i could get some advice on this thread or if i need to post a new topic , thanks for any help .

Hello and welcome :hello:

If it was me then I would just start a new thread...saves folk trawling through pages to get to you really :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

pugsley29

getting more money this month as it has been reassessed

just keep trying and don't give up

Sandy x