my ex says he earns £156 a week.....

dorry_2

hi fruglass, :wave:


my hubby works for tax office. you should definetly report this, not only is he fiddling you, but he won't be paying the correct amount of tax either:mad: why sould all of us pay the right amount and he gets away with it!!???? i have paying £100 a week tax!!! :eek:

get on to tax offices asap and tell them, they will investitage:rotfl:

good luck x

Acehole_2

Well she probably hates you for leaving for another Woman, screwing up the family unit. If I were her, I'd screw you over tooI agree she would be unhappy at my leaving but as with all relationships there are 2 sides to every story, i wasnt happy, and this cascaded to the kids.was it right for me to stay for another 10 years until the kids grew up? maybe, maybe not. I chose to leave. I left her not the children and we have them half the time each. I dont think trying to finacially punish me for the rest of the children growing up is right. As i asked, when is enough, enough.

TheWaltons_3

Acehole wrote: »

Well she probably hates you for leaving for another Woman, screwing up the family unit. If I were her, I'd screw you over tooI agree she would be unhappy at my leaving but as with all relationships there are 2 sides to every story, i wasnt happy, and this cascaded to the kids.was it right for me to stay for another 10 years until the kids grew up? maybe, maybe not. I chose to leave. I left her not the children and we have them half the time each. I dont think trying to finacially punish me for the rest of the children growing up is right. As i asked, when is enough, enough.

Well you did the right thing by the children by signing the house over and paying her good money, and I suppose she sees you as a soft touch.

Are you through the CSA or not?

On the new system you may be better off.

Acehole_2

didnt go through the CSA, perhaps I should have looking back, and yes there maybe an element of guilt on my part for leaving. the kids that is, not her.I just think sometimes the books need balancing a little more equally for men and women, I can see why a chap wouldnt want to give his money to a lazy cow, sponger, who has another man, but his children should still come first

Banana23

frugallass wrote: »

my ex has paid me £20 a week for at least the last 6 years and refused to increase his payments to me - I contacted the CSA in the hope that the payments would increase to something a bit more realistic, they came back to me and said that his net income is £156 a week.......therefore assessing him as only having to pay me £15 a week

1. He is employed as a bricklayer (a good one at that)
2. He has a 3 bed house (with mortgage)
3. He owns a new Ford Focus ST
4. He recently moved his (latest) girlfriend and her three kids into the house
5. He sees our 15 year old daughter approx twice a year (we were never married)

I have good reason to believe that his employer has "fiddled" his wages so that the CSA think he is on a rubbish wage

What do the CSA do when a decision is appealed, do they check the NRP's wages again?

I'm going to contact the inland revenue and inform them that I believe that his employer has "fiddled" his wage slips and ask that they be investigated

I can't believe that he would do this, at the end of the day his daughter suffers, her school lunches alone cost me £10 a week

I'm very tempted to stop him seeing her until he has applied for and obtained legal parental responsibility - she has spent the last 3 weeks at his house, and she told me her dad took 5 days off work to be with her, whereas his girlfriend took two weeks off her work !

Has anyone else had a similar experience?

Any advice would really be gratefully received - thank you x

I can absolutely sympathise with you! My ex pays £6.43 a week for our daughter.
He's a self employed plasterer, has a van for working, was able to re-mortgage his house and bought a 1 year old Audi TT a few months ago. Yet he declared to the CSA that he earns less than £100 a week! He tries everything to get out of paying, because - just like Master 666 - he thinks he is paying for me (well some people are just born thick, it's not really their fault ).
I've rung the CSA several times and they replied repeatedly that it needs to be me the pwc who proves that he's lying. Yeah, I got no problem doing that however, the csa will then take this statement and show it him first so he can defend himself. I haven't got a problem with him defending himself but the csa doesn't realise that this will just cause a much bigger rift between all of us! If I have well grounded suspicsiouns, then it should be the CSA who assess the nrp and prove that he declared his income falsly! Unfortunately a depature can only be done if their valuables total over 60K.
So I've created a petition for all the pwc's (and other people who support my opinion) who are in the same position.

http://petitions.pm.gov.uk/selfemployednrps/

I hope a lot of people will support me (Master, don't you go and jump the queue!!:rotfl:)
Please don't forget, if you sign, you'll get an email in which you have to verify your signature again, otherwise it doesn't count.

FRUGALLASS, I wish you the best of luck, let's hope he'll get done by the tax people and will have the pleasure of sharing a cell with Master!! :beer:

aussiesbird

I have signed your petition Banana23 and am very happy to support you. I sympathise with your situation and wish you the best of luck in getting your ex found out and made to pay what he should be.

Banana23

:T You're a star! Hope your situation gets sorted equally !!!

TheWaltons_3

lmfao @ Banana's comment

MASTER 666

looby75

Acehole wrote: »

I agree she would be unhappy at my leaving but as with all relationships there are 2 sides to every story, i wasnt happy, and this cascaded to the kids.was it right for me to stay for another 10 years until the kids grew up? maybe, maybe not. I chose to leave. I left her not the children and we have them half the time each. I dont think trying to finacially punish me for the rest of the children growing up is right. As i asked, when is enough, enough.

Maybe if you had had the decency to end one relationship before starting another you ex might see you as a decent human and treat you with a bit of respect. As it is you made your bed, now lie in it.

kelloggs36

Acehole wrote: »

got to larf at some of this ...I left my wife for another women 5 years ago, we have 2 children,I left with only the cloths on my back. I signed the house over to her, left with 10 grand credit card dept, and gave her 700 pounds a month out of my 1400 for the kids, and I lived in a caravan,I have them on a monday, wednesday, and every other weekend.She still believes I should give her more money ? and buy the kids cloths. she now has another bloke and is engaged to him, how much is enough for some women ? ps yes she does work too

If what you say is true then you are paying over the odds as by law you should be paying 20% of your net income not 50% as you claim to be paying. In your situation I would be paying the 20% and telling her where to go when she asks for more!!! Oh, and you should also have a 3/7 reduction out of that 20% for the shared care. Her new fiance is, however, irrelevant to this situation - the children aren't his and he should not be expected to make any financial contribution - although most do anyway as they are part of the same household.