Opinions please.

raven83

missbiggles1 wrote: »

As posted earlier, your parents' ashes will stay in the same place, it's just the plaque that's moving.

From what I can gather is that they will dig it up to make way for someone elses ashes, so although it is just the plaque moving it will probably be dug over.

Errata

I'm trying to put this as delicately as possible. If the ashes were simply loose buried in the ground they'll have been shifted around by worms etc and there may be very little left in the original position now.
If they're in an urn you can ask for it to be returned to you.

downshifted

When our baby son died we paid the crematorium, first for 5 years, and then, for a larger fee, for the buried ashes (in an urn) and a plaque to be maintained in perpetuity. Truth is, I don't think they maintain it well - last time we went (many miles from where we live now) the plaque was very tarnished. However, for me, Ben isn't there - he is still in my heart 23 years later.

My mum's ashes are buried in a cemetery, but we have never paid for a memorial, I have her photo in my bedroom (near to Ben's) and think of both of them often.

I think it is just a question of what matters most to you, Raven, and how they would wish to be remembered. Best wishes, whatever you do - but remember, life is for the living xx

themull1

downshifted wrote: »

When our baby son died we paid the crematorium, first for 5 years, and then, for a larger fee, for the buried ashes (in an urn) and a plaque to be maintained in perpetuity. Truth is, I don't think they maintain it well - last time we went (many miles from where we live now) the plaque was very tarnished. However, for me, Ben isn't there - he is still in my heart 23 years later.

My mum's ashes are buried in a cemetery, but we have never paid for a memorial, I have her photo in my bedroom (near to Ben's) and think of both of them often.

I think it is just a question of what matters most to you, Raven, and how they would wish to be remembered. Best wishes, whatever you do - but remember, life is for the living xx

I'm so sorry for your loss,x