Bowel cancer, stoma, illestomy bags, my journey with my fathers illness
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So sorry to hear the news. Take care of yourself.Lost my soulmate so life is empty.
I can bear pain myself, he said softly, but I couldna bear yours. That would take more strength than I have -
Diana Gabaldon, Outlander0 -
So sorry to hear your news. Thinking of you all xx0
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I'm so sorry to hear he has passed away. You must all be in a complete state of shock and disbelief right now.
My thoughts are with you and your family at this difficult time.
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I'm so sorry to hear your sad news.
I must say that you have been amazing throughout this sad journey, I cannot believe how strong you appear even though I'm sure you are devastated and all churned up inside. Just think of all the lovely memories you all made in Dad's last few months - they will be with you always.
I know life will be very busy for a few weeks now but please please make time to rest, eat properly and have some time for yourself.
Also in due course give some thought to what you would like to do 'next'. This sounds odd but I'm going through similar at the mo. I was my Mum's carer for 2 years until she died 8 weeks ago. At first I was busy sorting everything out but now most things are dealt with and I find myself without a purpose in life! Looking after Mum was almost a full time job for me, luckily I'm retired. it was an honour to help her live her last years in her own flat five minutes from me. But now, I have no structure to my day, no routine of popping to Mum's, her shopping, housework etc. Theoretically I'm free to do whatever takes my fancy, but practically I can't get my act together and make use of my time ! I find myself on Internet forums for hours a day, grooming the cat and having an afternoon nap. And eating chocolate !
I know it will gradually fall into place but I do feel anxious at the mo.
Best wishes
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EricsMum - so sorry about your mum, it sounds like you did so much to help mum remain independant,
I feel lost 2ngt, mums taking it better than I thought, I dont think it has sunk it, DD is taking it bad, weve had to have 999 ambulance earlier, she had a massive panic attack.
Mums got ill health, we always thought she would be the one to go before Dad, got the dog, so DD took over walkies, I've been the organiser.
xxxx rip dad... we had our ups and downs but we’re always be family xx0 -
It feels odd in a way with this thread although I have my thread etc I feel that this is / was dads thread, although we have lost him and with the coroner being involved, all up in the air , I going to keep this thread going , document where we are what's happening,xx rip dad... we had our ups and downs but we’re always be family xx0
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After yesterday were all in shock not really sunk in, dd has taken it worst, she had some bad panic attacks we had to have an ambulance at one stage,
Slowly working through the list of letting family and friends know, with the family we've spoken to one person and asked them to contact the rest of the family,
Practical note - were in limbo, spoke to the car ins company the car is still insured im a named driver, we always had each other as 2nd driver, help for a bit as mum struggles with my car getting in and out, my mum is disabled as well,
Music, we've told to choose two songs for going in and out crem, mum suggested ur never walk alone, while its a great song I always attribute it to Liverpool fans, he was a spurs fan, he liked country and western and the seekers next work in planning,
Sure before the end of the day there be something else xx
We've got through the day, popped to supermarket, and saw about 6 different people, luckly they knew, it was easier, on way home saw a couple of neighbours down the road - it hit them bad.
DD - Shes had a lot better day, shes mowed the grass, her friend came up so theyve taken the dog for a walk. xxxx rip dad... we had our ups and downs but we’re always be family xx0 -
So very sorry to read your Dad has finally lost his fight . It must comfort you all that he was at home with those he loved and over the last few months you all got to make new memories .
Sending warm hugs to you , your Mam and your daughter . Hope the school situation sorts out . Look after yourself love and hold your memories in your heart .
polly xxxIt is better to light a single candle than to curse the darkness.
There but for fortune go you and I.0 -
Sorry for your loss x0
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I am very sorry for your loss, not been following the thread closely but wanted to give my condolences.Music, we've told to choose two songs for going in and out crem, mum suggested ur never walk alone, while its a great song I always attribute it to Liverpool fans, he was a spurs fan, he liked country and western and the seekers
However, I also skimmed wikipedia for a list of Seekers songs, and there are several there which might be more to your taste. At the risk of making you cry (which maybe isn't a bad thing), there's 'I'll never find another you', and several 'hymns'. Depends what you want, of course.
I've just had to look at the orders of service for both Dad and Mum: it looks as if Mum vetoed too many spurs references for Dad, although I think we had the organist play 'Oh when the Saints' as we left the church, but we actually sang the Battle Hymn at Mum's.Signature removed for peace of mind0
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